Dh and I have been married 8y, together for 10y and we have 2dc, 1 and 5.
Things haven't felt right since covid / lockdown 1. We have mismatched sex drives and struggle to communicate. The mental load also weighs heavily on me despite attempts to offload / chore rotas / talks etc.
We've tried for about 2y to get things back on track and things will be ok/good for 2/3 weeks and then we descend into room mate territory or resentment will build over something.
Most recent thing has been Dh's assumption that I will do/sort anything and everything and he will not even volunteer to help. We both had a day off work Friday and yet it was ofc me who got up and did the school and nursery runs even as that's what was expected. Its never even on the table that I should get to stay in bed for once.
DH doesn't understand and thinks I am "always on at him" when I try to talk to him about anything. I've stressed that if we can't talk we've got no hope and yet he will always turn "talk" into an argument or start throwing around that it's "over"
His problem is that we don't have sex and intimacy enough and I don't compliment him enough. I've tried explaining that I need to feel safe, supported and listened to for any of that to happen.
If I am ever upset or sad he will ignore me. I cried myself to sleep last night next to him and he didn't even say anything.
I just feel massively unloved and unhappy and I don't see how we can come back from this.
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MrsChipsreturns · 19/03/2023 09:47
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