Hello Mums & Dads!
I am hoping to draw on the experiences and expertise of those here who have had "problem" teenagers or those that simply have had any experience or simply those sound of head with some good advice.
As you will know by the topic this is about my teenage son. He is no ordinary teenage son, but one diagnosed, for what it is worth, with sensory processing disorder, (by one of the several people he has seen). He has whilst growing up shown signs of ADHD, ADD, Autism etc and everything else in these groups but never really any clear diagnosis and with several "experts" telling us he is perfectly normal, something they would not say had they have to live with his daily antics and frustrations. However a diagnosis is not easy and he can come across as very "normal" when he wants too and one on one he is a darling.
He is no longer 7, or 8, or 9 however.. He is now 15 and his behavior is spiraling into new directions, directions that are not taking him to good places.
In the past 2 months alone he has stolen from me, my partner and two of our younger children (their bday money). When caught he sneaks through in the middle of the night and reclaims what was momentarily within his grasp the previous evening.
He has stolen 2 boxes of fireworks which were saved for new year. My younger children did not get the fireworks display they so wanted to see.
He has stolen alcohol. And continues to do so where and when possible.
He has stolen cigarettes. And continues to do so where and when possible.
In bulk amounts, not a few here and there and the stealing carries on regardless
He has punched holes in our walls, broken a window, a door, and our car windowscreen as well as shooting my computer monitor with a toy gun, £300 down the drain.
He has not been attending school as much as he aught, and when he does he is asked to leave almost every class he is in due to disruptive behavior. He has been suspended multiple times.
He has abused old ladies.
He has threatened young boys. (He is 6 foot tall, size 36 waist and 14 stone)
He has scared motorists to the point where they have to pull over. (Amazing what you can see in their facebook accounts)
And lord knows what else that he has not been caught for.
I simply do not know what to do any more. He has issues I know, but do not misjudge their severity. Despite his ADHD/ADD style problems, he is also an intelligent young lad who with a bit of effort could overcome his problems and thrive. He is not completely stupid and knows his rights from wrong. But the road he is going down is simply not a good one, for him, myself, my partner or our other 4 children. It is the road to destruction and he has almost reached its end.
We have tried love, talking, activities, family days out, understanding and patience.
We have tried punishment, no xbox, no internet, no friends round, grounding him (he just jumps out the window)
We have tried reward systems.
However he has this "i'm not bovvered" attitude. He simply does not care. He can talk the talk, but out of earshot he is at it again, the "it" being whatever he feels like or takes his fancy at the time.
I do not know what to do. I have 5 children and he is but 1 yet takes up the majority of our time dealing with the aftermath of his antics.
My relationship with my partner is at breaking point.
My business is suffering.
My stress levels are through the roof.
And I simply, simply, simply, have no idea what to do.
Do I do jail time for him? Lock him down? Strip his room? Give him a set of gray PJ's and take all his clothes from him?
Do I let him carry on regardless?
Do I carry on with the loving approach?
Do I seek help?
Who do I seek help from?
He is 16 this year!
I am at my wits end and any and all advice would be appreciated. I have only touched upon what he gets up to and what we have tried. I could write a book on it all.
Thank you for reading.
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My teenage son is out of control
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