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(76 Posts)
123canyoucopyme Wed 05-Dec-12 21:42:02

I'm finding work really hard at the moment. I'm not meeting my targets and I'm feeling the pressure. Really feel like quitting but I think being a sahm would be really hard, plus DD loves her childminder.

Am going to Doctors tomorrow, do you think I should o off sick?

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StillSquiffy Thu 06-Dec-12 08:14:22

You are constantly being watched because you are not performing and the ofsted inspector picked up on it, and they have to fix it. And the reason you are not performing is because you are not coping at the moment. Thats why you need to see the GP.

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 08:14:41

I can't give up my job though. DD thrives at the childminders.

blondietinsellyminx Thu 06-Dec-12 08:15:33

123 you could just keep going... But if you do what you always do, you'll get what you've always got! And you don't sound happy with the way things are.

Make a GP appointment - get some help.

StillSquiffy Thu 06-Dec-12 08:16:06

You have a choice of 3 as far as work goes.

1) Give up work
2) get fired
3) Fix it (starting with GP)

That's it. Which one are you going to pick?

deXavia South Korea Thu 06-Dec-12 08:19:47

Actually if you keep forgetting your targets then the decision may well be taken for you..

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 08:19:59

Just now book a phone appointment with My GP.

Now for a lovely day of going to the library with DD and a mumsnet meet up this afternoon with the mumsnet horrible lot ;)

MammaTJ Thu 06-Dec-12 08:21:09

You NEED to be constantly watched at work if you are forgetting to do simple things.

Go to the doctor, get proper help!! Though if you treat that anything like you do the advice you constantly ask for on here, you will flush any tablets down the toilet and ignore a counsellor.

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 08:25:45

Thanks

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 08:27:38

I was pretty ill. This time last year I was on a physchiatric ward. Managed to get back to work. Guess this is another thing to get through.

MammaTJ Thu 06-Dec-12 08:34:13

I have told you before about a friend of mine who has the same illness. She has had her bad times, but properly medicated, she copes with a very responsible job and life in general. She finds she doesn't 'feel' as much now she is taking her meds, but makes the choice to stay on them rather than being unstable.

squeakytoy Thu 06-Dec-12 08:35:00

You are going to be constantly watched if you are failing to do your job properly.

Get yourself signed off, get yourself better, and sort your life out. You are not well, if you were you would not post these threads every week.

If strangers on a chatboard can clearly see this, then it must be very apparent in your real life too.

SolomanDaisy Thu 06-Dec-12 08:36:30

You need the medication, whatever the side effects. You are clearly unwell, thinking in a loop and not performing at work. Get signed off, get better, then make decisions.

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 09:08:32

I think I should be a sahm

squeakytoy Thu 06-Dec-12 09:14:19

'bangs head on wall'

Do it then. What is stopping you?

You have got plenty of options yet you dont take on board anything that anyone ever suggests, and never really answer the questions that people ask.

Why do you keep doing this?

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 09:18:26

I'm going to speak to GP as suggested

I've rang union as suggested

I will take any mess doctor recommends

I have spoke to my support team

Spoken to my mum and husband

I think I should be a sahm. Big decision giving up a career though, suppose it'll just be a career break

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 09:18:45

Any meds

squeakytoy Thu 06-Dec-12 09:23:56

I dont think you should make any firm decisions yet until you have got your mental health sorted out. Then you will be able to think more clearly and do what you know is the right thing. At the moment you seem to be floating around without having a clue what you want at all.

123canyoucopyme Thu 06-Dec-12 09:25:49

I hate my job and I'm doing a bad job. The head even asked me if I wanted to be at work!

featherbag Thu 06-Dec-12 09:27:59

I think you need to get another job. I wouldn't want you teaching my child. You know you are not performing at the expected level, yet you are almost flippant about it - "I could do it properly, I just forgot." You're not ill, therefore no, you do not need to be signed off sick. You need to decide if this is the right career for you, then either find a different career or pull your finger out and get up to the required standard before you're fired.

I don't mean to be harsh, I speak as someone who had a similar decision to make. I was in a job that I was awful at, and the fact that I was so awful at it had an effect on a lot of other people. Eventually I accepted that this was never going to be the job for me and went and got a call centre job while I researched my options. I decided on a totally different career to what I was doing, retrained, and I am now very happy in a fulfilling career that I'm very good at (don't mean to brag, but I'm very proud of being so good at something!).

PragmaticWench Thu 06-Dec-12 09:32:09

It sounds as though the head has a point, you don't even know if you want to be there so it may well be apparent to other staff.

Anxiety and forgetfulness are common symptoms of depression and/or other mental health issues. Being indecisive can also be a symptom.

It really does sound as though you need to ask for help and support at work, from your family and from your GP. People would rather be asked for help than feel that they have no choice but to force you to accept it.

PragmaticWench Thu 06-Dec-12 09:34:29

I don't mean that in a nasty way, I've been where you are and do understand. It wasn't until I started to get better that I realised how much my former colleagues had wanted to help me.

tunise Thu 06-Dec-12 09:44:03

I think squeakytoy is spot on, personally to me, you sound unwell, just from the things you say on here. Before you make any decisions you need to be balanced and able to be rational, you need to get better to be able to decide if it's the illness causing the problems at work or if it's because your in the wrong job for you. It doesn't have to be a straight choice between teachers Vs SAHM, you could get another job, retrain etc. Please take some of the very good advice you've had.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 06-Dec-12 09:47:46

I don't think you need to go off sick, but I do think you need to get a different job where you don't have the opportunity to mess up a year of a child's education.

Do we think you need to be off sick??

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!!

Like I said yesterday on another different but same post, you need to go off sick and get yourself sorted out.

You wont't be giving up your career.....teachers are always needed but I imagine it is a very stressful job so you need to be well in yourself to cope. Which the moment you are not.

Cheeky Pickle - are you EVER going to listen and take any advice??

SuffolkNWhat Thu 06-Dec-12 09:54:08

You are very close to going onto capability. That is serious

You have a choice here. Either see that you are doing you, your DD and the children you teach no favours and GET HELP.

Or carry on drawing out the process, harming the education of a class full of children who don't deserve to have a whole year of schooling written off whilst you dither.

Please choose one and stop with the constant threads!

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