to be fed up of people commenting on how DS isn't walking yet...

(60 Posts)
lola88 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:11:16

...because he's only just turned 10mo, he crawled quite early at 7mo and is good on his feet but he's just not ready to let go i just let him go at his own pace but people seem dissapointed that he's not running marathons!

If one more person tells me i should be trying to make him let go and walk i will be forced to scream 10 MONTHS in their face until they get it.

bedmonster Wed 05-Dec-12 22:45:38

This makes me grin so much! My DS was running around by 10 months <proud> but still can't say anything other than 'bah' - not mum, not dad at 13 months hmm.
My friend has a DD 15 months and she sits (not mobile in any way, not even a bum shuffle!) and reels off a list of about 10 recognisable words.
We both find it fascinating that they are both so good at their own thing, and that they are learning skills all the time. It's also really lovely to see them developing in different ways.
YANBU, they all do it at some point, it's not a race.

Bunnyjo Wed 05-Dec-12 21:55:56

Ignore them!

DD walked at 10.5mth - she has always been more 'accident prone' than most, constantly bashing into things and spatially very unaware.

DS walked at 14mth - now, at 18mth, he already seems much more sturdy and stable, when upwardly mobile, than his bigger sister.

DD is always bumping into DS and it's HER than ends up falling over!

PropertyNightmare Wed 05-Dec-12 21:47:31

Yanbu. 10 months is really early to walk. These people are idiots to badger you. Ignore them!

Tell them to keep their judgey arses out of your business.
To walk at 10m is classed as early, if he walks that early great, if he doesn't it does not matter one bit as it isn't a milestone he has to reach just yet.
My dd1, dd2 & dd3 all walked at 14m and dd4 at 23m.
People made me worry so much that dd4 wasn't walking, when is was none of their business!

It's not a race, it's a shame that some judgey pantie people make it into one.
Childhood shouldn't be rushed!

lola88 Wed 05-Dec-12 21:41:21

snowtunesgirl all kids are so different DS may be good physically but he never bloody sleeps they are just the same as adults they have somethings they are better at or like better so thats what they do.

I know my friend with the 18mo non walker was frantic insisting there was something wrong because her DS1 walked at 13mo but the doctors kept telling her he will walk and they won't look into it until he's 2 even then it might just be they are not ready yet.

You just can't win. My DS walked very early and people told me to stop him, that he'd 'go bow-legged' that he'd 'damage his legs', 'oh you shouldn't let him walk like that at his age, he's not strong enough to bear his own weight, it'll bend his bones'. I don't know what they wanted me to do... Rugby tackle maybe? grin

So if it was the other way round, you'd still be in the wrong. And your DS isn't even late - ten months is still early!

amothersplaceisinthewrong Wed 05-Dec-12 21:05:17

My Ds crawled at six months, walked at 10 months, climbed everywher at 10.5 months and drove us mad. Didn't talk until he was about 2 and a half!

DD crawled at 10 months, walked at 16 months, but spoke at 12 months

DiddyDragon crawled at 5mo & walked at 9mo.
DiddyCakes crawled at 9mo & walked at 15mo.

Proves nothing - they're both normal.

Tell them to feck off. smile

snowtunesgirl Wed 05-Dec-12 20:17:29

I'm finding this thread reasurring as DD is now a year old but only pulls herself up onto her knees. She does commando crawling as well and her fine motor skills are great.

I actually started another thread on this a little while ago as I was a bit worried. But it seems as though she's just a talker as opposed to a walker and her brain is concentrating on that at the mo.

CMOTDibbler Wed 05-Dec-12 15:51:43

My ds didn't crawl till the week before he was one, walked at 14 months. But had started cruising at 10 months. Of course, once he did walk, he ran, and hasn't stopped since.

And I never crawled, and have the highest reading speed of anyone I have ever met.

SugaricePlumFairy Wed 05-Dec-12 15:36:48

Ignore them, they're daft.

DS2 never crawled, just pulled himself up and started lurching and wobbling walking. It was a nightmare and we couldn't leave him ever until he was steady, I then had some idiots saying ' well you do know that if they don't crawl it will impair their ability to learn to read!! shock wtf!

DS1 walked at 14 months after being a crawler.

Ignore them!

rainbow2000 Wed 05-Dec-12 15:30:42

My 18 month ds is still not walking by himself.He walks around the furniture just wont venture on his own yet.

vj32 Wed 05-Dec-12 14:12:22

I have similar but with talking/social interaction because DS is big and confident on his feet people assume he is older. He's 18months but not really talking yet, communicates by noises and gestures but few distinct words.

People assume he is 2+ and try and talk to him. He generally smiles, waves or looks puzzled and says "quack quack".

planestrainsautomobiles Wed 05-Dec-12 14:09:05

Both mine crawled around 6 months and walked around 14 1/2 months. Most of their friends started walking at the same time - I think walking before 12 months is not as common as people think!

2monkeybums Wed 05-Dec-12 13:31:48

Ds2 is 14 months and no where near walking.

EldritchCleavage Wed 05-Dec-12 13:02:03

Oh, this is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tiresoome!

DS didn't walk until he was 19 months. Complete strangers would ask me why he wasn't walking. (i) I don't know; (ii) tactless question, what if there were some disability or developmental issue we were very worried over and didn't want to talk about; (iii) you don't really care, as you don't actually know any of us, so why are you asking?

DS had his walker wrenched off him in the park by a younger child who was walking. His mother was smugly apologetic and did the whole, 'Oh dear, he isn't walking?' routine. She stopped being smug when her DS wandered back within reach and my DS got him in a Vulcan Death grip. See, his legs were a bit slow but his upper body strength was a marvel.

GladbagsGold Wed 05-Dec-12 12:54:47

Tell them you've asked him to wait until his first birthday (you can scream FIRST as loud as you like of course, to make the point)

SantaWearsGreen Wed 05-Dec-12 12:51:37

TEN MONTHS?! Its rare that babies walk that young isn't it?! Normal age is anything between 12 and 18 months ime.

Mine were 15 and 16 months before they walked. By 14 months there were a few people asking them when they would walk but only because DS took his first steps at 12 months walking between DH and I but then just never bothered again, and DD was quick to do everything else but didn't want to walk at all.

We get this all of the time with DS and his speech. He's 2.9 and says a handful of words. Maybe I should feel more concerned but I just don't. All kids go at their own rates. Einstein didn't talk til he was four! Ds has a tshirt saying Einstein was a late talker lol.

Ten months is really young though.. I don't really understand that. Just smile and ignore. Everyone likes to have an opinion but that is all it is- an opinion, nothing in the grand scheme of things.

DoTheStrand Wed 05-Dec-12 12:33:51

DS2 is 10 months and has only just started bum shuffling (though my god he's fast). He can't pull himself up yet (my excuse is he is too fat to hold up his own weight).

DS1 just went round in circles on his tummy until 10.5 months and didn't walk confidently til 15 months. I would have thought 10 months for walking was v early.

Hopeagainsthope Wed 05-Dec-12 11:30:15

They are just trying to engage you in polite conversation. Find something else to talk about if it bugs you.

lola88 Wed 05-Dec-12 11:29:53

it's family and people at the mother and toddlers group i think it's because he's been crawling for ages it seems like he should be walking but they forget that early crawling doesn't mean early anything else.

I have pointed out to the few who have said he's physically able i should let him go that they are physically able to jump out a plane but it doesn't mean they will do it. It's driving me mad it's almost like sympathy telling me he will get there in the end when he's only at the start of the average timescale for walking.

soverylucky Wed 05-Dec-12 11:29:18

Dd was 26 months (will probably out myself with that statement as she seemed to be so late ) She has shown no long term problems for being lazy (as that is what she was according to the physiotherapist)

Ciske Wed 05-Dec-12 11:26:32

Walking and crawling are the most visible steps in a baby's development and therefore the ones people always comment on when they want to have baby talk. Nobody ever asks if it isn't about time baby learned to smack two blocks together, or learn the pinch grasp, yet these are also important steps in their physical development.

When I get queries about what my kids can and can't do, I normally say I let them learn at their own pace, but if they still can't talk/walk/use the potty at 18 years, I'll make a GP's appointment. That normally ends the conversation. smile

OhTheConfusion Wed 05-Dec-12 11:25:47

Powerpants, are you me? DD is 15mth this week and not walking either. blush

DowntonNappy Wed 05-Dec-12 11:24:44

10 months!

My dd didn't walk until a month before she turned two years old.

She was a bum shuffler and didn't crawl.

So much pressure on babies these days.

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