to take my 5 year old into changing rooms/toilets with me

(39 Posts)
youbethemummylion Fri 01-Feb-13 20:26:39

I take my 5 year old DS to Karate at a local sports centre on a weekday evening. Sometimes when we are short on time he has to get changed there, other times he just goes for a wee before the lesson starts.

Anyway this week I just took him into the female changing rooms to use the toilets as it is hard for him to get his belt off etc and also he does not like to go by himself into the mens he is a bit scared and shy I think.

There were a couple of young girls in there say about 7 years old getting chaged for gymnastics but we did not hang about just went round the corner where the toilets are then out so DS wasn't staring at them or anything.

Later on while DS was having his lesson I went into the reception area to read the notices etc one of the girls came up to me and said 'your little boy is a pervert cos he came into the girls toilets' I was quite shocked and said 'no he is too young to go into the mens by himself'. She just skipped off to her friend and they were laughing and sniggering looking over at me.

I can't decide wether to think that this little girl is just repeating things she has heard adults talking about etc or if maybe at this age DS should not be coming into female changing rooms/toilets with me?

jenniepanda Sat 02-Feb-13 12:13:38

Our leisure centre has notices all around that says children under 8 must be accompanied at all times in all areas. YANBU and in our centre I would have reported those rude girls for being without a parent/adult.

pigletmania Sat 02-Feb-13 13:38:35

What a rude and nasty little girl, I would have saud quite loudly yes he is only 5 and still a baby

HoHoHoNoYouDont Sat 02-Feb-13 13:46:55

There's no way I'd allow a five year old to go into public toilets alone. A pervert lurking might be rare but I'd probably be the statistic that encountered one!

mrsbunnylove Sat 02-Feb-13 15:03:27

five is not ok in the ladies, or in a changing room. it is too old. haven't you ever seen nasty little boys leering at women getting changed?

Dominodonkey Sat 02-Feb-13 15:56:20

haven't you ever seen nasty little boys leering at women getting changed?

No as they are 5!

Are you Sue Sylvester bunnylove? - You seem to want your girls attached to your breast until puberty on other threads but think little boys are perverts.

exoticfruits Sat 02-Feb-13 16:12:54

Of course he is alright at 5 yrs, but by 6 yrs he should be starting to manage in the right changing room/toilet.
To the person who said they had to change their 6 yr old-of course they don't! They go swimming in many schools in year 1 and of course they manage when they have to!

My one contribution. Not letting a NT 8 year old go into the appropriate gendered changing room or loo is seriously bonkers.

I think it had better be my one contribution too. You wish that all DSs stood up for themselves like my nephew and said 'I am a man you know' and just went -it is the only way to deal with over protective mothers! I am seriously surprised that 8yr olds put up with it-mine wouldn't.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Sat 02-Feb-13 16:21:55

mrsbunnylove. Do you have any dc? What age and gender are they?

Ds1 is 7.6 and we're preparing for him to change alone in the gents when he hits 8. It's more the lockers that are the issue rather than the changing tbh but when he first does it no doubt I'll be a bit anxious.

Ds2 is 4.7 and is no where near being ready to change and organise himself and his stuff independently.

What planet are you living on?!

Pixieonthemoor Sat 02-Feb-13 16:30:33

shock cheeky little baggage!!! How on earth does she think that it is ok to talk to an adult she doesn't know like that?? What did you say to her? I would have given her a piece of my mind and be on the look out for her parent and telling them how rude she had been.

Btw, YANBU - it's totally fine - he's only 5!!

5madthings Sat 02-Feb-13 16:37:26

The girl was probably dared by a friend? Anyway i would have told her not to be so silly and that your ds is only 5 and therfore needs a bit if help and is fine to.use the ladies toilets.

I agree with seeker and exotic that by age 7/8 a nt child should be able to.use the appropriate toilet for their gender.

exoticfruits Sat 02-Feb-13 17:38:54

Some little girls that age just like saying things like that-especially if dared by friends! She wanted a reaction-best not to give her one-just be totally bored and matter of fact.

exoticfruits Sat 02-Feb-13 17:40:10

Sorry-see that you had already said the right thing 5madthings-should read before posting.

lottie63 Sat 02-Feb-13 17:46:39

That she feels it was ok to even say that to a stranger us a bit.. Well.. Odd I think. It's fine unless you pick up on ds being uncomfy. Then I would find a toilet for him to change his clothes. I wouldnt be happy sending him alone to males changing room tbh

I have never seen a 5 year old (or an 8 year old for that matter) leering at women in changing rooms. My DS (just 9) has been using the mens toilets on his own for a year or so now, but 5 is too young to send them on their own, I know my DD (just 7) often had trouble with flush handles being too stiff for her to manage, also push taps until fairly recently.

Nanny0gg Sat 02-Feb-13 18:37:23

LOL! Dominodonkey

I was wondering that myself!

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