I'm so so so annoyed, me and DH have had a baby together who I look after 90% of the time. We sleep separately and I do the night feeds.
We have DSD 2/3 nights a week in the week and weekends, when DSD gets back the baby completely goes out of DHs mind, I am left to do everything for the baby and he does NOTHING AT ALL! He just panders to DSD like our baby doesn't exist. I ask him to have the baby for a couple of hours and he says 'how am I meant to handle two children' all I wanted was a couple of hours to myself for a change ffs
I'm so fed up of him not stepping up for our baby, I keep thinking there's single dads and mums everywhere who can manage just fine FFS I'm so angry I feel it would be easier to just be on my own, Atleast I get a break when the baby goes to bed rather than having to pander about cooking for DH.
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hhhhhm · 27/05/2022 15:38
hhhhhm · 28/05/2022 22:37
I just sometimes feel like I have my child and he has his and our child isnt his. It is so rare for him to buy our baby anything and he has made the child benefit go towards the food bill.
Onemoresleeptogonow · 27/05/2022 16:21
You smile and remind him he managed to conceive 2. The you go out. .
averythinline · 27/05/2022 15:55
You tell him he has 2 children so he needs to work it out..
Why is he not cooking...are you a servant?
myuterusistryingtokillme · 28/05/2022 12:07
He says he doesn't want to be a 'part time dad' to our baby... HE IS DOING THAT RIGHT NOW!!
Have you ever said that to him when he comes out with the part time dad line? I mean really bluntly told him that it would be little difference to your joint child because of his Disney dad behaviour now?
Tigertealeaves · 27/05/2022 16:34
So he gets time for himself when DSD isn't there (half the time) but you never get any?? Is that correct OP?
How old is DSD - she might enjoy her and dad doing some baby care together or going out together for a walk and a chat with baby in the pram.
Side note - see if your local leisure centre has a creche. Not a solution to the DP problem but the creche at our council gym/pool absolutely saved my sanity in the first 6 months when i was home alone with baby all week, and was very cheap.
MarmaladeLime · 27/05/2022 17:31
Ask what his plan is if you left him? Have his kids alternately?!
MarmaladeLime · 27/05/2022 17:32
Your baby is going to grow up to resent the DSC at this rate
MeridianB · 27/05/2022 18:32
How old is DSD, OP?
Of course he’s being an arse. It sounds like you have DSD 50% of the time or more so it’s not as if he needs tons of protected time with her.
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