I'm very aware that there are some men out there who have a real hatred of books and who are capable of getting very angry indeed if their partners sit and read at home. My theory is that (a) they associate books with school and with being bored at school, and (b) they see books as intellectual and it makes them feel stupid if their partners engage in what they see as an intellectual activity which they themselves aren't capable of - as if their partners are somehow calling them thick by sitting down to read a book.
Likewise some partners (of either sex) feel that their other halves should sit down and watch telly with them, regardless of how moronic their choice of TV show is or how far outside their partner's range of interests it is. It's always struck me as really babyish, like they're not capable of watching TV on their own and they need someone to watch it with them. They seem to think it's part of their partner's job to watch TV with them, even if what's on TV is a bottom-of-the barrel unfunny sitcom, a live darts match or some godawful garish bit of Saturday night gameshow garbage. And yet if the situation's reversed and their partner gets to choose a TV show of a kind which doesn't appeal to them, they'll huff and puff and call it sh*t and leave the room.
I'm wondering if any Mumsnetters have spent years living in this sort of situation and whether they ended up splitting or living separate lives in the same building. I remember a TV play years ago which touched on this sort of thing; the husband, played by Kenneth Cranham, banned his wife from reading library books. As for the TV thing, that was even closer to home for me.
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Does anyone have a partner who hates them reading books or who gets angry if you don't sit and watch TV with him/her?
DeedeeDashwood · 05/08/2022 15:20
Sittingallthetime · 07/08/2022 21:16
@DeedeeDashwood With an online library account I can see my loans history from the library - you could check with yours to see if they have this too?
soberfabulous · 07/08/2022 16:47
There's an app for this so you can record all the books you read: it's called Good Reads and I love it! I read a lot so like to keep track. You can organize and save every book you've read by year.
DeedeeDashwood · 07/08/2022 15:51
I always think it's a shame that public libraries don't use computer systems that can print out a list of all the books I've ever borrowed. I'd be fascinated to be reminded of all the hundreds of books and their titles, so I can maybe read some of them again or perhaps buy the best ones off eBay. But unfortunately the computers are just basic check in/check out systems.
Yes, why is there so much unpleasantness about? Poles say that people in Poland are getting more and more obnoxious, but maybe the whole of the Western world is headed in that direction, believing it's some sort of accomplishment to be as horrible as possible. Maybe the entire world should convert to the Baha'i faith.....but you couldn't make them.
DeedeeDashwood · 07/08/2022 15:51
I always think it's a shame that public libraries don't use computer systems that can print out a list of all the books I've ever borrowed. I'd be fascinated to be reminded of all the hundreds of books and their titles, so I can maybe read some of them again or perhaps buy the best ones off eBay. But unfortunately the computers are just basic check in/check out systems.
Yes, why is there so much unpleasantness about? Poles say that people in Poland are getting more and more obnoxious, but maybe the whole of the Western world is headed in that direction, believing it's some sort of accomplishment to be as horrible as possible. Maybe the entire world should convert to the Baha'i faith.....but you couldn't make them.
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