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Grrr...bosses PA has sent round a snarky patronising sexist email, complaining about the state of the kitchen...

This is after 3 snarky patronising posters she put up to the same effect

Its not her fecking kitchen is it? Control freaky freak!

people can surely stack or not stack as they see fit??

Show us the email?

i really want to...but im scared Ill get 'found out'

stack? In the dishwasher?

So it's not just about dumping dirty tea-spoons in the sink? (that pisses me off, we have a dishwasher but the men just fling their spoons in there).

fuck it;

On the subject of the kitchen, can you please all try and keep it TIDY, please STACK your plates, cups, glasses etc. on the draining board, rather than trying to fit it in to whatever space you think is free or leaving it on the side. Also, the weird looking silver thing is a SINK, the objects coming off the sink are TAPS…..these are clever inventions that when turned make water appear….this water can then be used to WASH things. This means that instead of using every piece of cutlery in the drawer, you could perhaps wash it and reuse it! It is a small kitchen and your mothers/wives/girlfriends are not here to clear up after you so please KEEP IT TIDY!!!!!!

Im actually interested in people opinions on whether she is BU or I am for felling pissed off

Depends. As part of the admin tea at work we ended up cleaning the staff room kitchen because some staff decided it was beneath them. It wasn't 'our' kitchen but we were fucking sick of fishing bits of dinner or tea bags out of the bottom of the sink - or the dishwasher after a full cycle where some lazy bastard hadn't bothered to put it in the bin, giving the entire dishwasher a tea-rinse

It's certainly patronising but is it sexist?

Sounds like she's had enough of clearing up after lazy bastards who assume it's her job to clean up IMO.

I sympathise with her.

The bit about mothers / wives / girlfriends would annoy me.

It is bloody annoying though, when some people just think it's fine to make a mess in the kitchen all the time. Our receptionists are often ranting about it.

Yabu

How about you/your colleages keep the kitchen clean?
She is not asking anything out of the ordinary imo.

I think it is quite witty and a sarcastic she certainly got her point across maybe the messy buggers will clean up now

She probably has a point.. it isnt sexist.

She is absolutely NOT being unreasonable. In fact, I think it's quite funny but makes the point....so I'm going to copy it and post it in the kitchen at our work.

I cannot understand why people do not wipe down the work surface then clean & stack their dishes after they've used them. It's not an unreasonable request when you share a kitchen with others. If you want to be a clarty pig, do it in your own kitchen at home!

Oh I love whoever wrote that!

Ok…the kitchen is tiny
There is a bowl for tea bags and a cup for used tea-spoons, which everyone uses. The work surfaces are always clear and clutter free, and the sink is usually left empty. The ‘problem’ is that the draining board become quite full up of dirty cups etc, and she feels that they should be stacked better. But no-one does any washing up, as the cleaner does it all, so lack of draining board is no problem…it is just an asthetic problem

It is sexist; and fucking patronising, half the people in the office are girlfriends/wives/mothers…why the hell are we expected to ‘do it’???

She's probably sick and tired of the shytehole that the kitchen constantly resembles. I can't see the sexism myself.

I think you need to re-read it.

It's aimed at the people who rely on the wives/girlfriends/mother to clear up after them at home

If it's sexist the sexism isn't aimed at women

I think you are missing her point, OP. She's not saying that the girlfriends/wives/mothers that make up half the office should be expected to clean the kitchen. Instead, she's saying that the lazy men who seem to think this sort of domesticity is beneath them and who would normally leave it to their girlfriends/wives/mothers needn't bother to assume this applies at work.

you think its witty?!

jeez...I am going to flounce! I am right, she is wrong!

She is not saying that the women in the office should do it. She is saying that everyone should do their own cleaning and not rely on someone else to do it.

And women have mothers too...

I like her

i understand what she means...but she is suggesting that men are not capable of cleaning up

Are you a man OP?

Or someone with a female partner/mother who clears up after you?

Oh god, it's not witty, it's horribly patronizing.

She sounds like she's at the end of her tether. Someone needs to 'own' it to ensure its kept ok.
Personally I never understood how the highly paid managers, directors etc of one of the uk's biggest companies couldn't manage to wipe up their tea spills or put a mug in the dishwasher! Would drive me potty at work!!!