to be unexcited by overseas Aunt & Uncle visiting and pull a sickie?

(36 Posts)
ListenUpIdBeAGreatLifeCoachMe Tue 20-Nov-12 12:55:25

My mother has spent the last 3 weeks cleaning her house because my dads brother and wife are on a rare vist to the UK. (DM found a stray spider on Monday, OMG! What would the visitors have thought if they'd seen that)

They are all coming to my house tomorrow to see my house and my children. I doubt the Aunt & Uncle give a flying fuck really but my mum will be fluttering round playing happy families. It will all be a bit judgy and I have n't seen these relatives for ten years.

I have just tidied up a bit but this place is never going to shine. To be honest I've been more motivated to clean for a 5 year old coming round.

AIBU if I pull a sickie tomorrow morning?

ListenUpIdBeAGreatLifeCoachMe Tue 20-Nov-12 20:22:53

Sorry goodiegoodieyumyum sad, I'm sure your relatives are much nicer then me.

Why am I not looking forward to tomorrow?
Although we're civilised, my mother has ocd standards. She will at one point spot a cobweb, sniff and apologise on my behalf.
I'm probably a better cook then my mother who basically buys up M&S for visitors but has got multiple dish/microwave thing down perfect. If I serve up for eg couscous as a side this will be taken as a novelty vegetarian item served mearly to annoy them. They will pick around a fairly normal meal, then stop off at a Harvester on the way home.
My Dad will point out all the DIY things we need to finish
For the benefit of the visitors my DCs will be the focus of a lot of performance grandparenting.

i feel guilty for not enjoying the company of my blood relatives and there will be a lot of back handed compliments.

NamingOfParts Tue 20-Nov-12 20:23:36

I do so get the performing seals thing

The problem for us is that everything is translated through DM/MiL's Happy Families Translation App.

I get told that a relative is visiting DM and my 'that's nice' is translated in DM's head to 'oh, I really do want to meet them again especially as I havent seen them since my christening'.

Of course it is done in reverse as well so that relative then thinks that we are desperate to see them.

Make tea and have an unavoidable appointment to go to when the conversation starts to flag.

MrsHoarder Tue 20-Nov-12 20:28:45

Surely if they're out of the UK they muss chip shop chips, that's what you need the money for.

ListenUpIdBeAGreatLifeCoachMe Tue 20-Nov-12 20:40:27

NamingOfParts my mum has certainly got that app. The last visitors, who desperately wanted to go to the Eden Project, got dragged over here because my mum had fabricated in her head that my house was a worthy rival. As we sat here, in a cold house looking out of the window at the drizzle,flicking thru my Tim Smit book discussing the brilliance of the pastys and the season tickets, my mother maintained a perfect poker face.

giveitago Tue 20-Nov-12 20:43:03

Mrs Hoarder - they might be out of the UK but not from the UK so may honestly not miss shop chips. I'm from the UK and was out of the Uk and certainly didn't miss shop chips (if you mean chip shops).

I have plenty of family and ils out of the UK - regardless of whether they are out or never in I also don't really relish the hassle but just go along with it if it's only for a day.

But I'm certainly not waiting for them like I've been waiting all my life for a blessed visit.

MrsHoarder Tue 20-Nov-12 21:13:22

Sorry I was making a lighthearted comment about what to do with the money supplied. I was just suggesting that its something that could be done which isn't lots of effort and stress.

McChristmasPants2012 Tue 20-Nov-12 21:48:22

I really don't care how long someone has travelled, I will not put up with rude guests that comment and judgy comments and my DC are not a toy to be made to preform for relatives

You come to see me and not my house and judge me.

ListenUpIdBeAGreatLifeCoachMe Thu 22-Nov-12 09:42:36

Update I did n't pull a sickie. Although tempted by presenting em with two, portions of chips, an oap special and half a dozen pea fritters went for buffet style chicken, small roasties and numerous salads.

We will know be eating numerous salads for the rest of the week.

The weather was ok, so we managed to get out for a walk which makes thing so much easier. The girls were entertaining and entertained. My dad did n't get to huffy about his brother teasing him. Restrained performance grandparenting. I restricted the visit to 11.45 to 5.00 which was enough.

Lesson learnt:entertaining so much easier when weather ok and DCs are 7&5.
Thinks back and rocks backwards and forwards to previous oversea visit. Torrential rain, 10.30 to 6.00, baby & toddler stage, Great aunt with mobility issues in semi derelict building site that was our home, my mum glowing brightly with judgy wit-isms. Dad sulking due to lack of cream with dessert.

overseas visitors, I'll not dread look forward to seeing you again and the DDs are going to send you a xmas card.

echt Thu 22-Nov-12 09:54:26

Look on it as payback for when your DCs need somewhere to crash on their gap year.

egusta Thu 22-Nov-12 09:58:31

That is a nice update OP. Glad it went well. smile

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 22-Nov-12 10:12:31

smile

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