To get annoyed with people who live their whole lives through fb

(34 Posts)
2kidsintow Fri 04-Jan-13 23:14:30

And I mean the BIG stuff.

My friend announced her major illness on there. Then every appointment, symptom and treatment.

And then 6 months later, her separation from her husband.

Each to their own, I'm sure. But it still annoys me.

PeshwariNaan Sat 05-Jan-13 12:59:30

What's most annoying is people who post 10x a day about any little thing and then NEVER answer private messages. I mean give me a break - I know you're on all the time, throw us a bone!

fortyplus Sat 05-Jan-13 12:46:46

Dogsmom - you can go on her profile and change so that you only receive 'important' updates - or none a t all

hanginginthere1 Sat 05-Jan-13 10:38:31

Can't stand it. A particularly toxic member of the family uses it to brag about her holidays, kids achievements etc. She also uses it to make snidey, bitchy comments about my kids. One of them has recently de friended her.

OddBoots Sat 05-Jan-13 10:38:29

I had a long stay in hospital miles from home a couple of years ago and FB and Twitter were fantastic for keeping people updated with all the twists and turns. I would text dh, my parents and brother then an hour later update FB/Twitter. People cared and wanted to know how things were going so it saved dh having to fend off loads of questions and it kept me company over what could have been a very lonely 7 weeks.

Onezerozero Sat 05-Jan-13 10:31:30

I don't really mind how other people use Facebook. Or any social media.
You may wish to keep the bad things private (I certainly don't share much on Facebook myself), others may draw comfort from friends, acquaintances and even strangers on the internet when they are having relationship problems or are sick or whatever.

Dogsmom Sat 05-Jan-13 10:20:24

I had a huge cull the other week and got rid of about 180 people and now only have about 50 left, I had fallen into the trap if accepting every request and had people on there I hadn't seen since primary school and wouldn't cross the street to say hello to.

I also got rid of the ones who 'like' and 'share' upsetting photos as if it can make a blind bit of difference.

There's only one left who I can't really delete as she's a relative but is pregnant and posts 'bumpwatch' pictures 2 or 3 times a week of her belly and every comment is about a twinge, kick, appointment, craving. I reckon she'll be updating her status while she's pooing in labour.

raspberryroop Sat 05-Jan-13 10:17:01

When my husband died suddenly in the night - putting a simple message on Facebook was so much easier than trying to deal with 300 phone calls asking 'is it true'. People were able to express their sympathy and I was able to deal with stuff when i was ready.

littlestressy Sat 05-Jan-13 10:11:27

The ones I don't like on FB are the "love my husband/wife they're so great xxx"
then 30 seconds later
"you too hun xxx"
When you know perfectly well they are sitting on the same sofa together.

BornInACrossFireHurricane Sat 05-Jan-13 08:08:01

I hate those as well onadifferentplanet- and the checking in 'sarah is at whatever hospital'.

I don't like facebook but I'm on it due to a couple of groups. Haven't updated my status for months though

catgirl1976geesealaying Sat 05-Jan-13 08:07:28

Yesterday my friend annouced she had gone in to labour

This morning she announced the arrival of her new daughter

My sister posted a picture of her in Sydney and that she 'd had a great time with my brother last night

Another friend has posted some pictures of his birthday in Dubai

I bloody love facebook for letting me know / see all of the above within 5 minutes of getting up. It's brilliant

I de-friend anyone who plays out arguments, slags people off or post those evil c&p wanky messages though

I hate the ones that say things like 'waiting at the doctors' or similar and then someone says 'are you ok' and then they say 'will pm message you' Why put it up in the first place ?

I hate the gushy "oh my childs so perfect and its all so easy" statuses.

Especially when you know that the child wont sleep in its own bed and that drives her mad, or that it has tantrums she cries about.

Why be so false? I dont get it.

catgirl1976geesealaying Sat 05-Jan-13 07:47:07

I use fb all the time

I never post negative things

MammaTJ Sat 05-Jan-13 03:42:56

I appear to put lots of my life on there but in fact only put little things my DC say or things that amuse me.

My DP moved out of our home for a year during reprogramming in order to correct some unacceptable behaviours. Most of my friends on FB didn't even know.

None of the more negative stuff in my life makes it on to FB.

EmpressMaud Sat 05-Jan-13 03:17:39

I don't know. It's the minutiae detail I find most odd. I know of one person who boasts posts about every very minor achievement of their children. They don't seem to realise. Perhaps it is really for family, but I still don't understand it.

Although, I know of another person who frequently, and similarly, updates about everyday events, but in less aggressive, serious, style, and is often humorous, and that is a pleasure to read. The manner in which it is done can make all the difference, I think.

happynewmind Sat 05-Jan-13 02:50:15

Facebook serves to remind me why I am not with ex.

He plays out full arguments with his partner on Facebook every week.

I only have him on as a method of contact for the dc but I feel nothing but sorrow for his oh

SpringIsComing Sat 05-Jan-13 02:42:29

I'm not sure how announcing a big change in life circumstances is 'living through fb'? It's an efficient way to communicate news to friends and family. I think posting endless minutiae or using it for attention-seeking or being a drama llama would count more as living through it. If she's your friend, how do you think she should've passed this information on to you? When XH and I separated, I told good friends by email in advance of letting people know. Also, for separation a lot of people might not know how to prevent 'X is now single' when relationship status is removed appearing on everyone's newsfeed, so it makes sense to make an update about it.

jessjessjess Sat 05-Jan-13 01:53:32

My particular hate is people who assume you all have seen it and get shirty if you don't mention it.

People use FB in different ways. If you don't like the way a Friend is using their's then limit, hide or block.

OP, in the case of your Friend, those are pretty big deals in anyone's life. If you are uncomfortable with that then withdraw yourself a bit.

ClippedPhoenix Sat 05-Jan-13 00:14:11

<well that should have read... I don't go on it very often and I certainly don't post anything about my life there>

ClippedPhoenix Sat 05-Jan-13 00:12:26

I'm not a facebook fan either so I don't go on it. I use it to spy on my DS to catch up with relatives.

Findingmyself Sat 05-Jan-13 00:10:01

I hate it too, especially when people take photos of every little detail of their lives, and air their dirty laundry via their statuses. I also hate the politics behind who replies to whom, and all the deleting as a friend bollocks. And when people keep changing their relationship status, that annoys me too!

I am only on there for two reasons; firstly to keep up with old friends, that live around the country, and secondly because I'm on a fantastic FB group, we de-camped to FB after being on another forum for years.

These days I rarely do a status and if I do it's a very neutral one that doesn't give much away. I post the occasional photo. But I rarely go through the newsfeed and like or comment on things, purely because other peoples' use of FB winds me up and I have no time for attention seeking.

Southeastdweller Fri 04-Jan-13 23:56:39

I have a dormant account on Facebook and keep earning to delete as I hate the bloody thing but in principal I can understand why people say stuff like that on there - that's if they're only Facebook friends with genuine friends and of course family. But when people broadcast really personal stuff to people they're aquaintances or colleagues with, or even never met them, then that's when I'm like confused

ebersneezer Fri 04-Jan-13 23:47:23

People use FB in different ways. One of my main uses is for extended family who live abroad and to keep them updated. I enjoy seeing pictures of my nieces and nephews that I have never met and hearing about the silly things they've done. I keep it very clean and light hearted, no way would I post that I'd had a crap day or any personal medical info.

I have some friends who update pictures of their food and every little thing they do, it's not my use but I'm fine with it. It's fun looking in on others lives, I often find the small things in life more interesting than the big news.

I think YABU. If she thinks of friends on her FB as proper real friends surely its the kind of info you would want to communicate. If my friend had a major illness I would be more than happy to hear about it, by email, phone or FB. It's one of the reasons FB is popular.

usualsuspect Fri 04-Jan-13 23:38:11

Hide her then,like I am now going to hide all the moaning about FB threads on MN.

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