If you choose not to drive you are a pain in the arse

[Ophir]

Always lifts, always expecting basically chauffeured

Your experience is probably the minority of non drivers. Just say no.

Then stop blaming ALL non drivers for YOUR inability to say NO to the people in your life who take the piss!!

Why are you such a pushover?

I'm not making that point. As someone who doesn't own a car, I would never make a click and collect order and always make my own way to the airport.

As for bartering, I don't because I don't ask people to ferry me about. There's been the occasional offer of a lift home after a meet of friends. Usually it's not in their way home, so I decline. Additionally, we car free people have our uses. Friend could not get a taxi back from our Christmas lunch via local cab app as it was saying 30 mins wait. I had the Uber app, so booked one for her. I was walking home that day, she has a bad knee so can't do that. On the subject of the bad knee, if any of our friends with cars gave her a lift because of this, we would not want any payment or barter. Yes, she pay me for the Uber.

I get this! Where I work we are a small team and a member of staff constantly begs people for lifts! I have refused now and go in early just to avoid it. This colleague gets shitty and grunts at people if they don't either pick her up or drop her off if her other half cannot take her. She's nearly 40 and a parent. Why she decided to get a job that she couldn't easily get to and from beats me. I agree with OP - it is not my responsibility to chauffer other staff around. Every other day it will be begging for lifts that match her work hours. I would be embarassed if I was her age and could not drive. Fair play to the non-drivers who plan ahead, do not moan or emotionally blackmail people and get jobs close to transport links so they don't annoy others begging for lifts. But my experience of non-drivers is a total PITA. I think she is cheeky and lazy but I cannot say this as I will be accused of bullying. It is ok for her to bully people for lifts though, apparantly.

I recently had to go to some lengths to avoid getting roped in again to giving a regular weekly lift which was completely out of my way, to someone who has taken advantage of me for years asking for lifts and not ever reciprocating.

It involved me having to walk along a quiet road to a council estate where I parked my car out of sight. Quite an inconvenience but worth seeing the look of disbelief and annoyance on their face when I told them that I'd decided to sell my car and use public transport from now on.

Ha!

That might become tedious after a while.

That strikes me as something that might backfire!

CF: oh, I’ll get public transport with you/we can walk together.

Any of them seeing you with your car/car outside your house.

Sometimes I think it’s easier to just say, ‘I don’t mind a reciprocal lift share arrangement, but anything more than that is not convenient’.

Since I’ve posted this, I’ve very much stepped back from lifts and ferrying people around

Yes, I’ve put myself in the situation of the driver. Not any more!