to not be able to get used to DSs name?

(62 Posts)
pageturner1 Sun 09-Dec-12 22:31:16

DS is four months old and I still cannot get used to calling him his name and flinch when I hear others say it. We gave him my favourite name ever but there is something about it that doesn't feel like his name - if that makes sense. I can't work out why this is.

Has anyone else felt like this? If so, how long did it take for you to get used to your DCs name? Is there anyone who is still not comfortable with it? I'm wondering if I'll always feel like this.

LedaOfSparta Tue 11-Dec-12 11:54:05

My DD is 13 weeks old and we didn't name her for 24 hrs as we wanted to look properly at our shortlist. DH wouldn't even entertain my favourite ( Claudia) and it came down to 2 both of which I liked but 1 was more unusual than the other.

We went with the unusual one but I didn't realise it was so unheard of, everyone gets it wrong, everyone expects me to have some elaborate story for having chosen it and it's not their fault but it gets on my wick!

I love the name and hope she grows into it but can't help thinking I should have gone with something else off my list.

Tailtwister Tue 11-Dec-12 11:28:34

It took me ages to get used to DS1's name. It's DH's Grandfather's name and I was adamant I didn't want it initially (had a PITA neighbour once with the same name). Just after DS was born (literally minutes after!) they asked us if we had a name and DH asked me what he liked that particular name and I agreed to it (would have agreed to anything at that point!). After everyone had been told, there really wasn't anything I could do. Took me a while to get used to it, but after a while I did and now I quite like it!

salemsparklys Tue 11-Dec-12 11:17:39

I want to know all these names now lol

Psammead Tue 11-Dec-12 09:13:14

I call DD2 baby, and called Dd1 baby for ages, too. She's too little for an actual people name grin

rubycon Tue 11-Dec-12 09:04:22

I was just listening to an item on names - I didn't know you could change it legally during the first year - not the surname, just the first name.

VikingLady Tue 11-Dec-12 08:58:19

It still feels odd using DD's name, and she is 9m. She usually gets Stinkerbell, or Babba. Not quite sure how these became her usual names!

PoppyPrincess Mon 10-Dec-12 23:54:36

YANBU I was the same with DS and my DD is now 3&1/2 months old and I still have moments when I think 'is that really her name?'
I think it can just take a while to get used to it, I think with most names you have an image of what ppl with that name look like so it can be strange getting used to it belonging to your baby.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE DD's name, we didn't know whether we were having a girl or a boy but the thought of me having a boy and not being able to use her name brought a tear to my eye...but it still feels strange calling her her name sometimes.
I used to feel the same when DS was a baby but now I don't even give it any thought.
You'll get used to it, just give it time x

acceptableinthe80s Mon 10-Dec-12 20:55:25

I changed my mind when ds was 4 days old, just didn't suit him. I still find it weird calling by his name sometimes and often use affectionate terms instead.

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 10-Dec-12 20:38:28

Oh........and we never call him Tristan

He is a multitude of nick names or T

Or his middle name

Boris blush

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 10-Dec-12 20:36:48

DH wanted a certain name (Tristan) for DS

I really didn't like it but it meant a lot to him so I said ok (minutes after a forceps delivery in theatre, prepped for an EMCS) hmm

I have only just got used to it a year on grin

But I have got used to it........

We called our son Ryan. It was comfortably normal but not over used... except that the months before he was born the footballer Ryan Giggs was very much in the news. Not being a football fan I had no idea and it was only after we'd registered the name that a midwife mentioned that he was the third Ryan born that day and the sixth that week. Every time we told anyone his name they said 'oh, after the footballer?'. I was really tempted to change his name and for months he was known as Baby, then gradually BabyRyan. By the time he went to school I'd got used to it and yup, there was one of the other Ryans in his class, sharing his birthday. grin

I never call my dcs by their actual names anyway. Everyone calls dd, who is Chrissy after dps mum, Mini or Moomin, and ds, who is Edward after dp, Littlest, Brainiac, Eddie or Hedwig.

I wanted to call them Holly and Harry! wink

Scheherezade Mon 10-Dec-12 19:12:52

I called my DS 'baby' for the first 6 months!

Lastofthepodpeople Mon 10-Dec-12 19:04:31

YANBU. It took me a while to get used to DSs name. I've actually got into the habit now of calling him by the shortened version which I couldn't stand preDS but now is just his name. I think its fairly normal.

Feminine Mon 10-Dec-12 17:14:19

I made a mistake with our second sons name.

Thought about changing it for ages. Its a lovely name, but its constantly spelt wrong (by others) and it only has 5 letters!

It can't be shortened either. As I'm typing, I realize that his name does suit him, but still I'm left wondering if I made a mistake?

YANBU smile I guess it happens.

That does sound strange. You can change it though up to a certain time on the birth cert if you don't like it that much.

I called my kids names from my dps family, but if I'm truly honest they weren't the names I'd always had in mind. They fit well though now!

We call DD2 chicken. We started to make more of an effort to call her by her name when we pointed to her in the mirror, asked her who is it, and she said "Chicken".

OP you are completely normal.

QuietNinjaChristmasSpecial Mon 10-Dec-12 13:53:12

After 9 months of calling ds baby it was very weird to start saying his name. Took a little while to get used to it and for a while he was known as baby ds name as baby kept slipping out. It's normal, you'll get used to it.

notcitrus Mon 10-Dec-12 13:46:14

Took me ages to get used to ds being called by his name - I think we spent most of the first year referring to him as That Baby, young feller-me-baby, munchkin, gillikin, samosa, etc.
It was only once he was at nursery around a year and other people used his name all the time and finally when he had toddler friends using it that I got properly used to it. We chose the name finally when I was about 8 months pregnant though I was furious after birth when MrNC started dithering about how maybe we should use the middle name instead (which we'd ruled out for embarrassing initials and being hard to say).

So I suspect your ds will grow into the name, given it's one you've always loved.

With dd we chose her name about 10 years before she was born and it seemed to fit immediately - though she's known as name-baby most of the time.

skatebauble Mon 10-Dec-12 13:45:26

big you have just made me a tiny bit sad. grin

skatebauble Mon 10-Dec-12 13:43:09

If it helps, i didnt call my ds my favourite name and regret it. I also thought about a v unusual name which has a common nickname. I regret that too. Whenever i hear a child called my favourite name i feel a tiny bit sad i didnt call him it. I probably always will.
He has a name that was on the list for dc1. Im not sure i like his name now but he suits it and has grown into it. Probably when he was about 18 months.

BigShinyBaubles Mon 10-Dec-12 13:41:29

You'll get used to it in time, do you use a nickname at all? I call mu youngest DS Titch most of the time.
My eldest DS is called Matthew..My favourite boys name ever. I never shorten but my DH calls him Matt or Maffew because he can't pronounce 'th'...it's driven me bonkers for the last 13 years!!

My mum told me a few years ago she wished she'd called me Kate. (I'm 36)

I love the name, it feels much more right than my actual name, which I hate.

Theicingontop Mon 10-Dec-12 13:29:42

My son was 'little D' or 'baby' for the first few months. I forced myself to start using his name and it was so strange for a while. I actually love his name, I think it was just habit. You'll get used to it smile

vitaminC Mon 10-Dec-12 13:24:41

I didn't get used to my middle DD's name until she started speaking and calling herself that name.

I always used a pet name for her, until one day she actually told me she didn't like it and would rather be called by her real name! So we started using her name and it started to fit her.

She's 10 and it really suits her now, but it certainly took a couple of years for her to grow into it smile

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