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I'm not just saying this because of the subject of the thread piglet, but you don't talk garbage. Without looking stalkerish, I've got you down on my spreadsheet as a Talker of Sense.

I just say thanks to the poster who praise me, but tats very rarely mstly I am told I talk utter garbage

Yes, the PMs are a minefield in themselves.

I always want to put 'It's OK, you don't have to reply if you don't want to', but that looks like I've got no self confidence in what I've said and am telling them not to bother with someone so unworthy, or I'm being prickly and don't want them to reply

I've had some really lovely PMs though and don't have any trouble at all in saying thank you for them Maybe it's the 'public' bit that gives me the indecision?

Sorry got carried away with my brackets Jamie.

[Jamie]

Sparklingbrook

Yes, i think we've definitely had such a conversation

I send quite a few PMs. I don't send them to get a reply, but I think I have always had one. Sometimes I do it when the thread is going round in circles, I have no more left to say so I tell the OP that I haven't disappeared but I still agree with them.

PM'ing is a minefield though - isn't it? What if your opinion is unwelcome? What if the PM is never acknowledged? That'd be forever and day wondering just exactly how much the PM'ee hates you! It's a difficult area and I'm not sure I'm very comfortable with it.

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Yes, i worry that PMings too personal. Weird innit?

Threads could get really bunged up with people agreeing with each other.

I seem to remember a thread like that, which spawned the IPOAT threads. In that case, someone was making the point about people neber agreeing with her, but then agreeing with someone much later on the thread, who said exactly the same thing.

I agreed with bran

That's the other thing Skakey, the risk of misreading and accepting the praise when it was aimed at someone else <mortified>

I usually only PM if I've got something to say that I don't want to say on the thread or the thread's moved on and it's too late. Just to PM them to say thank you would feel needy too

Wise words there, AgentZigZag , totally agree with you.

<waits to see what happens>

..... Oh and MNHQ, if you are listening, I do also report dodgy threads, not just bitch off thread.

Errr...thank you Cazzo <awkward>

Hahahahaha



I definitely wasn't fishing for compliments either, it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

and I don't think your acknowledgment of it on the thread would be construed as bigging yourself up.

Interesting people talk about PMing. I don't tend to use PM much, mostly it's to agre with someone who is smelling out trolls without getting iinto trouble

say, thanks babex

Agree with a PM Agent

FWIW a poster commented on a post I'd made on a VERY long thread not so long ago. I was stupidly excited really pleased it had been noticed and posted a xxxx Thank you very much.

That was the last post on the thread I killed it stone dead. Possibly everyone did think "Who is she? Who IS SHE?" and didn't post after me in a kind of "post protest"

Nickname:

Obviously can't say "go with your gut", cos you're having some trouble doing that!
I think just say thanks if you're touched, and if you want to pretend that you haven't seen it because you're embarrassed, the other person is hardly likely to be hanging on the thread waiting for some recognition!

Hey OP, what lovely post you've written.

(let's get some practice in)

If it's a " i agree with Jamie" i wouldn't bother, if it was high praise about maybe quite a long postm I'd say Thanks.

I wouldn't be offended if someone didn't acknowledge my praise of them. To me it's a bit like gift giving: nice to be thanked but the pleasure is in giving/ saying soemthing meaningful.

I sometimes just do

[name of poster]

Oh God - I don't mean I think you have that need - please don't read it like that! Actually you always come across as singularly together and knowledgeable to me. <<<buttsuck central - no need to acknowledge!>>>

PM them.

I think it's nice to acknowledge and I certainly don't think it lays bare your (my/anyone's) desperate need for acceptance and approval! And if anyone does think that then frankly - fuck 'em - but I'd be really surprised if they did.

It depends. Sometimes I will PM, sometimes i just put 'that's really kind of you to say so'. Does very much depend on the subject and what exactly is being said though.