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A thread for all who have DC with SN. The thread is deleted in 90 days and doesn’t show in active. The season is changing and the bar is well stocked.

@scoopofmintchocchipicecream sorry today wasn’t to be but as you say it doesn’t matter as DS1 has really gone out of his comfort zone giving it all a go. It has been funny weather the last couple of days and DD is feeling the change, dizzy, headache out of sorts etc so I wouldn’t be surprised if DS1 is feeling it too on top of exam feelings.

I am still puffing through C25K. Week 3 and I can run for 5 minutes! Chuffed.

lol! Sounds like our cats!

Does DD drink coffee? A friend of mine had low blood pressure and used to faint (falling downstairs and breaking her arm one day). Her doctor told her to have a cup of coffee in the morning to increase her blood pressure.

I know coffee can interact with ADhD meds and make people feel jittery (so DD2 said); if not I’d bring it up with the prescribing psychiatrist?

Thanks everyone re the cleaner. At least it will save money.

Well done on the running @RedRegular

@FrostySunRun I would say about the blood pressure to the doctor if she's getting dizzy.

Hope your DS got through yesterday seizure free @Zeonlywayisup Hope you have success with potatoes. My DS will eat jacket potatoes with beans and cheese, he'll eat aligot (French mashed potato with cheese and garlic), eats sausage and mash and eats roast potatoes with a Sunday roast and will eat chips with like scampi and chips or fish and chips or chicken and chips. Its not 100% of the time he will eat these, maybe 80%. He did go through a chips refusing phase but that's no bad thing. I loved the time he complained once there wasn't enough garlic in the aligot.

Hope rest of exams go well for those who have them.

We have heard from DD and she is staying in Oxford all summer which is nice for her. She is taking 2 boys from Oxford with her to Paris during the holidays to stay with 93 year old MIL and going to Henley at the start of the summer. She offered to come home to cover us for going on holiday so I've just booked a holiday to Sri Lanka again with direct flights.

DH seems to be getting very into retirement mode and quite happy and adjusting his life well. I'm looking forward to having him available all week.

@Tulipandmagnolia thats a cracking list of things your ds will eat. Mine eats quite well (and is too heavy rather than slim) but his eating is very disordered and restricted. He is learning to eat more things but it is a long intro to acceptance journey for each food and nothing is just tried iykwim. Choosing is a huge difficulty for him. It becomes an issue for him if there is any choice at all. It follows its own rules but makes no sense really. I always marvel at your ds’s diet.

I’m thinking of buying ds a laptop. He loved his Chromebook at college but I think mostly just watched cartoons on it (sigh). I’d love him to get a bit more out of tech.

My lovely neighbour opposite is moving and the new people are adding a second floor to the existing bungalow. I could cry at the thought of another year of building work. It will be right opposite DD’s bedroom, the poor girl has only just got over the last 14 months of building work.

Oh @RedRegular I'm sorry, that's horrible. I don't suppose there are grounds for objection?

DD3 really struggled in her English exam yesterday. Her special pen (which she got from her English teacher) wasn't ready for her, then it took ages to find it. During the finding process she realised that her teacher's room had almost been stripped bare (she leaves on Monday), which completely threw her. They managed to get her through it but I'll be surprised if she did well.

@Lougle no grounds for objection and I don’t object to the build just dreading the noise again. The stripped down visual must have been such a shock for DD3 she done well to carry on and enter after that.

Yes, she said she was sitting on the floor because 'her brain wouldn't brain'. They had to take her out of the room for a reset, then start again. I feel so awful that this has become her life. She would have been doing about 20 exams if she had remained in mainstream and I wouldn't have thought twice. Now, she's doing 5 exams and the stress levels are through the roof. I'm dreading Wednesday's maths after her teacher leaves on Monday.

The positive thing is though despite the major wobble she managed to go back and finish and this is something to be celebrated. I hope Wednesday goes well for her.

I remember our psychology lecturer saying, we (the class) learned better in our familiar classroom, than we would in a strange one. DD knew the script or schema for her familiar classroom, and it’s predictable she would be thrown by it looking different. Still, it’s good she was able to reset.

@RedRegular grrr for more building work.

@Lougle I’m sorry Friday’s exam didn’t go well. Well done DD3 for getting through it though.

I'm on my way home as are DH and DCs from Scout camp. I've had a very refreshing weekend with friends. Not sure about DH!
Listening to my favourite ADHD parenting podcast - which very much on topic has an episode on reading and writing in ADHD. Going to have to do some reading up!
Nice-but-ineffective English tutor has gone on mat leave so we will start in September with new tutor. Hoping she gets him - and will also be willing to do some reading up!

Thanks @Zeonlywayisup It might be worth trying a laptop. My DS has been quite resistant to them. I think he sees it as laptop = homework whereas ipads = fun.

Sorry about the exam @Lougle but good she got through it and hopefully she'll still have passed it.

Sorry about building works @RedRegular

Glad you had a good weekend @drspouse

Just spent 4 hours with DH cleaning the house then doing the garden with the silkies, all looks good but was a bit tiring, good exercise though. Loved having a snuggly singing silkie follow me round and lovely to see all the flowers. DS was in the shed and managed to tell him quite a few things and seemed to half listen - ipad was going up and down depending on whether topic was interesting to him or not. Told him about cleaners stopping (saw interesting thread on here where cleaner employed and just being paid £13.50 an hour), our holiday, his sister coming home, his sister going to Paris and DH stopping work and that we are fine for money. DH is organising a concert at the church here.

Also on another thread someone in conservation area was getting a new building and they've been asked for tree surveys. I think we may also get that requirement and that is going to rule the bedroom option out as we have a lime tree and its take the diameter at 1.5 metres and then you cannot build within 12x the radius which was 1.83metres. So that rules out both thatched options if that's right though smaller thatched one maybe able to adjust it.

We have taken DD1 to the West coast of Scotland for her annual holiday. We stay in a cottage on a country estate with its own loch and mountains. She loves it here - the scenery, the seafood…She thought we’d moved here - we both had to explain we haven’t sold our house; we are paying to use the cottage for a week. (Ten days on holiday with her is about all we can take - seizures aside, it’s ok, when she’s in a good mood, but hell on earth, if she’s stroppy and aggressive)

On the way here, we stopped at a motorway services. Unfortunately, the disabled toilet was in use for some time, so I took her in the Ladies - she was in a state of panic when a hand drier went on. Considering it’s hard to get her to use a toilet at the best of times, I have to reassure her every time now in the disabled toilet, that nobody will be using a hand drier, because there’s only us in there.

We were quite taken aback on the first day here, she got up from the breakfast table and told us “Now, you need to sort my lunch!” Luckily, I had already sorted it, by booking a seafood restaurant to get it out of her system. She’s very obsessive and when she wants something, she goes on about it all her waking hours - it’s easier to get it over and done with. It’s no wonder we look so old - our ears are worn out!

I’ve been sat in car outside exam centre for 2hrs 🫣🤞dd I’m relived that she didn’t run back out despite looking like a ghosy pale with anxiety feeling sick & terrified she’d have a panic attack going in. Thank goodness it was a quiet sitting only about 15 kids most doing further maths it looked like as I got chatting to the old boy in the door who asked one of the ladies to quietly check on her. It’s immaterial what mark she gets now as this was an epic mountain to just get her to walk through that door. So relived just hope she feels she has coped

@Tulipandmagnolia is a Chromebook an option? It’s mini laptop/ tablet hybrid. Both my DDs used them for studying. Cheapish too

Hope the holiday for Dd @BlueandWhitePorcelain is survived in one piece.
@drspouse glad scout camp went well.
Sorry the exams were difficult @Lougle @scoopofmintchocchipicecream

She came out the exam absolutely buzzing! Sounds like she smashed it and has now talked non-stop at me downloading for the last hour and it was the biggest joy and privilege to listen to her. Phew.. popping that good memory in the bank for all the really hard times over the last 3 years this has been lovely.

That's great @FrostySunRun Well done to you both.

Enjoy the holiday @BlueandWhitePorcelain

Just phoned listed property association re shed and they said we need planning permission and generally a small shed like up to e.g. 8*6 in the back of garden anything shed like with any roofing eg felt will get through but a bigger shed or closer to house they can get fussy on roofing and appearance and needs to be in keeping with house. It's at the back. We are going to do more tree measurements. Tree survey looks like it's another £500. He didn't know that much about trees but that's a conservation area thing. Hopefully the listed buildings people will give us a free 15 minutes but no luck so far. Planning is £276 to ask them pre application and then another £500 for application.

That's fantastic @FrostySunRun ! I'm so pleased for DD. What an achievement.

@BlueandWhitePorcelain I hope the holiday is more relaxing than usual and you all benefit from it.

@Tulipandmagnolia well done for shed progress. A lot to think about, it sounds like.

DD3 has coped amazingly with her teacher's last day at her school. She made her a lovely card and the words she wrote made me want to cry. Her teacher offered her a goodbye hug, which was a very generous gesture as she doesn't 'do' hugs. She's then come home and had a really good driving lesson, which is great.

DD2 did a mock driving test today. It was fairly good but the mistakes are consistent and I've told her driving instructor that she won't just pick up what she needs to do to correct them by osmosis. Her ASD means she needs explicit instruction of what 'adequate clearance' means in various situations, and how to achieve it. She literally needs him to say 'further out, bit further, not that far.... There.', so that she can understand what she has to do with the wheel to correct her position. Otherwise, her driving is really good. He's secured extra funding for another 10 hours, so I'm going to try to postpone her test. It makes no difference anyway, because her replacement car is still on order and unlikely to be here before October. So all passing her test will do is give her a pink card.

DD1 has been in a beautiful mood all day. Cooperative, doing her best to follow rules, humorous and engaging. It's like a blast from the past.

@FrostySunRun Hurrah! Well done DD. An amazing achievement.

@BlueandWhitePorcelain I hope you have a lovely holiday.

@Lougle that sounds like a really positive day. If we were closer, I would offer to swap tests. DS2 has a test booked in August and is test ready now, but we haven’t found a closer date other than two when he is on holiday with his best friend’s family. Alas, I am not local to you.

@FrostySunRun the toast fell butter up! You will sleep so well after the build up. Very happy for you both a pass will be the cherry on top. Well done DD2.

FrostySunRun great news that the exam went well. A great achievement for your DD.

lougle glad that the teacher's last day went well. I hope that bodes well for the exam on Wednesday. Good that DD1 had a happy day too.

We are still waiting for Dd's provisional licence. It has been over six months though I know others have waited longer.

Does anyone have any tips to help with Ds's sore feet? He is very hypermobile and does have orthotics but still suffers with really painful feet after a day at work.

@BlueandWhitePorcelain my ears and back are double my age. Have a fab holiday.

@NoHaudinMaWheest microwaved heat packs help DD after walking, a cylindrical shape. We got a lavender shoulder one that is the shape of a door stop but she prefers the one in the shape of an owl. Sits and rolls it under her feet. Standing on the bottom stair and hanging her heals off and also sitting down rolling a chilled plastic water bottle under her feet. Bowl of water, but that is my least favourite as it takes a bit of setting up. This might be way off from what’s good for hyper mobility though.