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tell me how to stop!!

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bitteroldhag1 · 06/08/2022 12:20

i'm not sure if this is the right place for this.
it's not a romantic thing at all
it's really about how i relate to other people generally and how to control myself.
i get so angry but cannot express it so i just think about scenarios where i confront the person i think has offended me left me out or taken advantage of me.
even i can see that that i overrracy to really insignificant things.
i sulk and refuse to speak to the person . instead send passive aggressive texts.
i actually have a brilliant life lovely husband and children . a nice home financially ok.
but i just dwell on these slights .
i know i'm driving my husband mad as he says i can't bear to hear this again.
what shall i do to stop?

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DoNotWorryBeHappy · 07/08/2022 22:42

Being aware of this problem is a good start, and understanding that it's a pattern of behaviour that you really want to change. Could you pay a counsellor to coach you through different ways to respond to these situations? That might help you feel prepared for when a situation next crops up, you'll be more confident to deal with it in the best way you can. In the meantime, be careful! Walk the walk, put these slights in an imaginary box to deal with when you are calm. Good luck xx

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