to ask how you deal with the hypercondriac in your life

(34 Posts)
LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 12:07:10

Someone i know but am spending more.and more time with is im.afraid,a nutjo. Please come and tell me if im being unreasonable and if not,.how do.i deal.with ths person.

The person in question always makes.a.drama out of the smallest thing. A slight cough is.pneumonia,a stomach ache is an ulcer, headache is a tumor and it goeas on and on.

Last night she came round for a curry and as she doesnt lkie spicy thngs i got her a korma. She finished about 10mins before the rest of us and when we were all finising off i tried a bit o the korma sauce froma freinds plate and said it was actually qite nice and not too coconutty. She pipes up and says (incredulously) theres ^ nuts^ in it!? Didnt you know.i.was allergic! Sits tbere for 10 mins of so heavy breathing with hands on her stomach then says shes gonna have to go, she can feel her face 'blowing up' already hmm the thing is, she hasnt got a fucking nut allergy she was happily packing away the bountys at xmas

3smellysocks Thu 03-Jan-13 17:24:21

coconut is not a nut.

rogersmellyonthetelly Thu 03-Jan-13 17:02:37

Honestly that doesn't sound like hyperchondria, it sounds like attention seeking! Hyperchondriacs tend to be a lot more anxious about their imagined illnesses, like genuinely worried, not just chatting about them in casual conversation.

maisiejoe123 Thu 03-Jan-13 14:42:40

I have a close relative who has persuaded doctors to give her MRI scans and has 2-3 'treatments' a week for back/neck problems. Surprisingly they can never find anything wrong. She is very hard work. It is an attention seeking issue but tbh I avoid her talking about her perceived health issues when there is nothing wrong with her!

There are people fighting cancer and all this women moans about is herself..

ILikeWhisperingToo Thu 03-Jan-13 13:41:58
ILikeWhisperingToo Thu 03-Jan-13 13:31:47

Holly do I mean something about legumes then?! I may be off on a tangent grin

Fakebook Thu 03-Jan-13 13:26:14

Sounds like my aunt. She's been "ill" for as long as I can remember. Ignoring helps and letting them get on with the acting. It's a mental illness and you can't help them unless they realise they're talking bullshit themselves.

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 13:24:12

Oh i dont know. I think she heard the word nut andjust jumped on it.
Or maybe she has an intolerance to all things with the letter c.

Euphemia Thu 03-Jan-13 13:22:28

Thank goodness MIL doesn't have a computer, or Dr Google would have her diagnosed with everything from dengue fever to the plague!

As it is, she reckons she has:

ME
Arthritis
High blood pressure
Type 2 diabetes
Novovirus [sic]

hmm

Rhubarbgarden Thu 03-Jan-13 13:21:39

I have a friend like this. Despite pleading poverty all the time she recently went to Bangkok and paid £500 for a 'personal health check' which told her she needed her gall bladder removing. She came home and pestered her doctor, who repeatedly told her there was nothing wrong with her. Eventually he told her she could do it if she really believed it would help her many imaginary symptoms. She had the operation, and still complains about her symptoms all the time.

I've had to distance myself. She's been a good friend over the years and I feel bad about it, but her self obsession was driving me crazy.

HollyBerryBush Thu 03-Jan-13 13:20:07

A coconut is a seed, not a nut though

all nuts are seeds!

A coconut is a fruit, I think

HollyBerryBush Thu 03-Jan-13 13:19:19

I have a really funny story - but I cant tell you becaue I think my friend posts here and she'd know I was ripping the piss talking about her!

Suffice to say she gets fixated on things, has these mad little obsessions, which last for 3 months until she gets bored, then has another one. Often health related, but not always.

ILikeWhisperingToo Thu 03-Jan-13 13:18:00

A coconut is a seed, not a nut though - isn't it?

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 13:15:03

She will probably be more than happy to eat nuts next week then claim she doesnt know what im talkng about if i mention her allergy. Then bring up the occasional allergy whenever she sees an opportunity to manipulate a situation

EllieArroway Thu 03-Jan-13 13:13:39

Agreed - it's attention seeking. And bloody silly too - eating Bounties and then panicking about coconut in a Korma!?

I hasten to add, I have never been like that - so she might just be a drama queen. Very trying.

Vagaceratops Thu 03-Jan-13 13:11:31

Its all about attention. Dairy allergy is the latest thing.

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 13:10:08

ellie i understand but this woman goes waay past hypercondriac. Im not sure what the word for it is but everything must be about her and this is just one way of controlling situations

HollyBerryBush Thu 03-Jan-13 13:10:02

We all know a perpetual moaner, the one that lives on google Dr forums and convinces them selves they have every ailment going. it is incredibly waring.

EllieArroway Thu 03-Jan-13 13:06:35

Its even more annoying when I found him in the kitchen at Christmas stuffing his face with dairy milk

There are people with HA & then there are idiots! That's hilarious! Did he not spot the two clues in the name.....Dairy & Milk! grin

Euphemia Thu 03-Jan-13 13:06:21

Sounds like my MIL. Very wearing. We've never any idea whether she is actually ill, or just having one of her melodramas.

EllieArroway Thu 03-Jan-13 13:02:46

Have never done this on MN before because I am resolutely determined not to become one of the professionally offended (and I'm not offended now). But are you aware that hypochondria (better known as health anxiety) is actually a serious mental illness on a par with OCD and GAD?

I've suffered (and that's the right word) debilitating & serious health anxiety for about 20 years and feel a bit sad that you feel able to use the term "nutjob". Would you if you were talking about OCD or someone having a panic attack?

But that's not to say that I don't take your point - it IS very wearing when someone won't shut up about their health. I would drive myself crackers, so you have my sympathy.

But try to be aware that your friend may have no control over this and may be quite unwell. CBT could help.

Vagaceratops Thu 03-Jan-13 13:02:29

God my BIL is like this.

I have refused to ever go out to family meals with him. Its really boring and embarrassing sitting there while he inspects and dissects everything on the menu, so that he doesnt upset his dairy intolerance.

Its even more annoying when I found him in the kitchen at Christmas stuffing his face with dairy milk.

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 03-Jan-13 12:57:13

Offering to phone an ambluance wouldnt be a good idea she would happily accept convinced she is on the brink of death. Then probably tell everyone i tried to poison her

LadySybilPussPolham Thu 03-Jan-13 12:55:07

Sounds infuriating but I think Hecate has your answers. Although you're a better woman than me if you manage to keep them in your head!

ComposHat Thu 03-Jan-13 12:51:24

A friend of mine who was in her 80s had formerly been a medical secretary had a friend who was a terrible creaking gate who had every self diagnosed medical condition known to humankind (if you had a headache, she had a brain tumour etc. etc.)

Until my friend mischievously told the hypochondriac that a woman down the street had just had an orchidectomy performed. To which she responded 'ooh I've had that done myself it was awful' and was somewhat bemused why the assembled company were laughing themselves silly.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 03-Jan-13 12:44:19

Personally, I wouldn't have someone like that in my life unless they were closely related and I had no choice. Even then I'd distance myself as much as possible.

I cannot abide hypochondriacs. They drive me to the brink of craziness.

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