to think that my friend's wrong about me being a bad sister?

(29 Posts)
PurpleStorm Sat 02-Feb-13 18:05:19

Bit of background -

My sister lives about 2 hours drive away from me, and has just had a DC. All went well and DSis and DN are both fine. Obviously, I'm very keen to go and see DSis and the new baby.

Unfortunately, my DS has been very ill this last week with a very bad cold. Ill enough for the GP to be suggesting it might be the onset of measles and to be asking if I knew what meningitis rash looked like, and ill enough for the GP to get us to bring DS back into the surgery after a few hours to check how he was responding to the medicine she'd prescribed (luckily it was just a bad cold, and he's now much better).

I've now got cold symptoms, so I think that I've caught DS's nasty cold from him. Because I really don't want to pass this on to a newborn baby, who'll have less immunity to these things than DS, I've told my sister that I'll wait till I've recovered before visiting. DSis seems fine with this.

However, I was talking to a friend, and told her all about DSis having the baby, and that I wasn't going to visit until I was better. Friend said that if it was her sister, she'd be going immediately because she's very close to her sister, and that I was being a bad sister for not going to visit. Friend is being very dismissive about the bad cold, and seems to think that I'm just making excuses to avoid a 4 hour round trip. To be fair, friend hasn't seen DS while he was ill so perhaps doesn't realise just how ill he was. But I'm still annoyed at my friend's attitude to this.

AIBU to be annoyed at my friend for telling me I'm being a bad sister? Because I don't think I am being a bad sister here.

motherinferior Sat 02-Feb-13 18:24:44

I'm quite sure your sister has other things on her mind, like her new baby, than whether you've been to see her! Your friend sounds as if she's more concerned with her own image as a Good Person than with reality.

Snog Sat 02-Feb-13 18:27:47

you are a good sister
your friend is a bad friend

PurpleStorm Sat 02-Feb-13 18:30:32

I think it's the way that friend said that she'd be going immediately to visit because she's very close to her sister that annoyed me most.

I was interpreting that as friend suggesting that I can't possibly be that close to DSis if I'm not rushing straight off to visit her. But perhaps I'm reading too much into this.

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sat 02-Feb-13 20:02:58

I think you are being very sensible. And definitely not U.
I think your friend was quite illogical, however close you are to someone, germ sharing a nasty cold with a newborn (and mum) is a bit U.

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