I’ve been with my company 10 years and always excelled in my roles. I head up my department and have always been trusted by my managers.
The last year I have had a new manager. my new manager is head of HR. Previous years I reported into managing directors. My boss micromanages me, calls me up to 10 times a day when I am set to in a meeting, spends hours of unscheduled time on the phone to me asking me to rework presentations to the point I get confused and frustrated and we almost always end up using my initial draft. I have previously informed them that this way of working is causing me stress and not getting the best out of me, but it has not improved.
The first working day of 2023, My manager accused me of under performing in 2022 (but didn’t tell me this once in 2022), and asked me what I want to do this year because they don’t think I am capable of delivering my role. I felt attacked, they called me out the blue and have never given me constructive feedback. During the call no valid examples were provided. My manager did not suggest how they would help me but told me to consider my position in the department. I do not understand what that means or where this has come from, I have always excelled and have received regular promotions under previous managers. I was upset as this is certainly not how I anticipated the start to 2023, and did not respond well. They told me that colleagues have been gossiping about me and my abilities but wouldn’t tell me what they have said. This upset me and felt highly unprofessional, I asked why they have told me this.
I feel like my manager is trying to push me to resign. They haven’t followed formal processes, I am not on a performance improvement plan, I have not received any constructive feedback, nothing is in writing and it is highly unprofessional for the head of HR to partake in office gossip.
I have recently discovered I am pregnant, so cannot leave my job. I am tired, nauseous and emotional. I work hard. My manager does not know I am pregnant, it’s too early to tell anyone.
As my manager is HR, I do not know who I can talk to about this or how to mend the relationship as previous attempts have failed. I do not feel motivated and have had panic attacks at work. I have had 6 managers at this company and this is the first time I have ever experienced anything like this.
this is causing me a lot of stress and I am concerned as I need to look after myself being pregnant. Is there anything I can do? Any advice particularly from those in HR would be hugely appreciated. I would have gone to HR if this had happened with any of my previous managers but can’t now. Thank you so much
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Work advice - anyone or HR reps can you please help? pregnant, reporting into a HR manager who is causing me great stress
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Lalalul · 08/01/2023 17:25
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