'DH' sets his alarm for 06.10 but doesn't bloody get up until 6.45!

(68 Posts)
sandyballs Tue 20-Nov-12 09:02:43

He snoozes it and drifts off into another lovely sleep, I'm lying there FUMING.
He don't get what the problem is. I don't want to wake up that early every bloody morning. angry

Bramshott Tue 20-Nov-12 10:18:29

I feel very nauseous if I get up straight away when the alarm goes off, so I can sympathise to a certain extent with your DH. However, 10 mins of lying listening to the radio is enough to make me feel human. Could your DH have a 6.30 alarm instead?

"wonder why he wouldn't rather have an extra proper hour of sleep than a broken hour of shitty dozing"
^^ THIS!
And I speak as someone who used to be a snooze addict - it is essentially a pointless and very annoying habit.

lottiegarbanzo Tue 20-Nov-12 10:40:00

The OP said her DP did not understand the problem. I do find that lack of empathy incredible (not saying he is a psychopath grin just using it as a measure of lack of empathy). All it takes is to listen and imagine being in the other person's situation, or just believing them.

All those who have difficulty waking up and resort to snoozes, that's fine but it is completely separate from saying that it is acceptable to impose the consequent disruption on someone else.

Surely you would only choose to behave this way towards someone whose well-being and happiness you care nothing for?

Yeah I have to agree with you lottie.

Woodlands Tue 20-Nov-12 10:56:51

My DH and I both do this blush. Some mornings we can have our two alarm clocks and two phones each taking turns to go off for ages...

BellaTheGymnast Tue 20-Nov-12 10:58:17

Kill him while he sleeps.

maybenow Tue 20-Nov-12 11:04:27

I need 20mins to wake up in the morning - I have a light alarm now which comes on for 30mins then beeps and I can get up. But other times i've used snooze or a radio alarm where I can't reach so the radio stays on once it's on.

It's not a habit. It's the time it takes me to reach consciousness. When I was a student in halls and we had middle of the night fire alarms it was hell trying to get out for evacuation - i genuinely couldn't walk and once i fell down a massive flight of stairs hurting myself badly. If i try to get straight out of bed the minute my alarm goes off i have fainted more than once and also tend to walk into doorframes.

Some people just sleep very very deeply. And i'd guess it's mainly men on here because people on here are mainly parents and mothers have hormonal changes after birth that makes them more alert to their infant but if you asked on a forum for people pre-children it would be more even between the sexes.

sandy if he's not getting why you are bothered, would a week of you setting your alarm for 5.25am & hitting the snooze button for 45 minutes help him understand?

My house mate does this. Sets it for before seven but won't get out out bed until twenty to eight. Used to be ten to but we got pressed off about him hogging the bathroom before all of us had to leave. He also used to have two alarms, the other was fucking bird noises that wouldn't wake him up --but would wake everybody else ffs- at 6:15. Gah. I thought I was bad with my twenty minute 'lay in' alarm system!

SooticaTheWitchesCat Tue 20-Nov-12 11:17:39

I set my alarm for 7 but often don't get up until 7.30. Oddly enough my Dh gets annoyed about that, I have no idea why wink

AnnaBegins Tue 20-Nov-12 11:30:17

Both DH and I snooze our alarms, BUT, DH gets up an hour before me, and whereas my alarm just buzzes, he has to have his set as the most rousing loud music he can find. But this isn't to wake him up, oh no, it's so I wake up with a jump and kick him until he gets up. Aargh!!!

quoteunquote Tue 20-Nov-12 11:40:21

buy a audio pillow,plug phone in and use the alarm on phone, then only the person using the pillow hears the alarm

Crinkle77 Tue 20-Nov-12 11:54:13

people laugh at me when I say this but separate rooms are the way to go - or ear plugs. I am a very light sleeper and find it difficult sleeping with someone else. Ear plugs have deffo been my saviour

Jojoba1986 Tue 20-Nov-12 12:13:42

I'm suffering from pregnancy-insomnia at the moment so I'm sleeping in a different room anyway, on a different floor of the house & still his ridiculously loud alarms wake me before him! sad

WineGoggles Tue 20-Nov-12 16:16:08

"people laugh at me when I say this but separate rooms are the way to go"

Not me, I think separate rooms (or preferably separate houses!) is much better than cohabiting, especially the sharing a bedroom malarkey (with all the associated annoyances such as alarm clocks, snoring and bed hogging).

AncientsOfMuMu Tue 20-Nov-12 16:19:58

My sister's dp used to do this. She cut the plug off. grin

Chandon Tue 20-Nov-12 16:22:10

oh, I love DH, but I also love sleeping alone...

Spuddybean Tue 20-Nov-12 16:36:05

for me i set the alarm when i have to get up and i know when it goes off i have to get up. I never snooze as it would be horrible to lay there and just drift off when the alarm went off again, and then to continue repeating it would be cruel torture.

I shared a house with my ex best friend who worked shifts and did this. She set the alarm an hour and a half before she actually had to be up and snoozed every 10 mins till then. It was awful. When i would seriously discuss this with her she would laugh at me angry and say it made her feel like she was having more sleep by being woken up just to know she could go back to sleep again. She was always shattered, but would dismiss me when i suggested an extra hour and a half of PROPER sleep might be the answer. she now lives with my exH so i hope she is torturing him in the same way!

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