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to think you also need to exercise to lose a lot of weight?

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My DH is dieting, he has quite a lot of weight to lose (at least 5 stone). He currently has no plans for formal exercise, although intends walking a little more once the snow shifts. This walking would amount to around 30 minutes split into two (ie walking to/from station each day).

Is this achievable?! I think he's deluding himself to be honest, but I don't want to say it quite so bluntly. He 'has no time' for the gym, and in any case is too tired at the end of each day (partly due to being so overweight I suppose).

He's doing well so far on his diet (Primal/paleo) but it's only been 10 days. I hope I don't come across badly about this, as I really am supporting him fully, but I can't help but think doing a little bit extra would make a massive difference to his weight loss, and to his energy levels.

eggsy11 Fri 25-Jan-13 13:35:16

I gymed 4 or 5 times a week for 4 months, toned up a bit, but only lost a few pounds. Have joined weightwatchers, now have lost 7lb in two weeks :S it's obviously a combination of both, but he;s doing the right thing incorporating exercise into his daily life. There's a saying on my gym wall:

Motivation is what gets you started, habbit is what keeps you going

By walking to work more etc is a habbit, rather than planning on going to the gym five times a week isn't realistic as a life style change for most people unless you're a lazy student like me

JuliaSqueezer Fri 25-Jan-13 13:34:07

My friend has just lost over three stone with WeightWatchers and has done no exercise at all (she can't due to severe disability) and my mum has lost nearly four stone with little to no exercise.
I think people over-estimate the effect exercise will have on weight loss. I did Couch-2-5k and didn't lose a pound, my stamina and fitness increased so it was worth it on that front, but weight loss for me is nearly all about my diet.

Ok thanks for the replies. I think I assumed doing more exercise would help motivate him more, thereby speeding up his weight loss...
I think it's hard for him starting as heavy as he is; his target weight is what other men would start from.

I'll just encourage more walking for now then smile

I never lost weight by exercising. And I exercised - 30-40 miles of walking a week and not a sausage. I assumed I was just somebody who held onto their weight. But then last year I tried MyFitnessPal - basically calorie counting - and the weight just fell off for the first time in my life - it was a real eye opener.

To echo most other posters - exercise does not usually help a lot with weight loss for the reasons others have given, but it DOES make you feel a lot better in every area of your life and is worth it for that alone.

Anja1Cam Fri 25-Jan-13 12:58:17

And PS - the walking plan sounds absolutely great for starters!

Anja1Cam Fri 25-Jan-13 12:57:22

I too lost two stone without adding explicit exercise into my averagely active life (cycle to work and walk everywhere).

After that I upped my exercise and it improved my fitness, but I lost no more, although I did stop dieting, just went back to sensible eating

There is also a maximum rate that you can /will safely lose weight so there's no point in pushing for more, you'll just end up doing damage.

Jenny70 Fri 25-Jan-13 12:50:03

You don't need to excercise to lose weight, however exercising will help weight loss and increase fitness... skinny people can be unfit.

I think supporting him in his food choices, encouraging "casual exercise" like walking to the station, taking the stairs, walking to the shops, is a great way for him to start.

Once he sees some weight loss, he may be further motivated to exercise - and with less weight to lug around, it may also be more enjoyable for him.

Fluffy1234 Fri 25-Jan-13 12:39:00

I can tell you for a fact you do not need to exercise to lose a lot of weight . I went from 13 and a half stone to 9 stone without doing one bit of exercise. I decided not to as it makes me starving and I then found I ate more as a reward for exercising and I just needed to get to grips with my eating.
I've maintained the weight for just over a year with sensible eating and 20 minutes of exercise a day.

CMOTDibbler Fri 25-Jan-13 12:17:06

I've lost over 2 stone in the last 4 months by calorie counting. When you look at how many calories you really use exercising it makes very little difference, though obv its good for long term health.

MrsDoomsPatterson Fri 25-Jan-13 12:11:40

I lost two stone on the Candida diet...mind you it's basically just dusssstttt.

No excercise to speak of.

fluffyraggies England Fri 25-Jan-13 12:08:23

I lost 3 stone on Atkins (accumulated baby weight from 3DCs) 10 years ago and didn't excersice till the very end. It toned my slimmer body up a bit and encouraged me to shift the last bit of weight.

These days if i start to feel like i need to loose a bit i'll diet some off - then once i'm feeling happier about my body i'll start to feel like moving it more.

OP once your DH has lost a stone or 2 (which is the point at which other people really start to notice IME) he will benefit from building up a routine of going out for a walk or swim every other day - and more importantly, he will feel much more motivated by then too.

well I lost 6 stone last year without exercising loads so it is doable.

Walking an hour a day is great start to his exercise.
I got to goal on WW years ago and didn't exercise to get there.
I do now. It's more for toning so he doesn't get wobbly than weight loss itself.
He may get more into exercise as the weight comes off.
Good luck to him.

scarletforya Argentina Fri 25-Jan-13 11:44:29

I've lost 25 pounds in 3 months with no exersise. I've often lost similar amounts in the past with just diet. I hate exersise! I do it with weight watchers.

I've done exersise in the past (4 classes high impact aerobics a week) and then another year stretch of going to the gym 3/4 times a week but it makes no difference to my weight. Never has!

However some people swear by it, must have different metabolisms!

Betrayedbutsurvived England Fri 25-Jan-13 11:19:47

My husband lost five stone in ten months and I lost three in six months with absolutely zero exercise, and we've both maintained for 18 months and counting, also with no exercise. In fact if you google exercise hinders weight loss there's a lot of interesting stuff on there. Good enough for me, I loathe exercise.

cheeseandchive Fri 25-Jan-13 10:51:14

I think that starting small is often best, especially if he's combining diet and exercise - too big a change in routine can often mean someone is much less likely to continue.

I lost 2.5 stone almost unintentionally (though I definitely had it to lose!) just because I started going to the gym occasionally to strengthen my knees post-op. I really enjoyed it so did a bit more, then a bit more, then my diet naturally changed too because I felt healthier so wanted to eat healthier. And I've kept it off ever since (about 2/3 years)!

So you might find that the more exercise he does, the more he wants to do and it just happens naturally. It might not, of course, but I'd just wait and see what happens for a bit. Good luck to him!

charlearose Fri 25-Jan-13 10:50:01

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RandallPinkFloyd Fri 25-Jan-13 10:43:10

If he's got that much to lose then I don't see the harm in starting just with the diet for now. Once he's lost a bit hell probably feel more inclined to exercise anyway.

Put it this way. I've lost just over 11lb in two weeks just by calorie counting. Nothing gimmicky, not cut anything out, just ate less. Now I actually want to exercise because I feel more confident that I can iyswim.

To lose weight it is about 80% diet and 20% exercise. It will be totally possible for him to lose the bulk of his weight without too much exercise although he should purely to keep his heart healthy.

BIWI Cote D'Ivoire Fri 25-Jan-13 10:39:08

Exercise is brilliant for making you feel good - but it's hard to get started, especially at the gym, if you don't feel good about yourself. It is really intimidating going to a gym when you're overweight because you think everyone is judging you (and I speak from personal experience here!). So getting started gradually might be a good thing.

Do you do any exercise that the two of you could do together? How about doing the C25K? It starts really gradually and builds up, with some running every other day - it only takes about 15 minutes a day when you first start.

Also, re the getting bored bit, does he have anyone (apart from you, obviously!) to support him? If not, and if he's doing Primal/Paleo, why not show him the Bootcamp threads? Low carbing is very similar as a way of eating, and it might help to keep him interested/focussed. The support from others is phenomenal.

manicinsomniac Brazil Fri 25-Jan-13 10:39:06

In terms of fat loss, diet is far more important than exercise.

But for all around improvement of health and fitness exercise is crucial.

Someone who did no exercise could easily lose 5 stone more quickly than someone who did. But the person who did exercise and had lost say, 4 stone, might still be slimmer than the person who had lost 5 because they would be more toned and have converted fat to muscle.

imonlydancing Fri 25-Jan-13 10:38:44

I have just lost 3 stone and haven't exercised any more than I did before. Purely through diet. Although now I am at the tricky last stone I will have to up my output if I want to continue having the daily hot cross buns!

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Fri 25-Jan-13 10:37:34

My gym instructor hmm told me its diet not exercise that gets the weight off.

Obviously exercise is only ever going to benefit you, but you don't need to do it to loose weight.

ILoveTIFFANY Fri 25-Jan-13 10:36:13

Exercise makes you feel good and gives motivation tho..... And energy

More likely to stick at his diet if he's feeling good...

How about a power walk app?

Mumsyblouse Fri 25-Jan-13 10:35:40

All the evidence is starting to stack up that exercise doesn't drive weight loss, because people eat more to compensate for having taken exercise, whether through mentally thinking they 'deserve' it, or because physically they need more calories (especially if on a restricted diet).

So, I would encourage him, point out that the walking needs to be fast (out of breath fast) and leave it at that.

Very few people stick long term to their exercise plans over years unless they either like exercising or it really fits in their lives well, so I would let him work out what works for him. If he's not a gym bunny, he won't sustain it anyway, but eating a healthier diet will set up good patterns, and then he can always choose to build in more exercise as he goes along.

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