to think everyone thinks everyone else is going to loads of parties

(66 Posts)
sarahseashell Wed 14-Nov-12 17:47:57

what is this 'party season' of which they keep on about in magazines etc. Is everyone really deluged with party invitations confused I'm quite old and never find myself having to buy loads of frocks and wonder which christmas party to attend etc
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Bunbaker Thu 15-Nov-12 19:09:17

OH works for himself and is very unsociable anyway, both of our families are hundreds of miles away and don't have parties and neither of us are members of any clubs. My work do is in January at a well known holiday park (I have no intention of going as I prefer to sleep in my own bed at night rather than in a room with someone I barely know and then share a bathroom with a load of others I barely know).

I have a couple of different sets of friends I meet with regularly and we will probably just have a meal out rather than a party.

In my life I just don't know anyone who has these "magazine" parties

WkdSM Thu 15-Nov-12 11:52:35

We do quite a bit at Christmas but we do belong to quite a few clubs and do a bit of fundraising so we tend to get a few 'thank you' invites.

Velvet Boden dresses - yuch - would not be seen dead in one - did manage to pick up a black full length fishtail Coast dress for £15 for a local charity shop though!

The one I dread is DH's work do. He runs the company so I have to be on best behaviour. Spent most of last years do trying to make sure a younger employee was not getting off with a Director (as he had been married a few weeks and she was just about to get married). Sigh - that's when you know you are getting older..........

I really like the ones where they have carol singers - makes me feel all Christmacy.

We've put off a Christmsa lunch we were organising to January now as everyone is so busy before Christmas. Gives us something to look forward to and get out a sparkly handbag...........

blibbleflop Thu 15-Nov-12 11:48:32

I'm quite looking forward to my Christmas do. Not too enthused by the menu but the open bar is always fun smile

Mrsjay Thu 15-Nov-12 11:38:57

Lorraine kelly was going on about party season and she wheels out that 'uhu' bloke to tell us what we should be wearing , I switch it off, even my single very social sister never goes to all these parties

TeentheBean Thu 15-Nov-12 11:36:05

I think the days of works Christmas parties are long gone, just not affordable in the current climate. The last one I went to was pants anyway, everyone in the firm sitting in a large room (not decorated in any Christmassy shape or form) eating a bland meal and once everyone had finished eating, the bar closed, the lights went on and the staff came out with mops and buckets. Came away feeling all dressed up and nowhere to go, certainly not guaranteed to fill anyone with the Christmas spirit. grin

I often wonder who these people are. When I worked FT, we had one Christmas do, then a smaller group of us from work might go out for drinks/ lunch one day around Christmas but that was about it. I meet up with old school friends for a meal between Christmas and New Year when we're all back in one place visiting parents but that's a casual dress thing usually in a pub or chain like Zizzi (must be for my benefit that it's been kept that way as all my friends are solicitors and doctors earning several times my salary!) We sometimes meet up with DH's geek friends over the Christmas period too. None of the few Christmas get-togethers I attend are dressy affairs which require a new outfit!! I wish they were - I feel like I'm missing out! sad

StiffyByng Thu 15-Nov-12 11:16:23

I think this every year. I haven't had cause to dress up in anything velvet since my early 20s. Our work Christmas party (public sector) is £5 a head to go straight after work to a windowless conference room where crisps and wine boxes are offered until 11pm. I see all the stuff in magazines about party food and clothes and it's a completely different world! I have always thought I was just very unpopular so this thread is rather heartening.

ReindeerBollocks Thu 15-Nov-12 11:11:41

DH and I used to go to works parties then as an automatic, we would get invited to lots of chambers parties too. It was a good opportunity to go out and get trollied over Christmas.

Now he works for himself its much more difficult to negotiate parties so we don't bother. Plus I SAH, so don't get a works do either.

TabbyM Thu 15-Nov-12 11:08:46

Not just me then...

I have an office one (just a meal) and one with a group of DH and that's it. Our families are v low key too.

sweetheart Thu 15-Nov-12 09:39:34

Bun,
Dh and i both have a work xmas function, plus I play a team sport and we have a Chrismtas meal for that. Dh plays cards with friends and they go for a big night at a casino in December, my daughter plays a team sport so we have a parents Christmas function for that. The school mums usually go out for Christmas drinks and we also have a friends get together. Our street is also very close and full of children so we usually have a Christmas Street party and organise a secret santa for the kids and on top of that we have 4 family birthdays in December which will usually mean a meal out for each.

wordfactory Thu 15-Nov-12 09:23:02

I usually get invited to a few but that's probably because I have a portfolio career IYSWIM.

And one of my girlfriends always throws an xmas party just for her female friends. It's a hoot. She does her house up like an Lampoon's Christmas and orders in food and drink and waiter service. But you could just as easily go in jeans as a frock IYSWIM.

HullyEastergully Thu 15-Nov-12 09:10:43

Christmas is just a great excuse for even more get-togethers and piss-ups than usual. Fab.

valiumredhead Thu 15-Nov-12 09:02:21

I have one xmas get-together at a restaurant with a group of 10 or so friends - that's my party season grin

Eliza22 Thu 15-Nov-12 08:50:57

I love this thread..... Makes my Scrooge-like "bah humbug" attitude to Christmas parties look quite normal. The very idea of all that, makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up.

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips Thu 15-Nov-12 08:46:03

I organise my work Christmas do and by god I like to make sure that people have a good time. Free bar, decent food and a venue swish enough to make use of the sparkliest of dresses and beadiest of bags! The downside is that I never enjoy it because I'm always worried about OTHER PEOPLE enjoying themselves (and I don't like having too many drinks in the presence of my boss, who still thinks I'm the consummate professional...little does he know...)

MrsCantSayAnything Thu 15-Nov-12 07:08:29

I think people with a wide social circle...and those who take part in a lot of hobbies and activities are bound to get lots of invitations. Its a very middle class thing isn't it? Having time and money to go sailing/play cricket/do amateur dramatics....whatever you do....and people who do things like that are sociable.

Bunbaker Wed 14-Nov-12 22:16:24

"Oh blimey I wish it was mythical! We are mad in December, every date gets booked up months in advance and as even started spreading into November. I end up dreading most of it"

So how do you get to go to so many parties then? Our work do is in January at a holiday camp. I will probably go out for a meal with some mum friends in December, but we don't really "party" We don't give parties and none of our friends do either.

wonderstuff Wed 14-Nov-12 21:59:04

My work do got cancelled because not enough people wanted to go - dh has one but we aren't going to go because with hiring a tux, getting a dress + cost of transport - all to spend an evening with people we don't really like all that much - we decided better to spend the money on a day out with the kids (steam engine to see santa). A mate is having one, its tarts and vicars themed - no posh dress needed.

sweetheart Wed 14-Nov-12 21:48:31

Oh blimey I wish it was mythical! We are mad in December, every date gets booked up months in advance and as even started spreading into November. I end up dreading most of it.

TwitchyTail Wed 14-Nov-12 21:44:42

I've never been to more than one Christmas party (at a push) in any given year, and certainly none that have required a sequinned "party dress" and matching bag.

So it's either a myth, or everyone hates me.

Fairyliz Wed 14-Nov-12 21:39:24

Ha you need to work in the public sector; we use to have great parties. Lots of snogging and shagging went on at the Christmas do. Must have been the excitement of getting away from local government offices t a local hotel!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 14-Nov-12 21:13:39

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that these parties are mythical. The sales & marketing Christmas party at work is fairly hair-raising but I'm not invited sad

MoomieAndFreddie Wed 14-Nov-12 20:57:26

ha i know, i always think this when i read shit magazines

MrsCantSayAnything Wed 14-Nov-12 20:18:32

Sarah it's the magazine's job to sell a lifestyle. That's all it is.

Coffeeformeplease Wed 14-Nov-12 20:15:10

The Christmas work do I really miss, they were absolutely mad, I loved them. Oh well. This year I'll have a night out with my Zumba class, I'm curious. Husband's work does children#s x-mas party, nothing for spouses.
I do my own x-mas party then pah

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