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Will try and keep this short, basically for the past three years I have been using the contraceptive implant, which has now run out. I have decided to go on the pill as the implant caused me to gain weight and I find the pill works a lot better for me.

So obviously I have to wait for my first period before starting the pill, I have explained this to BF and said that we will have to use condoms until I can start taking the pill again. Now he is less than enthusiastic about this and has suggested just pulling out.

AIBU to think this a really stupid idea and be really angry with him for having such a cavalier attitude towards this?

Explain to him gently that's how babies happen

YANBU but I am sure you know that. "no" is a complete sentence.

YANBU.

His idea is indeed stupid and arrogant.

he is dim and daft!

YANBU. He's being a tool.

Would he be more enthusiastic about abstinence? Tell him if it isn't on, it isn't on. .

Maybe show him some stats

YANBU

Perhaps he doesn't quite understand? You'd be surprised how many men think this works.

Why be so harsh?

Is this his way of saying 'lets have a child together'?

Tell him "cover it or keep it to yourself"

Explain that this will significantly increase the likelihood of pregnancy. Tell him you would have it. Ask him "how would you feel about this?"

YANBU it is a ridiculous idea (unless he secretly wants to be a Father)

Get a signed agreement to provide for you and the baby and full time nanny care etc before he starts then.

I really do think he understands the risks, when he suggested it I said to him that it would greatly increase the chance of me becoming pregnant. I think he just really hates using them and is letting that cloud his judgement. I know that in the grand scheme of things this is not a major problem but it really wound me up.

Yes I do think he wants to be a farther and we have discussed it but are both in agreement that it is not piratical for at least two years.

I will be insisting that everything is bagged up before we DTD.

I present 12 month old DS as evidence his theory is incorrect

Adding my 20mth old to the evidence for the prosecution

Piratical

And my 4 month old ds. Along with a few friend's children too. This is only really a sensible method of contraception for couples who are ready for a baby & happy to just relax & see what happens. If you're not in that place yet offer him either condoms or abstinence to choose from. X

Erik yes that should say practical

Maybe start buying some "bits" for the baby he is clearly looking to have

A few Mamas and Papas catolgues around the place might work better than the stats I suggested upthread

Is he 12? I don't think he is accepting of the risks, so much as thinking 'it won't happen to me'...

My OH thought that was an option. SIX WEEKS POST C-SECTION.

I played the 'hormones' card and cried and shouted lots.

Add my 13month old and 29week bump to the evidence that not all forms of contraception are equally effective! :D

Oh well, no penetrative sex for a while then eh?
He's being an arse. Show him this thread.

Since it is Friday, may I be the first to suggest this would be an ideal time for bum sex?