AIBU to think there are a lot of posters outraged by benign/factual observations?

(40 Posts)
Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 15:09:39

Just a little note to the professionally outraged Mumsnetters who object to people commenting on their bump size, the age gap of their kids, how small/tall their children are, what they're wearing etc etc....

People aren't actually particularly interested in your pregnancy/family planning/child's development/sartorial choices - they are making polite conversation. A huge majority of the time it is not meant as an insult. It is a passing - possibly inane - comment.

I think a few people need to see past their own noses. Or grow thicker skins.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 03-Oct-12 15:48:45

I quite like these threads too.
As a Middle Aged Woman I keep meaning to give young mums with kids a funny look in the supermarket, just to see if anyone starts a thread about it.
But I don't know how, what is a funny look?

NolaFfing Wed 03-Oct-12 15:53:05

I read that as "As a middle ages woman" LBE. <glasses>

Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 15:53:15

I do find myself smile nervously at other mums in the street nowadays in case a non-commital glance ends up on here as a 'judgemental sneer'.

ChaoticismyLife Wed 03-Oct-12 15:53:35

I used to sit in one of our local shopping centres waiting for a bus home and half the time I ended up getting the next bus instead. The reason for this being that I'd end up chatting to an older person who would, just before leaving, give my child(ren) a sweet. They always asked first wrt the sweets, never had anyone just giving one to them.

The one thing I couldn't stand though would be to have my bump rubbed/patted, luckily it never happened.

Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 15:53:41

Smile? Smiling

OhChristFENTON Wed 03-Oct-12 15:55:47

::raises handbag and goes Ooooooo::

Actually I too miss the attention I got whilst blooming in pregnancy.

(Apart from the one time I was reduced to tears by one woman who almost jumped off the pavement when seeing my enormous DS2 bump, - to be fair though that was the day the stretch marks started pinging open like overstretched perished lycra and I realised I would never wear a bikini again, ever)

And I miss the cooing a ah-ing over my children, - they are still gorgeous and wonderful of course but possibly don't draw the crowds like they used to when they were cute.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 03-Oct-12 15:59:46

I think so far we have learned that anything I'm offended about was intentionally designed to cast aspersions on me, and anything the rest of them are offended about is them being precious PFBs.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 03-Oct-12 16:01:31

Oh, and my "thinking" is the rest of you beeeatches' "Overthinking"

Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 16:02:38

<bit scared of jamie>

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 03-Oct-12 16:04:17

Yes, I meant to sound scary.

Or did I?

grin

elizaregina Wed 03-Oct-12 16:25:02

totally agree with Proud....

I was caught out the other day - I was late for MW appt, couldnt park in docs surgery - not been driving long and not confident at parking, had an awful headache and lots of things on my mind, was rushing in door to surgery - and bumped into a friend and I made a silly comment about her bump, that after I realied could be construed as very in senstive,...

i did apologise to her - and say - i didnt relaly think it - i was just flustered etc...she is VERY SWEET and would never moan or complain, but i imagine alot of m netters would have been ....out raged.

you are so right - often its just conversation....just thinking of something to say!

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 03-Oct-12 16:26:55

I used to be sensitive when I was younger. It's very tiring/tiresome TBH. I think you just have to assume no offence intended or just shrug it off. People who say nasty things generally have their own problems

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 03-Oct-12 16:35:02

Actually, I'm going into town tomorrow.
<Practices funny looks in the mirror>.

Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 17:10:45

Eliza - I think Mumsnet makes utter nervous wrecks out of all of us in real life!

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 03-Oct-12 17:18:09

I love any story that includes the phrase 'voice dripping with sarcasm'.

'So this witch of an old woman came over to me smiling and offered (can you belive the brass neck of it?) with a voice dripping with sarcasm to help me with my shopping and then gave (and I'm still shaking at the memory) the kids a Werthers Original!'

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