I felt like a mummy today!

(34 Posts)
Ladyofthehouse Fri 09-Nov-12 22:59:41

Hello!

As some of you will know our daughters came to live with us 3 weeks ago. I have spent the last week on my own with them as DH went back to work.

I was dreading it and I will be honest the first couple of days I would have given anything to go back to work.

But today was the first day I felt in control and like a mum! Girls up, dressed, and out to nanny and grandpas and to soft play - listening to me (mostly!) and i could pretty much preempt their thoughts (of grabbing things!) and know when they need me.

What also helped was seeing some other mums with their perfect little children admiring the girls for being so adorable!!!

Me and DH have just been having a curry and can't stop speaking about how amazing they are and how happy we are as a family now! I wouldn't say I yet feel like their mummy - but I definitely feel like a mummy. If that makes sense - hoping it will to other adoptive mummies out there!???

I know nothing about adoption but your post made me smile so much, congratulations!

QOD Fri 09-Nov-12 23:12:24

That's so lovely!

Wonderful, how lovely.

Devora Sat 10-Nov-12 00:44:27

That makes complete sense. Congratulations on your graduation into mummyhood smile

HappySunflower Sat 10-Nov-12 00:51:07

It makes total sense to me too.
This is absolutely lovely to hear, and I am so happy for you all smile

cat Sat 10-Nov-12 00:51:26

In several years that is one of the most heart warming posts I've read on MN

Hugs, kisses and best wishes to you and your new little family.

You sound amazing.

cat Sat 10-Nov-12 00:51:57

How old are your babies??

Cherrypieplum Sat 10-Nov-12 01:04:32

Aw how lovely! Congratulations!

Arseface Sat 10-Nov-12 01:06:08

You sound like a mum! You've perfectly described that lovely feeling of a day going right with the small people.

You all sound very lucky to have found each other.

Lovesoftplay Sat 10-Nov-12 06:35:43

How fantastic grin

Happiestinwellybobs Sat 10-Nov-12 07:04:13

Sounds completely normal and completely brilliant! Glad it is going well smile

I'm not an adoptive parent but, as the delightfully titled Arseface said, you sound like a Mummy to me (actually the bits about dreading filling a whole day with them and wishing you were back at work also sound very 'Mummy' wink)

Enjoy them!

Olympicrock Sat 10-Nov-12 07:31:04

Well done you x

Sleepyfergus Sat 10-Nov-12 07:33:57

Just came across this post in active convos, and like others know nothing about adoption but can imagine its a long and often difficult road to tred.

Your post is lovely, sounds like a typical mummy to me! I'm so happy that you have all found one another, your girls are so very lucky! Are they all sisters?

ilikesweetpeas Sat 10-Nov-12 07:37:37

Big congratulations! Sounds like you and your girls are very lucky to have each other, have a good weekend!

Kewcumber Sat 10-Nov-12 10:02:58

"I wouldn't say I yet feel like their mummy - but I definitely feel like a mummy."

That makes perfect sense! You never quite identify the point at which you do feel like their mummy so enjoy this first stage in feeling like a mummy.

The oddest stage for me was when DS wasn't with me in the first year - I wasn't totally comfortable with him and still like the babysitter and yet when he wasn't there it felt very wrong and I couldn't quite work out what to do with myself! Thankfully that passed!

Congratulations.

SavoyCabbage Sat 10-Nov-12 10:06:54

I am fully crying! My dds are not adopted but I remember well what I felt like realising I was somebody's mother. I have two dds too. It's lovely.

Alaro Sat 10-Nov-12 10:25:22

OP - we all feel like that, whether we have adopted or not. Congratulations <and a very un-Mnetty x>

LocoParentis Sat 10-Nov-12 10:35:44

I'm really pleased for you, it's lovely to hear it's going so well

Marrow Sat 10-Nov-12 10:37:45

That's lovely smile

Lilka Sat 10-Nov-12 11:46:13

Makes total sense. Really lovely smile

WendyGx Sat 10-Nov-12 13:53:55

I am so very pleased for you - thats just great news. Lovely!

SirBoobAlot Sat 10-Nov-12 13:58:04

I don't know your story, and know very little about adoption, but this post has made me smile so much smile

funnychic Sat 10-Nov-12 16:52:05

Aww so sweet and lovely to hear. xx

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