Petershadow
Sat 17-Nov-12 06:44:17
he had a big boys lunch yesterday. So started at midday. Also a big night on Thursday.
We have friends coming to stay today, his best friend, he's to be no help at all. I need to go shopping, they'll be here by 10.
We are all going out tonight, he's going to be tired and grumpy, I don't get out that often
He is always tired, we've talked about burning the candle at both ends
He also knows that DS has been really trying, massive tantrums and knows that I am very upset about it and could do with some help, support and back up.
He sent me a message on his way home, saying sorry
But he's done this a fair few times now
grobagsforever
Sat 17-Nov-12 17:50:17
Ha, no worries grim. OP why did you let him get away with sleeping in? You do need to have serious words. Is he a good husband in other ways?
Knowsabitabouteducation
Sat 17-Nov-12 17:56:58
How many times a year, or in a five year period, does he do this kind of thing?
Personally, I think it is quite normal for very decent men to "lose track of time" on this scale maybe once or twice a year. It's hard-wired into their DNA. You have to accept it as one of their flaws and hope they accept your flaws too.
This is not the same as someone staying out till all hour on a very frequent basis (eg weekly/fortnightly).
StuntGirl
Sat 17-Nov-12 18:00:42
No it is not "hard wired into their DNA" 
TheCountessOlenska
Sat 17-Nov-12 18:13:16
God, don't do the guest preparation - he can do that surely. If it doesn't get done, explain to your friends that he was too hungover! That's what I'd do.
You have to accept it as one of their flaws
Guff
GrimAndHumourless
Sat 17-Nov-12 19:22:07
guffaw at selfish behaviour being hardwired into men
nah love selfish git more like
Petershadow
Tue 20-Nov-12 22:07:44
So
We went out together on sat night. Bed at 2am
Sunday, stayed in, bed 11ish
Last night we went to the movies together
Today he has had a client lunch that once again turned into a dinner
he's out tomorrow with a friend
And we have a party to go to on Friday
I am never going to let him tell me he is tired
He can still do all these things, he just has to be an adult and deal with the consequences. no moaning, no stroppiness, parents and works just like normal. I cannot understand why some people don't understand their priorities have to change when they become parents. I would love to go out on the martinis every Friday night. I can't because DD is up at 6.30am really before 6am but I can't face the truth and I have to parent.
