To think that you shouldn't keep your 8 year old up all evening just because it's Friday?

(115 Posts)
BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:12:16

Or am I seriously off the mark? (Have been before on here!)

A "friend" on facebook (I know I know) has just posted that she and her DD are just about to watch another film and eat more choc.

Is that odd? hmm

Or am I reaaally old fashioned?

My DD is also 8 and if I had her up at this time she'd be a nightmare!

midori1999 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:15:25

Some people don't have bed times for their DC, especially at weekends.

Perhaps it's a treat, perhaps it's a special occasion or important anniversary or maybe she just wants to sit up and have some time with her DD? Either way, I can't see it matters as long as she's not tired at school on Monday.

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:15:49

Haha! My 13yr old is fast asleep by about 10pm on a Friday cos he's knackered and loves his sleep!

However, you don't know (presumably) whether the child's been to school or not, what time she got up and whether this is a one off treat?

I seriously doubt anyone can keep an 8yr old up if they want to sleep though.

Meh, it's not something I could get worked up about.

missymoomoomee Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:05

On a saturday night I let my dc stay up as long as they like, we have a night watching films and eating pizza snuggled up under duvets on the couch we usually all end up falling asleep together too. I love it. DH hates it and ends up going to bed earlier instead of watching High School Musical 1 2 and 3 or some other such nonsense.

Spero Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:09

I think it depends a lot on the child. Mine is 7 and she won't sleep much before 10pm. Apparently I was the same as a child. I get her into bed by 9pm on school nights and sometimes she stays up later on Fridays and Saturdays. She is usually up around 7 am and seems fine. But regardless of child, surely as an occasional treat it can do no harm?

PinkFairyDust Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:11

My friends child who is 4 goes to bed at midnight....they let her watch whatever, ie big brother
She always falls asleep on the sofa and then her Dad carries her up to bed think both are bad to be honest and wind me up as she is so tired the next day and mum gets cross

AgentZigzag Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:31

'Keeping' them up, or letting them stay up?

I would say at 8 that they'd drop off when they're ready.

Ours went to bed late tonight, but it means they sleep in later tomorrow.

santaisNOTathreat Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:37

from my pov with DS it would mean he stays up late and still up 5am (should get off MN) but dd sleeps untill 9-10am on the weekends.

normally i am in bed now, but i am having a much needed night off, still up 5am lol.

with dd it would mean we get up at 11ish and feel rather refreshed

katykuns Sat 06-Oct-12 00:17:42

I have had my DD up 10-10.30 in the past, but any later and she will be awful the next day. Even when she goes to bed late, she will still get up early.

However, if her DD doesn't have trouble with lateness, and they aren't doing anything actually inappropriate, then it's really not your business is it?

Jinsei Sat 06-Oct-12 00:18:52

Ahem...my 7yo dd has only just gone to bed. She might sleep in a bit in the morning to catch up, but actually she needs very little sleep and never seems to get tired. I'm strict about bedtimes in the week, but I don't mind bending the rules at weekends!

AgentZigzag Sat 06-Oct-12 00:18:57

'I would say at 8 that they'd drop off when they're ready'

I don't know why I've said it at just 8, any age would sleep when they're nackered and ready for it.

katykuns Sat 06-Oct-12 00:19:43

I also personally wouldn't make a habit of it simply because the evenings are mine and DP sanity time :P

santaisNOTathreat Sat 06-Oct-12 00:20:51

I also personally wouldn't make a habit of it simply because the evenings are mine and DP sanity time :P

<gavel>

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 00:21:12

My Mum and Dad used to take us to the British Legion nearly every weekend when we were kids.

We used to fall into bed around 12.30am, happy as Larry and full of fizzy orange and Golden Wonder crisps.

Happy Days grin

dearprudence Sat 06-Oct-12 00:21:34

Might be perfectly reasonable in the circs, might not be. Without knowing a lot more about this family none of us could possibly say.

LDNmummy Sat 06-Oct-12 00:23:18

I don't think its a problem at 8 as it sounds like they are having a cuddle while watching the telly.

I can't wait till my DD is about that age so we can do the same thing (maybe not after midnight but still late'ish), in fact its the thing I am most looking forward to as a parent in the near future.

The child will probably fall asleep soon and it might be a one off even.

deleted203 Sat 06-Oct-12 00:23:21

I don't mind bending the rules at weekends, but I'm buggered if I want a kid still up at midnight! I do want a bit lot of 'me' time. I'm sick of ruddy kids by about 9.30pm at the latest.

hatesponge Sat 06-Oct-12 00:24:17

I always let both DSs stay up later on Friday and Sat nights, usually as long as they wanted. I work FT and have never got home before 6.30-7, so made no sense to me to rush them off to bed, esp at weekends.

TellMeLater Sat 06-Oct-12 00:24:56

Up to you what time you judge appropriate, I like my head space so I like them in bed by 10.00 at the weekends but I wouldn't get all judgey if someone allowed their child to stay up later. School nights are a different thing though.

Jinsei Sat 06-Oct-12 00:26:33

Thing is, some kids don't get grumpy if they're up late, and they're fine the next day. That might be hard to get your head around if you have a child who doesn't cope well with late nights.

Also, I guess it might be a problem if you spend the evening watching tv that might be inappropriate, but it's rarely on in our house, so that's not an issue.

AgentZigzag Sat 06-Oct-12 00:26:38

Ooooh, late night cwtch up on the setee, it'd be wrong to go and poke DD2 to wake her up wouldn't it? grin

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:27:33

God I must be evil! By abut 7.30pm I'm tired of DC and want to be alone. or with DH.

Is that bad??

santaisNOTathreat Sat 06-Oct-12 00:28:13

i am looking forward to sharing fine wines and chick flicks with DD when she is alot older alot older, so she needs to learn how to keep up with me. early training and all that

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 00:28:18

I want to know...don't people NEED to get shut of them by 9 or so??

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