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Dd is 14 months am pg due in aug with dc2. V tired at the mo and suffering insomnia and intermittent cramps that have me unable to move for a few hours.

Last week dh and I were meant to have a date night on wed but inlaws couldn't babysit so we cancelled. This week I had plans for tonight (which I told dh but he says I didn't and i can be q forgetful) but he arranged for pil to come over to babysit. I said for him to cancel their visit tonight so they can babysit next wed instead (fil takes a night off work but likes to spend time with his gd) and in any case we'll prob see them at the weekend as fil bday is Val day and then next weekend too as the 18th is dh bday.

I did suggest we do a joint thing for dh and fil as their bdays are 4 days apart (and would separately do a meal with friends for dh too) but dh said he wanted his own celebration, sigh.

We're due to visit my folks at the weekend but dh has invited them over tomorrow night to see dd as he is going out. I love my parents and his but feel a bit overloaded seeing them all so much when I just wAnt to be in my pjs lie down, watch tv and sleep. Plus Im at work tomorrow which means dd is at nursery Nd will be v tired, grouchy and sleep at seven so seems a pointless visit for my folks (but they'll do it as they love their gd).

The house is a mess and I now need to make dinner for everyone tonight & tomorrow (dh says get take away but in Asian culture ppl will think I'm unhospitable if I do that).

We live an hour away from each set of inlaws. They're all great with dd but so full on you need a break to recover (!).

Just feeling overwhelmed.

I'm not surprised. That's a great big ball of stuff

Can you break it down and look at each thing individually? I find if you do that, things appear more manageable as no one thing is that big a deal, iyswim.

Thanks, I wouldn't mind visiting at the weekend but just feel I'm being ambushed in my own home. We usually see each set of parents every other week...

maybe you should get a take away and just not care what people think - anyone would understand given the circumstances no matter what culture you are (i think?) big hugs for you - that is a lot to deal with

Would ready meals that you have "cooked" get around the cultural problem? Just hid the cartons before they get there.

I agree - look at each bit on its own, and ask DH for help (as he has asked for extra visits - your parents - and events - seperate birthday celebrations) - things like cleaning or setting tables could be useful.....

Your DH did quite a bit of this inviting - so he needs to pick up some of the duties associated with it and take the pressure off!!!

Thanks, think feeling I'll plus pg hormones are making me feel worse. Going to let dh deal with the cooking, cleaningetc while I sleep in the bedroom...

I second the ready meals .. transfer them to your own oven proof dishes...

I like that idea too! Recently I took some home cooked food from the freezer, put in pans etc

As my folks said you shouldn't have gone to any effort dh says... Oh she just took it out the freezer

Can't you just throw yourself on their mercy and get them to bring dinner and entertain child while you go upstairs and leave them to it?

My MIL would have loved that.

That's pretty much what i've done Katie. Having a rest while they play / feed dd dinner. Much needed

Brilliant, well done you!

The irony is the IL's will probably feel all good about themselves afterwards as were wanted and needed. Far better than if you had killed yourself to entertain them and grudged the precious resting time