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To block the fucker in?(120 Posts)
Picture the scene... terraced housing in blocks of 4, so 8 houses on one side, 4 on the other. We're on the side with 8 houses. Between the 12 houses there are 8 cars which park on the street, no bays just on the road plenty of room for all of us, occasionally you need to go a teeny bit further up the road but never an issue. Git opposite has, in his own words, lived here for 40 fucking years. This for some reasons makes him think the space at his gate is his. It isn't. It's on the road parking, anyone from anywhere can park there. We've been here for 6 years and witnessed his antics. He'll waste 3 car lengths of space just to get parked at his gate. He'll park as close as possible to anyone on "his" space.
He had a huge go at our new neighbours over it, we were on holiday at the time and one of our cars was in his space. Last night he went out, leaving his space vacant, dh popped out and on return parked in "his" space. Half an hour later the git returned and sat honking the horn a few times before wheel spinning off to park 10 metres up the road.
So this morning dh car is still there, the gits 2 spaces up, the car next to dh left so git has moved his car next to dhs car. he is, without a word of a lie, 6 inches of his bumper. the fool can barely park as it is. right now there's a full space behind git so he could reverse out when he wants. I'm in front of dh so he has enough room to get out.
Wibu to park behind the git, close but not stupidly close, to block him in?
Ooh dear betty . Best not write him any letters about your pubic road, he might get the wrong idea!
He's breaking the law if he sits outside the house and beeps the horn.
MUST NOT indicates a legal obligation. Even when it doesn't say must not, if it breaks the highway code, you still can be done on other technicalities.
Certainly he is acting in an intimating and aggressive fashion which I do think falls under other areas of the law.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
I really really want to say block the nasty fucker in. However, ignoring he situation and feigning total ignorance is much more likely to piss him off!
Don't block him in, it's petty. And I'm saying that as someone who lives on a similar terrace road with on street parking
and some nutters who'll do anything to park directly outside their own house.
Just keep rising above it and report to the police if he's intimidating, threatening or blocks you in.
Tempting as it is, I wouldn't do it. You are only giving him something to reasonably complain about. Better leave him as he is - being unreasonable.
The last thing you want is him calling the police on you for blocking him in - think how pleased and "vindicated" he would be with that result.
I would just totally ignore him (and park in "his" space at every possible opportunity and gang up with the other residents to do the same) until he loses the plot and then call the police on him.
Well that escalated quickly. Didn't block him in, dh went to pick up ds and took my car, parked back in front of dh s car but closer to other neighbour leaving a small space.
Git comes out and starts trying to get his car in to the small space. Was never going to happen. He bumped into dh s car. Dh went out, shouted at him, gut starts effing about us parking in his space and "I'll be sending kev round to sort you out tonight" This is the same kev he threatened next door with a few months ago. He never dud sort them out. He's his partners son, late 30s. Dh basically said "go get him then, don't threaten me" I was standing at front door, arms folded. Git carried on shouting and swearing, gave up trying to park and went back to where he was.
Glad I didn't block him in, it kicked off adequately well without that. U made dh register the threat with the police.
The thing you've really got on your side is the fact you know he's threatened next door too.
If you get more hassle, the police will take your side if the neighbours are prepared to back you up. Which I'm sure they will.
I hope you have inspected your car for damage.
If it was me, I'd also take photos of the side of my car today. Just so that if he does get any ideas about damaging it, you have something to compare with. He sounds petty enough to do something like key your car.
What an idiot. There is someone on our street who puts cones outside their front door so no one can park there in "their" space (similar set up to your street - plenty of room for everyone, and spare spaces fo visitors, just sometimes don't get right outside your door - big effing deal!).
I have on more than one occasion been tempted to move his cones and park in "his space" when the rest of the street is available, but then I feel I would look a tad childish it is tempting though!
Some people are honestly just idiots.
I'd seriously consider leaving the cars exactly where they are, and getting taxis everywhere for a fortnight, just to piss him off
But that's just me, and I'm immature and bitchy
Oh and I 100% agree with coldinthesun - get some pictures of your car and make sure they are dated, because he does indeed sound petty enough to do something to your car (or get "Kev" to do it lol).
What is it with some people and parking spaces? Opposite us there's a house divided into two maisonettes with two spaces outside. Only one of the people in the maisonettes owns a car, but for some reason she simply can't bear the thought of anyone else parking in the spare space, so she regularly parks across both. If someone goes into one of them when she is out, she does that tactic of parking right up behind them to try to block them in. She had a right shouting match with one neighbour who had the temerity to brush against her front bumper with her leg whilst opening the boot. If she has parked someone in, she stands in her front room, arms folded, watching them try to get out - again ready to scream at them if they dare to touch her car in the process. All the neighbours have got very good at getting out of small spaces as a result. If I'm the guilty party, I like to take as long as I possibly can and to get as close as I possibly can to her car several times without touching it, watching her blood pressure rising all the while.
What a gonad.
Rising above it was definitely the best course of action.
I'm going to be sitting shitting myself about someone coming to the door all night now. Dh is very much of the let them fucking try line of thinking. I'm a shitter. I don't think it will come to anything but I'm a worrier.
Anyway, dh not back to work until Tuesday so his car will stay there until then.
why not just park somewhere else?
is it worth falling out with someone over, especially someone you have to see frequently.
i would rather leave him to 'his' space and keep the peace!
i think you are being as bad as him.
Lowercase, stop being so damn reasonable!
OP - I bet Kev is as sick as the rest of you over it! If Kev does come over, do your biggest smile and say "oh good, I was hoping we could talk to you, a few of us in the road are worried about your step-dad's behaviour recently, he seems really confused and shouty about random things. I mean, everyone knows on street parking is perfectly open to anyone with a tax disc, but he seems a little obsessed, is he ok? We didn't want to be those neighbours who don't mention to extended family when their family member is showing early signs of dementia, and i thought being irrational and obessive was a sign, we're all a bit worried..."
Thats the point MrsKeithRichards. A threat can be intimidating and frightening without anything behind it. There's always the doubt in your mind that they will do something.
I would be mindful of having thought about the possibilities and having a plan in case they do something. That way you are reassured and won't worry so much. Difficult I know. Its like feeling under siege in your own home. Have a camera ready and make sure you can phone the police should you need to.
No lowercase, the OP really isn't as bad as the neighbour. When you've lived near knob ends who park selfishly, you understand that actions speak louder than words.
Our current problem here is having a neighbour with three non-moving old bangers taking up half the parking spaces provided for the strip of six properties. It doesn't seem to occur to them that six houses = six parking spaces = one parking space per property.
The problem with that, lowercase, would be that the neighbour would interpret it as 'threatening people with Kev works'. And this would encourage him to do it all the more, to everyone. It would not keep the peace, it would totally destroy it.
Frankly, it is never a good idea to pander to unreasonable people (and yes, it would be pandering). You can emotionally detach so that it does not upset you, but give them that inch and there's no telling which mile they will claim as theirs. Best to treat them as a tantrumming toddler; stand firm and be consistent.
I'll park wherever is convenient. He lives opposite us, his space could just as well be my space. I'll park behind whoever else is there to use the space effectively. Sometimes that happens to be in the space at his gate. He's a tantruming bully. I will not let him threaten and harrass us into behaving how he wants.
Don'tmindifIdo - That made me chuckle I would love to see the reaction!!
I think avoiding parking there would be moderating your perfectly reasonable behaviour to placate a bully. Anyway, it'd be bound to go wrong. What if one time the street is randomly full and that's the only space? His "territory" is still going to be infringed isn't it (from his point of view).
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