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AIBU?

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to wish that disappeared husband should help buy night pants for ds/ food/help at all.

26 replies

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:23

No chance. obviously.

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ballstoit · 22/05/2011 21:24

YANBU. I'm with you, and hacked off too.

Perhaps we should start a nobhead ex thread?

whomovedmychocolate · 22/05/2011 21:24

Yes he should. CSA?

ShellyBoobs · 22/05/2011 21:24

Of course YANBU.

:(

MoldovanHardHatporn · 22/05/2011 21:25

And there is the reason he is your ex.

StayFr0sty · 22/05/2011 21:27

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UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:33

I'll join in nobhead ex thread. I have had enough actually.

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UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:34

youve made me have a small cry.

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DontCallMePeanut · 22/05/2011 21:35

I'll join too! Grin

Oh wait... He's not a complete nob... He sent £20 for each birthday and Christmas... Hmm Supppose that's more than some twats absent fathers

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:38

No he didnt. He ran away 3 years ago. fuck it.

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FabbyChic · 22/05/2011 21:40

Whilst I do believe that fathers should support their children, I also believe that sometimes it is easier to just get on with it and do it yourself.

I had nothing for my children for ten years, for ten years I supported them myself because so far as I was concerned I chose to have them they were my responsibility. It was not until I could not work that the childrens father started supporting, he is really good now when he doesn;t have to be considering both my children are over 18.

Yet he is always phoning asking if I need money.

DontCallMePeanut · 22/05/2011 21:40

Sorry, I meant my xP. Yours sounds a complete nob.

DontCallMePeanut · 22/05/2011 21:42

Fabby, I'm pretty sure it takes more than one person to make a baby... Unless I misunderstood all my biology lessons...

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:42

"I chose to have them they were my responsibility."

ugh.

big kisses to you. bleeee blaz\aaaaaa blllloooo

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UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:45

john snow. get im orf

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DontCallMePeanut · 22/05/2011 21:45

Do you have any way of contacting him, Unlikely?

Ishani · 22/05/2011 21:49

You see I didn't choose to gave mine, WE did so the bastard should be contributing end. Mine makes my blood boil.

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:49

no.

I need to speak to AF or geordieminx.

have had an email

GGGGGGrowl

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Meglet · 22/05/2011 21:50

yes, he should. But you can't track him down IIRC? Sad

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 21:57

right meglet. he is

www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1540094401

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Meglet · 22/05/2011 21:59

nice to see he's having fun Angry. What an arsehole.

heliumballoons · 22/05/2011 22:07

Was thinking of sending my X-p a message that now I have his address I will be chasing a REMO through the courts - and quoting an amount he will have to pay (slightly exaggerated amount!). In the hope he'll agree to an amount.

YANBU at all. My ex uses the fact I returned to the UK as a reason not to pay. It was agreed the money would be for contact - which he did once 8 months after I returned (4 yrs ago). But I had to return because he didn't help and neither did his family. At that point it was about support. Now I just want the cash Grin

FreudianSlipper · 22/05/2011 22:08

oh yes i choose not the have a termination = i choose to have the baby so i shoudl take on all the responsibility words according to my ex. thank god we do not live in a society that puts all responsibility of children on the mothers

luckily he grew up and took responsibility. at times its still hard work you have my full sympathies op and so does your dc its not easy, lets hope as they get older they do not feel to much hurt. sometimes you do jsut have to let that anger go and the sense of what is right and what is wrong (he is firmly in the wrong) though in your position that is very very hard to do

UnlikelyAmazonian · 22/05/2011 22:17

blerugh

bliggy blaggy bleufhghghgjhg

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makingdo1 · 22/05/2011 22:18

YANBU, get him told! Men will just do what they do unless you say, look here twat head, this is your baby too...daddy meet baby, baby meet daddy, now I am off to the spa for 24 hours bye bye now.

UnlikelyAmazonian · 23/05/2011 02:27

Grin at makingdo.

Not so easy to do though. [tries to flag down plane]

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