To want to return this jewellery to the store?

(27 Posts)
AndBingoWasHisNameOh Thu 03-Jan-13 11:04:32

DH bought me a necklace as my Christmas present. Quite honestly it's not my colour and it is too short for my liking. Because of the colour and design using a necklace extender won't really work. When I opened it he kept saying "you do like it, don't you, I tried hard to find something you'd like". I obviously wasn't enthusiastic enough as he said "well I've got the gift receipt if you do want to return it but I hope you like it". He bought it in a department store so a return per se wouldn?t be an issue.

So today I've just looked up how much it cost and it was over £500! I thought it would have been around the £80 mark. Really not looking to make this thread a big stealth boast but this is important for context - we are very fortunate to be in the position that buying this does not make any significant difference to our financial position so it isn't like anyone is going without due to its purchase. But still, its £500! There is also a side peeve that during our relationship I've always tried hard to buy him thoughtful presents that he would like whereas he has form on a number of occasions (although to be fair not all) for just buying more expensive things at the last minute so I suspect his "I tried hard" meant he spent more than 15 minutes browsing in the store.

I appreciate I'm probably coming over as an ungrateful cow ? who would object to their husband buying them jewellery? But the thing is I feel in an uncomfortable position. Either I keep the necklace and try and wear it and if it had been the price I was expecting I may have but for that kind of money I'd want something I really love and I'm struggling to like it, let alone love it. Or I return it and potentially hurt DH's feelings. Frankly I'd like to return it but AIBU and ungrateful?

Why hang on to jewellery you won't wear to spare feelings? Exchanging the necklace for something more fitting to your tastes and lifestyle is a much better use of a gift than hanging on to something that is just going to linger in a drawer.

He might be upset but then surely he will understand that you are rejecting the jewellery design but not the loving gesture behind the gift?

AndBingoWasHisNameOh Tue 08-Jan-13 11:39:43

Update

So I told him. I said that it was very lovely, thoughtful and generous of him and whilst the piece is lovely it didn't suit me and so would he might awfully if we took it back and picked something else out together? I got a bit of kicked puppy dog but he perked up soon and yesterday we returned it - I tried myself but they'd only give me gift vouchers and I didn't want to be tied to the store it came from. We will choose something together when we get a chance.

Thanks for everyone's help and advice, much appreciated.

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