... (not for the faint hearted - toilet functions)

[Beethoven]

My DP and I are staying in a cottage for the week. He's using the toilet, and the flush isn't getting rid of the remains. He gives it a few flushes and it isn't going anywhere. We have a bit of a chat (I know, sounds funny, but he says don't go in there for a while, etc).

He decides to use the toilet brush to push it down, and I ask him not to. He says it's the only way to get it to work, whereas I think it'll leave the brush pretty disgusting (it's not our cottage). He decides to do it anyway, but it really upsets me, to the point that I'm in tears.

It's not a massive thing, but was I unreasonable to get upset about this?

[funkychunkymunky]

Erm it's a toilet brush. You could just clean the brush. YABU no reason to be upset by it. What do you think he should have done?

[taintedpaint]

YABU, the toilet brush can be cleaned can't it?

Is this actually a serious question? I can't decide....I can't believe anyone would cry over it!

[luciemule]

You poor woman. That's disgusting and I hope he's chucking out the brush? Just a new one and keep it in the box until you leave, then replace and leave.

Then......make your DH complete his toilet functions in a public loo when you're out!

[luciemule]

I think the brush hasn't just brushed the loo - but pushed down the poo!

[mumof2children]

toilet brushes make my skin crawl, i don't have one in my own home.

[taintedpaint]

Does that make it worth crying over Lucie?

[Scuttlebutter]

Um, if you're crying over this, then poo is the least of your worries. You sound stressed and possibly depressed. If this is a regular occurrence, then time for a visit to the GP.

[MrsMadWriggle]

You're crying over the use of a loo brush?

You're on holiday. Open the wine. Chill FFS

[Beethoven]

to be honest, I was upset because I felt he hadn't listened to my objections. Although I'm not depressed, I do think it's a general part of my character that I can get upset quite easily over minor things. 5 minutes later and everything's fine.

I think he sees it as a problem for the future if we were to have children, etc, when the stresses will be much greater

[PinkieMinx]

I doubt it's just about the brush [hopefull] - does he usually ignore your reasonable protestations? DH never rarely listens to mine & I always sometimes cry out of sheer frustration!

[PinkieMinx]

x-post oops

[scottishmummy]

purpose of toilet brush is to batter the floaters and splatters

so you had a word about his depth charges, he used the bog brush.and this bugs you too

cant see the problem

are you usually so anal?

[PinkieMinx]

anal - how appropriate scot

[taintedpaint]

He doesn't need to listen to your objections over something so trivial though, surely? It's not like he's doing something that's going to impact your lives forever is it? You need to let this go. It's just a toilet brush.

If there are other issues, talk to your DP about them. You sound stressed and if you're genuinely upset over this, there's definitely an issue there. Please don't base any conversation on a toilet brush though, he will never take you seriously.

[Beethoven]

I would like to point out that it's not something I'm fulminating about a week later, just upset for five minutes after the event.

[taintedpaint]

I feel for you Beethoven, I really do. I don't like mess and I like to have a clean toilet. But honestly, to cry over a toilet brush?

[Scuttlebutter]

But you shouldn't be in tears over every minor domestic irritation. Plenty of times when I have wanted to throw entire contents of kitchen at DH, or have shed tears of rage/frustration, but only after succession of comedic/tragic domestic events.

And if it's that minor, then why are you posting about it?

[Miasma]

What did you expect him to to with it fish it out and put it in his pocket ?

[Beethoven]

I know it was unreasonable to cry over a toilet brush. I just wanted to get this off my chest a bit

[Rillyrillygoodlooking]

My sister cried once because the sellotape kept unsticking.

[Bloodymary]

Have you tried tipping a bucket full of water down the loo from a great height, (while standing on a chair).
I had the same problem years ago, and it was the only way.

[veyron]

that is what bog brushes are for!

to clean it after all you do is throw a load of bleach down the loo then put the brush in and leave for a couple of hours.

[sapphireblue]

seriously? you cried because he used a toilet brush to clean the toilet?

[HecateQueenOfWitches]

I think that life must be very difficult for you if you are so easily brought to tears and that you would probably benefit from finding a way to become less sensitive.

I am not saying that to bash you but because I used to be like you (or at least as your post is coming across). so easily upset, everything so personal - an attack on me if you don't do what I want - and it does not make for an easy life.

[diddl]

Actually, it wouldn´t make me cry, but I´d be annoyed if I suggested something & husband disregarded it.

And I wouldn´t use a toilet brush to push poo down either.