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We must be weird as my family have no problems buying underwear for in laws. Maybe your sister is trying to get the other half out of pants she finds really unattractive. Just get him a set from Marksy or Beckham pants from H&M. If you really want to have fun, Sainsburys have some great "Where's Wally" pants :-)

Well I'D be majorly freaked if either of my BIL bought me knickers for Christmas, so I wouldn't do it for them either.

I wouldnt buy undies for anyone else except kids Male or female.

goodness people are odd - it's undercrackers not a butt plug

I have bought my BIL pants, and sometimes get to see them drying on an airer so I know he likes them enough to use them. It's not something that bothers me really, unless your DSis has requested you buy him spangly thongs? Because that would be weird.

By the way, I don't go looking for proof that BIL wears the pants, it's just he lives with us so I can't help but notice iyswim!

I wouldn't buy underwear for a BIL

BIL bought me pants one year. I'm fairly certain I've bought them for him as well. But then tbf he's been my best friend since I was a teenager and this was before DP and I were together, so we do have an exceptionally close relationship for ILs.

I wouldn't be weird about it though, even if we weren't as close. It's just pants, isn't it?

You are being prudish imho.

Designer undies are a fine present. Fundies (one pair for two people), candy g strings, Peter Stringfello leopard skin briefs less so

What type of undies? <mind boggles>

<shrug> seems like she's being practical to me.

He needs pants. You want to buy him something. Buy him pants.

No different to socks or a jumper, imo.

If you feel funny about it, give him a voucher and he can go buy the pants himself.

See, it's just not normal for my family to give each other underwear as presents. Regardless of how useful it may be for men who don't want to go and buy their own.

And it's family tradition to take turns opening all presents in front of each other - we'll all be together on Boxing Day, and BIL will be expected to open my present with everyone watching. Although I can't imagine anyone other than DBro asking BIL to model them for us [hgrin]

At the minute, I'm debating whether to buy some sort of comedy pants and yell "DSis said that you wanted these!" at the critical moment, or whether to go for something entirely different. Like clothes shop vouchers or whisky. BIL likes whisky.

I don't think he boffed her in gratitude

catgirl

I wouldn't choose to buy my BIL undies (it does feel odd to me) but I probably would if my sis suggested that's what he really needed. I'd get some fairly plain ones in the size your sis suggested.

Genuinely surprised at how prudish some people are about this. A pack of boxers is a standard gift for the men in our family. DH pretty much relies on my mum to update his supply each year. BIL might as well get something useful rather than yet more scarves/gloves/smellies etc.

Calvin Klines and those of that ilk are really appreciated by my young relatives. They are not cheap and wouldn't be bought for themselves so are asked for as presents.

Nothing sexual about xmas pants! We have a naice silver thong that does the rounds each year and always ends up in a different gentleman's present pile. You are honoured if you get it. Tis one of our traditions.

I would never buy pants for an in-law. That's just strange. Socks or gloves and scarves are fine.

I buy my brothers boxers nearly every year- I really don't think it's a big deal at all, especially seen as your sister suggested it

wouldn't bother me.

Love that story GoldQuintessenceAndMyhrr

My db and sil are getting dh pants for Christmas

It really wouldn't bother me tbh.

Two monks were walking down a muddy road, where they met a beautiful young woman needing to cross, but the puddle was too big and deep. The elder monk offered to carry the woman across. Half an hour later the young monk said to the older one:
"Was it really wise to carry that young woman over the puddle?" to which the older of the two replies
"Young friend, you seem to still be carrying the young woman, I put her down a mile back when I had lifted her across the puddle"

In short: Dont worry about it. There is nothing sexual about it unless you make it so. If you were to come up with a better present yourself, go for. Would some Pjs or socks be better? Maybe go to tk max and buy him a set of Ted Baker cufflinks and tie? They are £9.99 so quite reasonable.

A stunt/comedy codpiece might be pushing it too far... But standard gruts? Not so much...

It's all this talk of calling DSis back and being 'prudish' that I don't get.

Putting aside the fact that it's men's undies - plastic-wrapped and multi-packed up - they really are pretty a-sexual. Surely a bit of a mountain being made out of a molehill. Buy them, don't buy them. No need for any angst.

Wouldn't bother me at all

It's only some pants

It's not like you have to see him in them

I'm sure DSis has bought DH some boxers in the past

I don't think he boffed her in gratitude

I buy my brother funny underwear, ones with transformers or something we liked as kids on some years.

If you don't feel happy about it just buy some vouchers and give them to BIL.