Me (34f) and him (34m) have been seeing each other for 6 months now and we’ve been great together. He makes me laugh, he treats me great, we have long conversations where we confide in each other, we talk about future and families, have same values. We know everything about each other and get along great. However there are few things about him that l’m confused about. First Our chemistry is not there. More from his side, He doesn’t seem as he wants to be intimate with me. It happened that he kinda turned me down when l was at his place. He doesn’t kiss/touch me much. On valentines day we didn’t do anything. Recently he kinda snubbed me for his birthday. He spent it with his friends and invited me to join, but l couldn’t make it cause l was at work. When l asked to meet him alone, for dinner, he ignored me. I still never gave him his present and l only saw him once this month.
lately he’s always “busy” ..
On the other hand, he always wants me to be around his friends and family and
now, - he is eager for me to go to his brothers wedding . He says to me it’s very very important to him that l come to that wedding. Does he like me? Or does he just want to show me off to his family and needs a wedding date?
I don’t know what to think l’ve never been so confused in my life.
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Confused about a guy
Ellielikes87 · 26/06/2022 20:50
Ellielikes87 · 26/06/2022 23:16
he comes from catholic family and recently told me his parents weren’t intimate until they got married.
Ellielikes87 · 27/06/2022 01:00
Yeah not really touching or making out. We kiss goodbye every time we hang out .. buy it’s like very quick kiss. We always had such a great time hanging out that l was like “wow for the first time l’m dating a guy who’s not in it for sex”. Also he’s been so eager for me to come to his brothers wedding, since l would be abroad for the summer, he even offered to buy me plane ticket to go back and forth. I said l wont make it, and he got quite upset and hasn’t been very responsive since.. l keep feeling bad about it and l feel did something wrong there.
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forlornlorna1 · 26/06/2022 20:53
First thing that springs to my mind is he's gay. Using you for friends and family things to appear in a relationship. But you're not you're just friends. You deserve better
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