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Tell me straight I am BU ain't I?

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ruledbyheart Wed 09-Jan-13 12:38:51

So in the middle of a long standing argument with DP it means a lot to me and it has put me off the idea of having DC with him but alas I am pregnant and now the arguement is needing to me solved.

I have 3DC with STXH and we all have the same surname.
All DC are close in age and this baby will only be 3yrs younger then DC3 which means at some point they will all be in school together.

I want the baby to have my surname a surname I will be keeping after divorce so its the same as my DCs partner doesn't like this and says it should have his.

I dont want my DCs having different surnames and I dont want to have a different surname to any of my DC.

I don't want to double barrell the last name as 1 its still different and 2 all DCs have double barrelled first names and so will this one and two double barrelled names in one name is riduclous.

Now I could understand if he was close to his family (DP) but he has his dad's name who he cannot stand.
I think DP who very much wants to be a family with me could change his surname if he wanted to have the same name as his dc, so why should it be me with a dc with a different surname instead?

AIBU?

floatyjosmum Tue 15-Jan-13 07:45:18

Loads of siblings have different surnames. I'm pregnant with dc3 who will have a different name to the other two. Dc1 has mine, dc2 has exp, dc3 will have dh.

Tbh it's dc1 I feel sorry for as noone has that name now I'm married but my kids never question it and the kids never mention it. They justo am we can't have anything with our surname on like calendars etc because we have 3.

Thumbwitch Tue 15-Jan-13 08:36:08

I have read your other thread, ruledbyheart and am sad to see the situation you are in.

I hope that your DP can sort things out so you can be a family; but I still think double-barrelling your new baby's name would be the best way forward, to give him an incentive to really be involved with the baby, iyswim (if he sorts himself out - as it stands, I wouldn't personally be leaving him alone with the baby at any stage!)

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