New relationship of about 4 months and all going well. I was looking at bf’s electronic device today and he asked me not to interfere with the settings; I was being careful not to and just scrolling through them out of interest. A few hours later, turns out device had an error message. I was mortified and apologies, have offered to help fix when I next see him. For context the error isn’t huge and won’t cost money to fix, just annoying. I suggested various solutions, apologised profusely etc etc.
he snapped at one of my responses (eg - “well I don’t think that’s going to work is it because it will require me being in two different places at once”) and also used the words “I did tell you not to mess with it”. He immediately apologised for being snappy and changed the subject, said he loved me etc.
iys not a massive deal and I accept I’m at fault here but feel like he’s spoken to me like a child. It’s not a big deal in the scheme of things and I have never once spoken to him like that. Not once. He has done some clumsy things at my house, spilt things etc (just once or twice and not a big deal) and I’ve always laughed it off and neevr made him feel bad for it.
how do I take this? Do I thank him for apologising, apologise myself and move on? Do I say anything? I don’t like being spoken to like a child and don’t like the tone be used at me. But he did apologise so don’t want to stew.
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Salkopetta · 23/01/2023 23:14
SunflowerTed · 26/01/2023 05:02
This must be a joke?! In our perfect world we can’t snap at our partners anymore if they’re Being bloody annoying Wtaf? !
AcrossthePond55 · 24/01/2023 01:22
See here's my thing. In the first days of a relationship we're generally on our 'best behaviour'. If he's 'snapping' at this early stage, how might his anger manifest itself once he feels 'secure' in the relationship and starts to let his guard down? So depending on what 'snapping' is, it could be a red flag.
Just because someone messed up isn't a reason to 'snap' at them, again depending on what 'snapping' is. Someone's 'snap' may be pursed lips and a 'tight' tone of voice. Another person's 'snap' may be a red face, bulging eyes, and 'snarling' comments. Yet another person's may be a look of disdain and a condescending tone. The first is 'ok'. The latter two are not, and would be red flags to me.
SunflowerTed · 26/01/2023 05:05
Hilarious
powershowerforanhour · 24/01/2023 09:38
Observe how he treats his mum. If he's snappy, impatient, patronising or generally a bit high handed with her, that'll be you in a couple of years.
powershowerforanhour · 24/01/2023 09:38
Observe how he treats his mum. If he's snappy, impatient, patronising or generally a bit high handed with her, that'll be you in a couple of years.
AcrossthePond55 · 24/01/2023 01:22
See here's my thing. In the first days of a relationship we're generally on our 'best behaviour'. If he's 'snapping' at this early stage, how might his anger manifest itself once he feels 'secure' in the relationship and starts to let his guard down? So depending on what 'snapping' is, it could be a red flag.
Just because someone messed up isn't a reason to 'snap' at them, again depending on what 'snapping' is. Someone's 'snap' may be pursed lips and a 'tight' tone of voice. Another person's 'snap' may be a red face, bulging eyes, and 'snarling' comments. Yet another person's may be a look of disdain and a condescending tone. The first is 'ok'. The latter two are not, and would be red flags to me.
ArmyofMunn · 24/01/2023 19:34
Gosh OP, people really are piling on here!
If you were criticised a lot unnecessarily as a child, of course this will hurt a bit, especially in an otherwise good relationship. I can completely understand that.
It sounds like you've got a nice relationship though, so I guess just move on from this and you should be fine.
SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 24/01/2023 11:11
You are still in the honey moon period and best behaviour time - I would not expect to be snapped at during this period.
SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 24/01/2023 11:11
You are still in the honey moon period and best behaviour time - I would not expect to be snapped at during this period.
SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 24/01/2023 11:11
You are still in the honey moon period and best behaviour time - I would not expect to be snapped at during this period.
LadyOfTheFliessssss · 23/01/2023 23:37
I can see myself snapping in this scenario.
I go by the philosophy that sometimes people do lose their temper briefly but as long as they sincerely apologise (and it wasn't abusive), I'll call it quits. I'm not perfect either and I'd hope someone wouldn't hold it against me.
Outtasteamandluck · 24/01/2023 03:28
This.
Catnary · 23/01/2023 23:29
He’s telling you he loves you after only 4 months? That’s the weird thing, not the snapping!
Catnary · 23/01/2023 23:29
He’s telling you he loves you after only 4 months? That’s the weird thing, not the snapping!
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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 24/01/2023 09:59
Well would you believe it? I thought it was just Prince Harry and I whose bins talked to us but...
amberol.co.uk/bins/educational-bins
(I like the penguin one)
Daffodilis · 24/01/2023 09:19
I want a talking bin now
TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 24/01/2023 09:04
Bin
namechange1487 · 24/01/2023 08:53
Your bun talks to you?
That's rubbish
TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 24/01/2023 07:10
I have been reminded again, by my talking bin, that this is how World War 1 started.
Well, first an argument about the changing the settings on Herman Hollerith's tabulating machine which then escalated to the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand.
So please be careful.
Catnary · 23/01/2023 23:29
He’s telling you he loves you after only 4 months? That’s the weird thing, not the snapping!
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