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Shit. Do I look "Witchy"?
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ChoporNot · 04/12/2021 19:37

Saw an ex-colleague in town today. Not seen her for c7/8 years. Bit of chit chat, small talk. And then "So you have embraced the grey. I thought of doing it in lockdown but was scared of having that witchy vibe... You're kind of rocking it though...." A bit of a pause, a change of subject and soon after we went our separate ways.

DIdn't think much of it then. But now it is digging at me. Do I look witchy? Midlength grey curls. A bit of frizz - then my curls nearly always have a bit of frizz.

Photos attached. Would normally be wash- day today - but playing sport tomorrow morning so eeking it out an extra day - so not an "insta-best-photo-possible.

Should I listen to the "Witchy" or the "Rocking it"? I know I look my age and don't really care. But I am just wondering if I need to rethink the length/style? I am nearly 50 (like days from being 50) so wondering if am over-thinking it cos of that...just having a bit of a crisis.

Honest opinions please?

Shit.  Do I look "Witchy"? Shit.  Do I look "Witchy"?
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Itsnotdeep · 05/12/2021 07:04

I don't think you look witchy - agree it's a horrible misogynistic term. I have long dark hair (I'm 51) with no grey in it yet so am properly witchy.

I think you look fab, although I would change the length of the front bit so it's all the same length - I'm hesitant about bobs for 50 year olds, but maybe it would suit you.

I think you do look a little washed out - maybe brighter lipstick and some blusher would help? I also think if you did want to go dark, it would still suit you and your colouring.

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Unmerited · 05/12/2021 06:41

@Pascal80

You are a very beautiful woman but the hairstyle is awful.

It is grey and straggly and very ageing and doesn't look right on your delicate features. The grey is too cool in tone for your skin. The front pieces are too long and unbalanced with the rest of it.

No offence - you are great looking.

I couldn’t disagree more. I feel like you’re looking at a different picture. Or have such preconceived, socialised notions about women being grey that you can’t see the reality of how amazing she looks.

Funnily enough, men don’t seem to have the same issue with being judged for grey hair.

OP you’re rocking it, entirely. I agree with the PP that said Paulina Porizcova. Also - witchy - I’d say that’s a good thing anyway. Wise women with years of knowledge - no wonder they’re disparaged!
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itisthecause · 05/12/2021 06:24

You look fabulous x

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augustusglupe · 05/12/2021 04:19

You're more than 'Rocking it'...you look fantastic!!
You have beautiful skin too!

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KosherDill · 05/12/2021 00:51

I'd kill to look like you.

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thickthighs73 · 05/12/2021 00:39

@LoveMyPiano don’t be such a bitch, you don’t know what else might be going on in this ladies life that she might just need a bit of confidence.

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PhoenixIsFlying · 05/12/2021 00:08

I think you look beautiful and your hair is just gorgeous x

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Ceramide · 04/12/2021 23:57

You look great. I think the ends of your hair might look tidier trimmed with a blunt cut. Love your curls, they remind me of Kelly McGillis looking glam in Top Gun
https://images.app.goo.gl/adSdZ6hEZ5Yh4DPZ7

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AmberLynn1536 · 04/12/2021 23:47

@nothingbutsnow

this is like de ja vu.

surely im not the only one noticing this?

No you are not alone. OP is on one of her regular “fishing”expeditions.
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holymolyguacamoles · 04/12/2021 23:33

Absolutely no need for you to be sensitive around your hair. It looks lovely
And the curls give it volume. I expect you'd look more 'witchy' if it was straight.

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3catsandcounting · 04/12/2021 23:25

Nothingbutsnow - I clicked on this thread and thought "ah yes. I recognise that face - again" 🙄

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missymousey · 04/12/2021 23:20

I'm 40 and I'd love to be rocking it like you! In fact now I know what I'm aiming for.

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LoveMyPiano · 04/12/2021 23:10

@nothingbutsnow

this is like de ja vu.

surely im not the only one noticing this?

I thought I had read similar before?
Also seems as though someone needs a few compliments.....Hmm
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AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 04/12/2021 23:10

No I think you look really nice. She sounds like an unwitting 'jellyfish' as Bridget J put it.

'Witchy' to me is kind of peppery, frizzy, frayed and long.

Your curls are coiffured nicely and the colour is grey/blonde. You look great; honest.

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StepawayfromtheBiscuittin · 04/12/2021 23:09

And happy birthday

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StepawayfromtheBiscuittin · 04/12/2021 23:08

You look fabulous OP. Rocking it for sure.
You also look like great fun. Unlike your ex colleague who is a completely miserable bitch.

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FartnissEverbeans · 04/12/2021 23:06

I think your hair is really cool. Definitely not witchy, whatever that means

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nothingbutsnow · 04/12/2021 23:01

this is like de ja vu.

surely im not the only one noticing this?

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MrsBobDylan · 04/12/2021 22:59

I am embracing the grey but I need more of it - the sides are nice and silvery but the bloody top bit is hanging onto to 'I was very blonde then my hair went to a weird flat brown colour'.

You look bloody fabulous.

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reasysteady · 04/12/2021 22:54

I've seen you post your face/hair on Mumsnet before.

It's fine, you look fine, you look like you.
Nothing like me, but guess what....I look fine too!

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StillMedusa · 04/12/2021 22:51

Trust me you don't look witchy.
I on the other hand am about to turn 54, with hair half way down my back that is salt and pepper grey....
Pass my broomstick! What's more I do not care. I love my natural colour, and it's thick and healthy .
I'd like your curls tho :)

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sweetgingercat · 04/12/2021 22:47

You look amazing. Going grey is a massive emotional journey of self acceptance and I feel for you. Your friend is misogynistic and ageist which is her problem not yours...

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Bobsyer · 04/12/2021 22:47

As a fellow curly, I can only hope once my hair goes grey it looks like yours. I love the curl pattern and the cut, the colour is lovely too.

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EightWheelGirl · 04/12/2021 22:39

I think you look good.

I doubt she’d have said it if she thought you looked witchy. More likely she was talking about how she thinks she might look. Like when somebody says “oh, I’d love to give that a go but I’d probably end up xyz.”

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AmberLynn1536 · 04/12/2021 22:38

@GlomOfNit

Wow, this is such a novelty - a MNer actually posting a photo of her face! Grin

OP, you look hot and gorgeous and your hair bloody well rocks. I am SO envious of women who are still able to maintain long hair at our age. I've had a boring bob for about ten years now (am 48) as mine won't keep any sort of condition past the top of my shoulders. I desperately want the long, curly (permed) hair of my relative youth.

As for 'witchy', I think it's sad that people characterise women over the age of, say, 45 with long greying hair as 'witchy', but I've always wanted that look! I would love to become an older woman with long grey hair.

This OP posts her picture a lot on mumsnet!
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