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Aibu to feel guilty that I didn't fill in a baby record book for DS2?

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M0naLisa Sat 24-Nov-12 23:45:19

I'm due DS3 any day now and just thought about baby record books and thought about buying one for DS3 but I didn't do one for DS2 so thought against getting one.

DS1 has one

Now I feel guilty for not doing one for DS2 sad

MissCalamity Sun 25-Nov-12 13:45:08

I've got a box for DS with the first baby gro he wore, baby toy, newspaper the day he was born and a few more bits and pieces. I have also got a diary which I filled in whilst I was pregnant and up until he turned 1 eg: sleeps, how much milk he was having, when he crawled etc.. but it has turned into a bit of rant about other non related baby things as well.

I really regret not having any photos taken of me with DS when he was born, there's one of me with him in the pool when he was just born but you can't see my face and because I felt so crap and thought I looked rubbish (which I didn't as I'm in photos with other people holding him next to my hospital bed) I just refused. Who's going to look amazing after they've just given birth??!

I've also not kept much of his newborn clothes / toys as I just shoved them in a charity bag, as we were given lots of stuff when he was born - just a blur of a time back then!

I think as mums we're programmed to feel guilty about everything!! smile

Fresh01 Sun 25-Nov-12 11:31:38

DC1's was filled in. DC2's was partly filled in. For the rest of DC2, DC3 and DC4 I have been noting things in my diary that lives in the kitchen with all the dates for everything in. Have promised myself when DC4 goes to school in a few years I will dig out their books and my old diaries and fill them in!!

marriedinwhite Sun 25-Nov-12 11:24:34

Mine both have their new baby and christening cards in big boxes. DS had a scrap book that I started and kept up for about two years with all his school certificates, first drawings etc.. I have kept all the special stuff for both of them but it is stuffed in drawers round the house to be put in a nice place one day for each of them. They are 18 and 14 btw so there is a lot now.

More special than anything for me is the kitchen door with their heights on it for the last many years which I don't let the decorator paint and the cupboard above the w/machine in the utility inside of which I have stuck in chronological order, the proof picture of every single school photo - now from 3 to almost 18 in one case and 3 to 14 in the other. I sometimes go and have a sloppy look.

What I'm trying to say is it's the special things you do for you children that just happen naturally rather than the contrived little manuals that you can put together.

M0naLisa Sun 25-Nov-12 11:12:06

It's true though I find about first dc and subsequent.

My ds1 was a johnsons baby
Ds2 was a tesco baby
Ds3 will be a charity/give me what you have baby wink

Panzee Sun 25-Nov-12 11:04:55

I found my brother's and my books at my mum's house. I am the second child, so it was practically bare compared to my brother's. I laughed and asked my mum if this is what happens when you have a second child.

I always thought it was funny, it's not guaranteed that the second child will feel neglected. smile

My son's book was faithfully filled in till about 6 months then tailed off dramatically. grin I suppose I'd better get one in for the next one but I can see it being even worse. grin

M0naLisa Sun 25-Nov-12 10:58:41

Saying all this I don't actually know where ds1 book is blush

Yama Sun 25-Nov-12 09:54:35

I did one for dd. A lovely and simple book.

For ds we were given a far more complicated number and I have mixed feelings - wanting to prevent dd feeling hers is lesser and can't-be-arsed-ness. Logging twee feelings along with first is a bit ott.

HappyAsASandboy Sun 25-Nov-12 09:53:29

I would get a book for DC2 and DC3 now and fill in DC2s book with the dates you can remember/guess and make up the rest smile He'll never k ow you made it up (I'd just swear blind to DH that I'd been doing it all along) and there's no negative consequences for anyone smile

I agree with a previous comment that I don't care when I got my first tooth. But I would have loved to look through a baby book about me when my DCs were born. Just nice stories I guess smile

SKYTVADDICT Sun 25-Nov-12 09:46:00

Can you do one now? I am intending to do one for my DD2 who is now 12 and has a massive chip on her shoulder about DD1 having one and then DS1 and DS2 having one (new partner, their dad did it!). I do feel for her but still never got round to doing it. She has put it on her xmas list this year! I MUST DO ONE grin

This is why I blog. It's on the internet forever, as opposed to in a book that will be lost.

SoupDragon Sun 25-Nov-12 09:37:50

I agree - make it up. I even made up chunks of my PFBs one blush

Base any estimates on photos etc - with digital photography they all are dated so you can work out stuff from that.

Bearandcub Sun 25-Nov-12 09:31:22

Make it up, they'll never know and it'll always make you smile wink

lollilou Sun 25-Nov-12 09:29:02

Oh thank goodnesss it's not just me. smile

Bogeyface Sun 25-Nov-12 01:21:38

1st baby....did everything. Filled in the book. kept a lock of his hair, photographed and video'd everything the poor kid did. He thought that the camera was part of me grin

6th baby....lets just say that when I was asked her date of birth recently I got the month and the year wrong blush

Hide the first book, and never mention it.

Jojoba1986 Sun 25-Nov-12 01:09:38

Both my elder brother & my younger sister had them filled out but mine had my name & a scrap of paper with some of my first words scribbled on tucked inside. I discovered this as an emotionally fragile teenager & was devastated. My mum completed the book & presented it to me for my 18th which I really appreciated but it didn't undo the hurt I felt at the time.

I'm now obsessively collecting things for DS1's book which gets put in periodically, when I get the time. I plan on doing the same for DC2 when s/he arrives in June. Hopefully my children won't have the same bullying problems that I did so wouldn't be affected by something so silly but I'll avoid it being an issue if I can!

I think DD2 might have more. When I look back now I think I was a bit depressed after DD1. But I filled in some of her book, kept all her cards and hospital bands etc so didnt do too bad I suppose!

Molehillmountain Sun 25-Nov-12 00:39:14

As I was panicking out loud that I couldn't remember x or y milestone for dd1 fil said "do what everyone else does-make it up". This has worked well for writing up milestones for Ds and dd2. As long as I never confess...

M0naLisa Sun 25-Nov-12 00:31:23

I may buy 2 then and have a go at filling in Ds2. It would guesstimates on timescale etc first spoke, first step (although I know kinda when it was as I had started full time work a week before and missed his first steps sad)

I just feel guilty

charlmarascoxo Sun 25-Nov-12 00:05:06

You should try and do one for DS2.

My mum did things like that for my older sister. I only had half finished stuff.

It has stayed with me and made me feel not as special or important purely because I wasn't born first.

WildWorld2004 Sun 25-Nov-12 00:03:01

Im with a few of you. I started one for dd. Think i managed name & date of birth. I dont have a baby book or much photos of me but im not bothered.

wonderstuff Sat 24-Nov-12 23:59:12

I didn't do one for dc2. TBH I stopped filling in dc1's baby record book soon after I had her - who has time? I do really need to print out some pics of dc2 - we have so many more of dc1.

I can't even remember dc2 being a baby - I have really lovely vivid memories of dc1 - loved those first few months - but with dc2 its all a blur - found it so much harder.

Nursery did a lovely book for both of mine - which is fab I wish I was better at keeping records.

Tweasels Sat 24-Nov-12 23:57:51

I managed about 3 pages for DS, never even got started for DD. I worry about it and then I realise that I don't give a fuck when I got my first tooth so I'm hoping, neither will they.

InNeedOfBrandy Sat 24-Nov-12 23:57:47

I did a calender for dd with every milestone wrote down plus baby book box and a nursery diary and pics, ds got a few lines scribbled in his baby box and his congratulations on being born cards and thats it.

bedmonster Sat 24-Nov-12 23:56:03

DD1 has it all filled in and a scrapbook where I stuck in all her cards we were sent when she was born and all the ones from her first birthday.
DD2 has a partially filled in book and a carrier bag with her cards in.
DS1 has no book and all the cards went in the recycling! I have flicked through similar stuff my mum kept for me with interest and it makes me a little sad I made no effort with DS. However, I got over it and am sure he will too!
YANBU to feel a bit guilty if you did it with your first, but having not done it for your second I wouldn't do one for DC3.
Sorry, that was no help at all!

threesocksmorgan Sat 24-Nov-12 23:54:30

no one does it for number 2

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