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AIBU in having said no to neighbour's sons?

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WednesdayAddams94 · 17/07/2022 13:32

So we moved into a flat about 2 months ago with our 2 year old. The last 2/3 weeks I've had the downstairs neighbour's sons asking me repeatedly if my son can go and play with them. For reference, I don't know them at all. I have briefly said hi to their mum a few times but that is it.) At an estimate, I'd say one of them is 11 and the other one, 12/13.

I don't have an issue with these boys but I do find it slightly odd they want to spend time with a 2 y.o considering they have nothing in common. These boys are kind of known for being a bit rowdy. According to one of the other neighbours, one of them put dog poo in her letterbox and they're generally known for hanging about outside all the time, getting into trouble, vaping etc etc etc.

However, since I didn't want to make things awkward between myself and any neighbours (I have said no to them before saying we were busy etc) I said sure, let me grab my things and we can all go out for a bit. (Communal garden) by that point, the eldest was getting annoyed and said he would be taking my son out by himself?! I declined, shut the door and thought that was that.

This morning, mum comes knocking saying what am I playing at, and what my problem is. Increasingly getting angrier. Shouting, swearing, I eventually managed to get rid of mum but only because my DP had returned from the shops by this point and told her to leave or he'd involve the police. I really don't think I am being unreasonable but mum has made me feel like I am? I am also concerned that they will not leave this alone. We only moved in 2 months ago so am worried my response will have caused so many issues for us.

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CharliesMum21 · 27/07/2022 14:02

Two words - James Bulger.

You are not wrong. If she had turned up at my house I would have called the police. 2 kids wanting to play with a toddler they don't even know is so friggin cagey af! They have NOTHING in common. That they insisted on doing it without Mum, even more suss. They all might be harmless, but they are all acting like they have something to hide and Mumma, you are well within your rights to protect your child. You do not owe complete strangers a damn thing!

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commonsense61 · 27/07/2022 15:46

@WednesdayAddams94 Just explain your son aged 2 yrs old is too young to be supervised/sole charge by 11 and 12 yr olds. Maybe when he is older you will reconsider.
If someone objects to that they are a massive red flag safeguarding risk.

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MissMarplesGoddaughter · 27/07/2022 18:52

GinIronic · 17/07/2022 13:41

and me. 😦

Sadly Jamie Bulger was the first thought that came to my mind.

@WednesdayAddams94
Please do NOT for any reason allow these boys to go off anywhere with your child on their own. Let their mother shout, rage and swear at you, just ignore her. Keep your LO safe.

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KatieCelf · 27/07/2022 20:32

That’s the same thought that came into my head unfortunately. If they kept being persistent about it I’d have to phone the police tbh.

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renee1989 · 09/08/2022 09:01

Jamie Bulger GOOGLE HIM IF YOU DONT KNOW HIM
NEVER LEAVE YOUR CHILD ALONE FOR A SECOND
DONT TRUST THEIR MOTHER EITHER
LEAVE NOW!!!!!

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Tillow4ever · 09/08/2022 11:16

renee1989 · 09/08/2022 09:01

Jamie Bulger GOOGLE HIM IF YOU DONT KNOW HIM
NEVER LEAVE YOUR CHILD ALONE FOR A SECOND
DONT TRUST THEIR MOTHER EITHER
LEAVE NOW!!!!!

This thread is nearly a month old and 19 pages long. You don’t think someone might have already said Jamie/James Bulger in all that time? I think if you’d even read the first comment or two after the OP posted, you’d have seen it come up.

Also, please don’t shout - it’s very rude.

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SpeckledlyHen · 13/08/2022 17:13

renee1989 · 09/08/2022 09:01

Jamie Bulger GOOGLE HIM IF YOU DONT KNOW HIM
NEVER LEAVE YOUR CHILD ALONE FOR A SECOND
DONT TRUST THEIR MOTHER EITHER
LEAVE NOW!!!!!

Jesus Christ.. Have you ever thought about reading at least a bit of the thread before commenting.

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