lola88
Thu 03-Jan-13 22:09:02
... i put a suggestion box in my kitchen for all my lovely mothers catty comments helpfull suggestions, after the other day being told i should have gave DS 9oz in his bottle not 5, to stop filling him up on milk so he will eat more food, that i should have taken his jacket off in the car, that i should have put him in a heavier jacket once we got out the car, i should really have a hat on him (that would be the hat he just pulled off his head) and i should talk to him because he was crying (because he was ment to be going to sleep) all in 2.5 hours I thought fuck this and made a shoe box into a suggestion box and have been directing all comments there for 3 days.
I think it's hysterical and am really looking forward to the 7 day mark so i can actually show her how many times she critisises me in a week she is not chuffed.
AIBU?
Iheartpasties
Fri 04-Jan-13 06:12:53
LOVE THIS!! I wish I had done it a few weeks ago when mum was staying with us. She is adamant that she never criticises me! But of course I would beg to differ.
QOD
Fri 04-Jan-13 09:00:30
CheeryCherry
Fri 04-Jan-13 09:23:45
It's surprising that she's going along with it -she must think she's being useful! But I'm impressed you thought to do it. However if I had done that with my MIL when my DC's were little, we'd have never been able to leave the house for the amount of post-its stuffed in every room....sigh.
NewYearNewBoo
Fri 04-Jan-13 09:24:00
Brilliant idea 
<off to find a shoe box>
diddl
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:02:33
But if she doesn´t see it as criticism, but valid comments, what´s the point?
Why are you so delighted at the thought of doing this?
Booblesonthetree
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:16:44
Diddl could well be a way of seeing the funny side to an annoying situation. Me and my SILs play MIL bingo sometimes, it's a case of make a joke out of it or get really shirty snd upset.
YANBU OP.
diddl
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:28:43
I suppose.
I was lucky in that I could have said to my Mum-"I know you think it´s help, but it feels like criticism, please stop" and she would.
Well she never criticised my parenting & only gave advice when asked.
But then I never saw so much of her.
OP-maybe you see too much of her & that´s why she feels it´s OK to keep commenting like this?
diddl
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:30:04
Sorry not too much- as it´s up to you-but maybe because you see her so often & she´s so involved in your lives she feels it´s OK to keep commenting like this.
Booblesonthetree
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:34:59
Thats why we chose to live a healthy distance away from both sets of parents, just close enough for visiting to be easy, just far enough away for it to not be too easy!
whiteandyelloworchid
Fri 04-Jan-13 10:36:19
lol thats ace, well done op
yeah fill us in on her response when you show her 7 days worth
dontmixthecolours
Fri 04-Jan-13 12:17:19
MrsKeith do we have the same mum? I bet you're a great mum
Well done hen
HappyNewHissy
Fri 04-Jan-13 14:06:58
I love this! Hope she pulls herself back in line when she sees all the comments you feel are critical of her.
GOod conversation opener!
