To tell dh I hate his pride&joy burgers?

(110 Posts)
Jux Fri 11-Jan-13 20:11:41

I am immensely grateful that dh cooks quite often. He's an OK plain cook - sausages, chips, a bit of veg - and makes a mean dumpling, and pretty good beef stew.

However, about once a month he insists on doing burgers. He loves them. He squashes a handful of mince together really hard to make a ball, then squashes it flat. Then cooks it. That's it. No seasoning, herbs, nothing.

I think they're pretty vile and so does dd. Mind you, I don't like burgers much anyway.

It is hard to tell him, as he is soooooooo proud of them. I think there's an element of competition as his best mate makes 'fantastic' burgers, and that's probably rolling about in dh's mind somewhere.

Today he wanted to have burgers. He was really desperate to do them, and I'm not feeling brilliant, so am pleased to have someone else cook, and as he's cooking he obviously gets to choose what we eat, especially as he felt so strongly about it.

So I am dreading supper, though I'm really hungry!

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 Fri 11-Jan-13 20:15:52

Could you say that you've gone off mince/red meat? My DH also makes his own burgers in the summer so he can BBQ them - he chops red onion into his, but they are pretty bland and boring even so! I don't eat a lot of red meat so I don't have to admit that I don't like them, I just say "not really in the mood for burger today, I'll have some chicken or a vegeburger".

Rave about something else he cooks? If you go on about another meal he does, perhaps he'll concentrate on it as his "signature" dish rather than the burgers?

vintageviolets Fri 11-Jan-13 20:19:59

I saw a burger cookbook in Tesco last week, get it for valentines day for him grin

Abra1d Fri 11-Jan-13 20:21:41

Just tell him you're a Catholic. We aren't supposed to eat meat on Fridays. They brought that back in.

ebersneezer Fri 11-Jan-13 20:21:51

I was going to suggest a burger cook book. Good luck with dinner!

MrsKeithRichards Fri 11-Jan-13 20:22:05

Are you married to my dh?!

I was subjected this for years, basically squashed mince on a roll. He walked in on me watching Jamie Oliver making burgers in his 15 minutes meals. Something twigged in his mind, he added salt, pepper, chilli flakes, melted smoked cheese over it,carded mustard oh and crucially rolled them flat. They are now delicious

bubbles1231 Fri 11-Jan-13 20:22:52

lots of ketchup required!

SanityClause Fri 11-Jan-13 20:23:20

Make some one time, yourself.

Use some minced garlic, chopped parsley, pepper and salt, in with the mince.

Yum!

Hassled Fri 11-Jan-13 20:24:27

It could be worse - it could be lamb and rosemary burgers which are really just shown the heat rather than actually cooked to any extent and are completely bloody horrible so please don't ever cook them again <breathes>.

nbee84 Fri 11-Jan-13 20:24:38
Pseudo341 Fri 11-Jan-13 20:25:25

I'd tell him the truth. I'm a big beliver in honesty being the best policy in all but very few circumstances. Trying to get out of eating them by lying is going to cause you all sorts of headaches trying to come up with excuses in the future. I'm the main cook in our house and if I cook something DH doesn't like he lets me know, no point me doing it again if he's not going to enjoy it. Just soften the blow a bit by telling how much you like his other culinary efforts.

nbee84 Fri 11-Jan-13 20:26:32

Just read the review - not so good grin But I'm sure you get the gist.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Fri 11-Jan-13 20:26:40

Ketchup is your friend.

MollyMurphy Fri 11-Jan-13 20:27:55

Awww, just suck it up OP if he is so proud and happy with them. Whats the harm really? Sneak a sandwich later.

My DH cooks several things I don't love but he puts such effort into it and is similarly proud, telling me all about the ingrediants etc. I eat and smile and say mmmmm- thank you sweetheart. Costs me very little.

EmmaBemma Fri 11-Jan-13 20:30:01

I think I would just have to tell him! If he really thinks that squashing together some mince on its own makes a good burger, then he needs telling.

It's surprisingly hard to make decent burgers yourself. I think they benefit from generous seasoning, finely chopped onion and breadcrumbs to hold in the fat (fat = flavour) but they need to hold together as well.

Hassled, lamb and rosemary are actually my v. fave type of burger, with a little bit of finely chopped smoked bacon in as well. Yum!

EnjoyResponsibly Fri 11-Jan-13 20:31:11

Yanbu. The only good burger to eat at home is a Birds Eye quarter pounder.

Trewfact.

StuntGirl Fri 11-Jan-13 20:39:32

Just be honest with him. Don't be completely brutal, obviously, but just let him know neither you or your daughter like them, and could he please cook something else instead?

ProfYaffle Fri 11-Jan-13 20:40:37

I think MrsKeithRichards has it, chat to him, "I saw this great burger recipe, had herbs and mustard and stuff in it, looked fab. Do you fancy trying it? I know how good you are with burgers." etc etc

Jux Fri 11-Jan-13 21:11:25

Burger cook book? He'd be mortified! He is absolutely determined that his burgers are the best. He truly believes they are better because there is only meat inmthem and nothing else. He's not an idiot generally, but how he can think this is beyond me. Poor chap.

I do praise his culinary efforts, massively so when they are good. So his stew is great and he will do it once a week in the winter, with dumplings. But this does not mean he doesn't want to do his fabulous burgers as well, and he really does love them.

I think I will just have to eat them (as I have this evening, and thanked him nicely for cooking) rather than just tell him, because I've already turned up my nose at his other favourite thing - potato fritters, which are also, apparently, even better for no seasoning. That was hurtful enough to him.

Yup, I'll be eating those darn things for a looooong time to come wink

Yfronts Fri 11-Jan-13 21:15:10

can you leave a recipe and ingredients out?

Yfronts Fri 11-Jan-13 21:15:45

Can you make your own burgers and get people to do a taste test

ebersneezer Fri 11-Jan-13 21:26:15

Mash up the burger with ketchup, put the potato fritter on top, drink a very large glass of wine, pray, pretend its Shepards Pie.

wannabedreams Fri 11-Jan-13 21:43:00

go veggie............

MmeLindor Fri 11-Jan-13 21:45:54

Does he ever tell you if you make something he doesn't like?

Or does he eat everything without complaint?

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