This is my first post on here and I'm hoping to get some useful advice! I genuinely don't know what to do.
Have been having issues with my 14yo dd for the past 18 months or so. She has tried several times to commit suicide /taken overdoses/ run away etc etc. She sees CAMHS who do see her regularly but have been utterly crap IMHO. A lot of the behaviour comes across as being attention seeking etc, she obviously does have big highs and lows in mood- to be honest no one knows what's going on with her but she's all over the place with manipulating people for her own ends as it seems to me. At the moment she is waiting to be assessed to see if she is on the autistic spectrum. I don't know personally, I'm not an expert but I think it may be something else.
She recently came out as gay (which has been pretty obvious since she was about 8!) - not a problem and I'm glad she has. However she has been cultivating this friendship with a girl for the last year or so and I can only describe it as turning quite toxic over the last few months. Obviously being teenage they keep everything hidden however I have spoken the the mum of this other girl tonight and it turns out that my daughter has been emotionally blackmailing this girl, basically trying to force her to be gay (she's not)- pestering her and trying to kiss her every opportunity, telling her it can be their secret etc. Complete obsessive emotionally abusive behavior and this other girl's mum has said her dd is acting like a classic victim, saying it's her fault somehow etc when it isn't.
This other girl is basically a nice girl and has been backed into a corner- my daughter has told her she will kill herself if she leaves her etc and indeed has ended up in hospital because of it, although she has lied about it and said to everyone that's not the reason why but piecing together the information I'm pretty sure it is!! She has told me nothing herself but I have read her FB messages which basically confirm it and the other girl has done nothing wrong at all.
So anyway, I have spoke to mum of this other girl this evening who has said she asked her daughter what was going on and she was told all this, and that her daughter has told mine that she cannot handle it to which my daughter has said she will hang herself. Also, and quite rightly, the other parent is wanting to stop them from seeing each other which I quite agree with BUT I am absolutely petrified of what my daughter will do when she finds out, she is perfectly capable of doing herself serious harm. I have asked the other mum to not say anything til tomorrow and I will get to the doctors for an urgent appointment - I feel she will be a danger to herself and that actually she needs to be assessed as there is something very wrong.
Just to complicate matters, my dd is currently living at my DM most of the time- again as far as I can see it's part of a long winded attempt to get herself sent to the same school as this other girl (NOT HAPPENING!) But it makes it quite hard to keep tabs on what she is doing although mother is in the loop.
Has anyone got ANY suggestions on what to do with her??
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Kidsruinedmylife · 02/08/2016 22:50
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