I just need some support and advice as im totally broken and devastated. My son 14 has severe ocd which controls the whole household. It limits his life and is hell. During the worst time last year, when things got really bad, my H decided to find a distraction and he got emotionally involved with OW at work. This devastated me, there was many red flags including he frequently lost his temper at my son in frustration (shouting etc, nothing violent) before I found out about ow (but i had been suspicious of this woman for weeks),struggling to cope with his ocd rituals etc. Last year he walked out and stayed with his mum because it became unbearable. Fast forward to now we decided to try and work on things and for a while things got better and my son has been on meds and had better support, the atmosphere has been better at home and our relationship seemed to be improving. The trust for me was not going to be easy but ive tried. All of a sudden, things have gone back to like last year. My son has regressed and the ocd is severe again and my H is behaving like he was before with even more suspicious behaviour and now hes told me he cant live here anymore because of my son and how its impacting us all. Its no excuse but i can understand some of it because the ocd is extreme. Hes still involved with the ow isnt he? Theres been many script like comments, hes accused me of being controlling , suspicious phone activity again, didnt cut her off like i asked and shes a work colleague. Hes said things like i don't back him up if he tells my son off if hes triggered. You cant tell a child off who is triggerd with ocd, they are disregulated and zoned out in rituals, however my son can get very aggressive and nasty. The whole situation is awful. In between all this H can be really helpful in the house, funny, loving and he totally gets me as a person (im ND) I just know deep down there is ow and its likely the same person, hes had enough and now using this as an excuse to get out. But we cannot go on like this. Im so worried about finances, im his carer, H works . I know its LTB time. And its definitely going ahead. My son is my priority . Im right arent I, this is the script and my son is the excuse. Theres another woman if its not the same as before.Any supportive advice appreciated, im broken 💔