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about nursery taking pictures

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mamamibbo Fri 01-Feb-13 10:53:08

theres a kid at nursery that they are not allowed to take pictures of at all, so he's not in any of the ones on the wall, hes not in pictures in his achievment book that you take when they finish, his pictures not in the book the nursery nurses have that gives the child details like who can pick him up, allergies etc and his name in the stand at the front that they turn around to show there pictures, to teach them which is their name doesnt have a picture in it

i cant see why? i could understand saying no to pictures on the website/newsletter/prospectus but why not in the nursery where the child is anyway? they took a photo of some children with permission doing an activity then had to delete it because that child was on it in the background

He's probably fostered or adopted.

Oh YABU to care.

Tiggles Fri 01-Feb-13 10:56:47

Isn't there a religion that refuses to have images (ie photos) of people. Could have dreamt that though grin.

Duritzfan Fri 01-Feb-13 10:57:24

Child protection of some sort .. Abuse victim ? Fostered from a family who might search for him ?
All kinds of serious reasons ..

sooperdooper Fri 01-Feb-13 10:57:42

YABU it'll be something to do with child protection and there will be a good (and probably legal) reason for it, why does it bother you?

DialsMavis Fri 01-Feb-13 10:57:53

You don't really need to understand why do you? MYOB. It's probably a child protection issue, or maybe the parent is a tin foil hat wearer who thinks photos will steal her child's intelligence....

Nixea Fri 01-Feb-13 10:58:01

Can you really, really not think of a single reason why this policy could be in place? Really?

If not, then count yourself very lucky to never have had to worry about things like this.

KumquatMae Fri 01-Feb-13 10:59:00

I would assume its due to the risk of a photo being removed from the property if it was on display. Full belt and braces approach which would suggest, as the previous poster said, that the child is adopted and there could be consequences related to their identification.

Letmeintroducemyself Fri 01-Feb-13 10:59:14

ffs just use your imagination

HDee Fri 01-Feb-13 10:59:41

I understand what the OP is saying. If the child is physically there, in the nursery, to be seen by anyone in there, why would a photo on the wall of nursery be a problem?

Their parent or guardian may have just refused permission for photos. For any one of a million reasons. None of which are any of your business really

mademred Fri 01-Feb-13 11:04:38

At our ds Xmas play, he's 7, we were not allowed to take pictures or video the children in a group atall .we could take individual pics of our kids , but there was apparently a large number of children not allowed to have their picture taken.the majority of the children that were not allowed were polish.wat made me laugh was that all this fuss had been made by the school about the picture taking, yet over the holiday a picture of the children turned up in the local magazine that was put thru everyones door.by the way I did not understand why the polish weren't keen on the pics, maybe its their culture?

Nixea Fri 01-Feb-13 11:08:13

Ok, sorry OP. Just read my last post back and it comes across a bit harsh. But the thing is, and I very rarely talk about this, I've been that child. My entire childhood was having to move from family to family and area to area every time we were recognised. The issue with a photo is that it is so much more easily passed around than a child is. All it takes is one parent to take a picture of a picture (IYSWIM) and pass it on.

And yes, I'm sure the chances of one picture doing any harm are fairly tiny, but is it really worth the risk when the result of the tiny chance happening will uproot a child's life?

Madmum24 Fri 01-Feb-13 11:11:03

Perhaps the boy is a muslim? I know some muslims don't like photos displayed.

However YABU to even waste the time to post this, it isn't your concern.

Sneezingwakesthebaby Fri 01-Feb-13 11:20:47

Scenario: Mum has had to escape a violent relationship and moved to a new area to be safe from Dad. Dad finds out the approx area she's in. He knows child will have to go to nursery if mum works. He makes appointments to check out each nursery under the guise of finding one to use to see if he will get lucky and spot his kiddo. While in one nursery he spots a picture on the wall. It looks suspiciously like his child. He waits one day at drop off or pick up and snatches the child from Mum.

Sounds far fetched but it could happen. That could explain why pics aren't even allowed on the walls. YABU.

Why do you care?? Do you have a point to this??

Flobbadobs Fri 01-Feb-13 11:24:26

Because any photos could end up online and a child at great risk could be identied and tracked. I know of 3 children in this situation right now.

ReallyTired Fri 01-Feb-13 11:26:02

Its standard practice for adopted, fostered or local authority care kids not to have their photos taken. Photos unwittingly get pasted into news letters without checking whether its OK. Its a lot simpler to say no photos.

LittleChimneyDroppings Fri 01-Feb-13 11:26:50

Child protection is the most likely scenario. I hope its not something thats gossiped between parents at the nursery.

gordyslovesheep Fri 01-Feb-13 11:27:47

flipping heck I am pmsl @ 'Polish' and Muslim culture banning photos

it will be a child protection issue - end of.

I have no idea why it bothers you though

Losingexcessweight Fri 01-Feb-13 11:29:38

As someone who has worked in a fair few nurseries before.

The main reason for this is, is because the child has been adopted or is being fostered and the biogical family are known to try and track the child down.

I think its common sense really to understand why this child cant have pictures taken in nursery.

Losingexcessweight Fri 01-Feb-13 11:30:44

Sneezing

Your post is spot on

CaptChaos Fri 01-Feb-13 11:49:00

When a child goes into a nursery or a CM there is usually (IME) a form you have to fill in so that the staff can take pictures of the child. You don't have to give permission, and you don't have to give any reason at all.

Madmum24 Fri 01-Feb-13 12:48:14

gordylovessheep being a muslim is a very plausible reason, nothing to laugh about. (I am a muslim) and some muslims follow the interpretation that the order not to depict living creatures extends to photographs. I take photos but do not display them on the wall. My children do not attend school but if they did I would opt out of the picture taking. Whether it is a religious/child protection issue is irrelevent, the fact is that it is the childs persons right not to allow photos of their child on display.

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