To think that you shouldn't keep your 8 year old up all evening just because it's Friday?

(115 Posts)
BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:12:16

Or am I seriously off the mark? (Have been before on here!)

A "friend" on facebook (I know I know) has just posted that she and her DD are just about to watch another film and eat more choc.

Is that odd? hmm

Or am I reaaally old fashioned?

My DD is also 8 and if I had her up at this time she'd be a nightmare!

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:29:33

I don't know if I COULD watch a chik flick with DD even when she's 20! I might be embarrassed! What if there was a sex scene? And yes I DO talk to them about periods etc...but I wouldnt watch a chick flick with them!

midori1999 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:29:44

Some people actually like spending time with their DC... hmm

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:31:24

OP everyone is different.

I like my kids in bed or at least in their rooms at a time me and DH deem appropriate.

But that's not to say it suits everyone...there's no right or wrong is there?

Like someone said upthread, some working parents feel they don't see enough of their kids in the week so if it suites them to let them stay up, what's the harm?

Different strokes that's all.

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:31:59

And my ability to spell has been kidnapped sad

SummerRain Sat 06-Oct-12 00:32:03

My 7 year old didn't get home til 9.30 (her bf is 12 years younger than her siblings so their house tends to run on adult times). She was full of beans and was still reading when dp and my takeaway arrived gone 10... I think her light is off now but can't be 100%. She'll still be up earlier than anyone else, the only reason I sent her yo bed was coz we like to watch grown up tv on a Friday night!

All three of mine stay up til midnight when we go to my parents for dinner as my parents eat late and we chat after.

When I was little I was often allowed to stay up with the grown ups, I loved it and it did me no harm.

Don't see a problem as long as mom and daughter are enjoying themselves.

usualsuspect3 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:32:13

Does it matter what other people do with their DCs?

Just because they do stuff you don't ,so what?

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:32:33

Midori thanks for that....I DO of course...but in the day..out and about. DOING THINGS>...not watching films at bloody 11 in the night!

midori1999 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:33:55

You're welcome...

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:34:14

Usual you don't need to get snarky with me. I wasn't mean or anything.

I am getting heartily pissed off with MN. I know this is AIBU but people don't real all the thread...they don't pick up on nuances or when the OP has in a roundabout way admitted they are BU...and they KEEP PILING IN! It's fucking boring! No discussion.

Just a load of yobs wading in.

santaisNOTathreat Sat 06-Oct-12 00:34:36

i have a motive, if she is at home with me drinking wine and watching a DVD she will not be doing it lol

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:35:13

It used to be full of banter...even AIBU was amusing. Now it's all just cunty and horrid.

People seem frustrated and enjoy wading in.

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:35:24

I DO of course...but in the day..out and about. DOING THINGS>...not watching films at bloody 11 in the night!

You don't sound happy with your choices?

Are you feeling guilty for some reason?

If you are, you shouldn't be...as long as you and yours are happy, that's all that matters surely?

usualsuspect3 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:35:31

I'm genuinely puzzled why you give a shit about what other parents do though.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:36:34

I don't Usual! It's just fucking banter on the internet! I was bored. I read someones FB and thought "Shit...I couldn't be arsed with that!" and decided to see what MN thought.

Obviously I'm just a twat though.

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:36:34

Sorry, who's been cunty and horrid?

<< scrolls back to check >>

TellMeLater Sat 06-Oct-12 00:37:00

I asked my dd (9) what she would like to do as a special treat and her reply was stay up and watch films to midnight, snuggled up on the sofa with me - that says it all.....and she will, it's such a nice thing to do, if I can stop myself falling asleep.

usualsuspect3 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:37:50

Bloody hell.

<goes to bed>

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:38:17

TellMe I've woken up in the past with my DS's saying "Mum, it's time for bed...we'll tell you how the film ended in the morning" blush

Startailoforangeandgold Sat 06-Oct-12 00:38:20

jinsie hits the nail on the head, some DCs don't do tired and grumpy and don't try it on if they are allowed the odd late night.

There is of course a totally selfish reason to do this with smaller children.

Possibly they'll sleep later on Sat morningwink

Doesn't work with DD2, she bounced up full of beans regardless (just at 11 starting to have the faintest hint of teenage sleepyness).

AgentZigzag Sat 06-Oct-12 00:38:41

Yobs? I don't mind that, it makes me feel a bit young blush

I agree I want them to f off to bed so we can Not Think, but I can understand why it might not be too bad watching a film with them if you've got nothing else on.

HolyAutumnGoldBatman Sat 06-Oct-12 00:38:46

It's not really a discussion type topic though is it? Somebody elses child's Friday/one-off bedtime routine?!

YABU. It's fine to stay up late now and again. I think it sounds lovely, having a sleepover with your mum! It's sounds like a really nice bonding thing.

DC1 (age 8) goes to bed at 9pm, but is still up and down, reading, tossing and turning wide awake at 11:30pm on a school night. Still gets up at 7am no problem and isn't tired during the day. Some kids just don't need that much sleep.

Jinsei Sat 06-Oct-12 00:39:23

I only have one dd and she is genuinely good company. I don't need her to go to bed so that I can relax or enjoy my evening - I'm happy to have her around. But I can understand why some parents might feel that way.

hatesponge Sat 06-Oct-12 00:39:28

When you're working FT, the evenings can be the only time you get with DC.

Hence being somewhat laissez-faire with bedtimes...

I don't understand people packing children off to bed early so they can have me/couple time. But then if I was at home all day I suppose I might feel differently.

santaisNOTathreat Sat 06-Oct-12 00:40:05

op as your claws are out, i will say i have been up at silly o'clock watching dvd with ds. He is ASD and i have updated my statues because people don't belive me when i have said i have been up since 3am and in work at 6:30am

i do not sleep, i just calculated in 7 days i have slept 24 hours 25 hours the max. What else is it to do

TellMeLater Sat 06-Oct-12 00:40:32

I'm only up late tonight worra because I fell asleep on the sofa during Strictly...I am regressing, I love my naps.

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