My DD started regular lessons about a year ago and fell in love. I was chuffed, as I used to own ponies when younger. She joined the Pony Club at a large stables, and also did the volunteer training and volunteered a few times. Unfortunately, she’s a real introvert & definitely isn’t as confident as she needs to be be on the ground, but I was hoping the volunteering would help.
Unfortunately, a couple of times the instructors were a bit short with her, & the last time - several weeks ago now - an instructor she doesn’t know yelled at her for leading the pony in the wrong direction out of the stable. It was at the end of her shift & she was trembling & fighting back tears when I picked her up.
She hasn’t been to the stables since, and now says she’s not sure she wants to continue. She feels nauseous when she thinks about going back, and changes the subject. She admits she still loves & misses the ponies.
She knows she needs to toughen up, but she is who she is, and there’s no magic wand. The whole experience has also reminded me of my own Pony Club days. Feeling really anxious at camp, and the humiliation of being yelled at. I had hoped that things might have changed but, as I’ve explained to DD, horsey people just do have a tendency to be a bit bossy / shouty, and working with such large creatures some of it is necessary!
Any suggestions? I think she should give the volunteering a break as she’s just not confident enough on the ground, she’s tiny, and there might be an accident. More generally, the volunteering is very much ‘in at the deep end’ with unfamiliar ponies to tack up / untack, and pressure to do it quickly.
Should I try to persuade her to go back for lessons, or just accept that she’s not cut out for the horsey world? I’ve suggested a stable management lesson to ease her in, but she feels that will be worse. A share would be perfect, so she could get to know one pony and I could help her, but they’re like hen’s teeth round here.
i’ve thought about speaking to stables, but it’s such a busy place & I’m not sure what they’ll be able to do. Any suggestions? 😔
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Monteadder · 17/08/2022 04:39
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