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Just wanted to share something my 4 year old dd said today.
We were talking about her nativity play at school, dd was saying Mary had a baby in her tummy. I said yes, it was baby Jesus.
Dd turned round and said to me, No. Baby Jesus was in xxxxx(her birth mother) tummy.
Slightly confiused four year old!!
Did make me chuckle to myself though.

aw bless her!

My DS used to think everyone in the world was adopted, and he got very confused when his teacher got pregant and kept her baby

Technically, Jesus had two fathers, God and Joseph, so she wasn't too far off the mark I suppose...!

I like the two fathers idea. Will remember that.
My eldest dd thought her birth mum was also the birth mum of all the other adopted children we knew.... One very busy lady.

reminds me of a friend of mine who had spent such a long time talking to her child about being adopted and was flummoxed when said child rushed home from school on day one saying "you'll NEVER guess, mummy... not EVERYONE is adopted!"

Telling her others stayed with birth family hadn't occurred to her!

DS and his friend were obviously discussing his adoption the other day as his friend came over to me and said "is it true that DS didn't grow in your tummy"
"yes thats right"
"so how did you get him"
"well I adopted him from a special home for babies that need to find a mummy"
" did then did you put him in your tummy"
"no because he was too big then"
Friend to Daniel nodding very widely "oh yes I've seen a baby like that in the natural History museum"

Friends nanny explains to me that there is a giant statue of a baby in the museum!

dd's favourite book when she was little was the Dr Seuss book "Horton hatches an egg", where an elephant sits on a nest for a lazy mother bird, and when the egg hatches it's a baby elephant with wings.

And the mother bird comes back to take the baby, but the baby stays with Horton the elephant.

I remember her trying to explain to her teacher when she was about 4 that it was about adoption, and the teacher being completely baffled .

It's quite amazing how talking about adoption from when they are young can make it all so "normal" for them.

I grew up assuming that all 2 child families had a birth child as the older and the younger was adopted.

That's how it was for me, so clearly it was like that for everyone else!

I'm in contact with birth mum and DD now wonders if every younger sister has a birth mum as well.