to think this was a little rude/insensitive

(55 Posts)
leic30 Mon 26-Nov-12 10:32:19

So I am 8 weeks post giving birth. I posted on facebook that I was pleased to be back in my jeans after months of maternity dresses/tracksuit bottoms. One friend replied
"I am back in mine after months of hotpants and bikinis." She does work in the med.
Probably reading too much into this and it was just a witty joke.

ShiftyFades Mon 26-Nov-12 22:21:54

I think she was just being funny. She's back from the med and is freezing so has to wear jeans. I can't see any boasting in that at all. Nor can I see anything rude.
Yabu to think it was anything other than a funny reply.

Congratulations on the new baby grin

apostropheuse Mon 26-Nov-12 22:19:50

YABU

I can't see anything wrong with what she said. You're a wee bit over-sensitive.

It was banter - no more no less. When I lived in Cyprus I used to post that socks felt funny in winter after not wearing them for months. Tis the same thing.

You posted about being back in jeans, she posted about being back in jeans. It was a funny. Not a dig, and definitely not insensitive.

somedayma Mon 26-Nov-12 21:29:53

confused heaven help people who have to deal with you in real life

EuroShagmore Mon 26-Nov-12 21:19:19

Maybe OP you were insensitive to all the people on your feed who haven't lost their baby weight? Did you think of that before you posted, eh?

atacareercrossroads Mon 26-Nov-12 13:35:08

soooooo you boasted, she boasted back, and you've got the hump? confused

<hopes OP doesnt read too much into use of the word 'hump'>

FestiveDigestive Mon 26-Nov-12 12:46:43

I've seen a couple of Facebook updates with people saying they are back into their old jeans a short time after giving birth. It always makes me cringe a little bit. In the same way that bikini photos (as a profile pic) make me cringe for the person. That's just Facebook though.

leic30 Mon 26-Nov-12 11:52:12

cheung wasn't out looking for well done either as it wasn't about weight. A like and the comment would have felt totally ok in my post birth hormonal brain.
Now realise though how it could be misinterpreted.
Although another friend post a few month ago about getting back into her super skinny jeans. I was only too happy to like the comment.

honeytea Mon 26-Nov-12 11:37:28

Your friend was boasting but you were also boasting.

My policy when it comes to facebook updates is that they should be either funny or interesting. Pasting about your jeans is neither funny nor interesting.

leic30 Mon 26-Nov-12 11:32:12

"Actually it wasn't meant to be a boast about how much weight I had lost as I am still overweight and know it.
It was more about being able to swap baggy clothes as my csection had healed sufficiently.
Maybe though this wasn't clear from my post."

Didn't post it as a boast though although maybe it came across that way.

notso Mon 26-Nov-12 11:27:37

Brag not lest ye be bragged (to) spring to mind.

JustFabulous Mon 26-Nov-12 11:20:15

I think you are seeing things that aren't there as you haven't snapped back to smaller than pre-pregnancy. Not rude. Not insensitive. Just chatty.

HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss Mon 26-Nov-12 11:18:25

Yes mant, not everyone has such a proud [bush] to boast about, be more sensitive grin

WorraLiberty Mon 26-Nov-12 11:16:58

Ahh gotcha wiggles grin

WorraLiberty Mon 26-Nov-12 11:16:05

I think mant was being rude and insensitive to bushless people

wigglesrock Mon 26-Nov-12 11:15:51

WorraLiberty that's my point exactly. She made a comment about clothes as did her friend, why would any of it be insensitive hmm

leic30 Mon 26-Nov-12 11:14:29

Also I do normally lose weight post birth. My last 2 pregnancies (1 twin) resulted in me weighing less at end than at start. Sadly I find it hard to maintain this and end up regaining in after I stop breastfeeding. This time is going to be different.

WorraLiberty Mon 26-Nov-12 11:13:45

Well, by the same token do you feel you were a little rude and insensitive to people reading your facebook page/status/thingy who weren't in their jeans 8 weeks after giving birth?

Why would that be rude or insensitive?

The OP isn't responsible for other people's bodies confused

CheungFun Mon 26-Nov-12 11:12:30

headfirst - I've got grand plans for January 13 which include going back to work and joining some sort of excercise class! I don't snack at work as I always end up trying to answer my emails before the end of the day and rushing! Also I'll have to walk more to drop DS off at nursery so I'm hoping it will all add up! 1 stone to go smile

Sorry for going off topic (slightly :0)

gordyslovesheep Mon 26-Nov-12 11:11:59

I think manti was being rude showing us her bush ...I think yabu

wigglesrock Mon 26-Nov-12 11:11:05

Well, by the same token do you feel you were a little rude and insensitive to people reading your facebook page/status/thingy who weren't in their jeans 8 weeks after giving birth?

GrumpyCynicalBastard Mon 26-Nov-12 11:10:18

Blimey. I've lost the will to live just thinking about your perceived offence at a throwaway non-offensive comment. How do the people around you cope?

Cahooots Mon 26-Nov-12 11:10:15

Yes you are being over sensitive. Maybe she thought you sounded boastful and was teasing you because of it.

Congrats on the baby flowers

leic30 Mon 26-Nov-12 11:09:30

Actually it wasn't meant to be a boast about how much weight I had lost as I am still overweight and know it.
It was more about being able to swap baggy clothes as my csection had healed sufficiently.
Maybe though this wasn't clear from my post.

HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss Mon 26-Nov-12 11:08:34

Cheung I'm 5 years post birth and still haven't got back into my old jeans grin

I still would have congratulated you though leic.

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