Ok, not sure where I am going with this, but going mad. Think that I have just realised this is (hopefully) not normal.
I will caveat but saying that DH has a good job and earns quite a bit of money. I work part time: good professional job, not as well paid. Job gets referred to, by DH, as a “vanity job”. Took time out - from work - when DS was younger and I think that hasn’t helped things.
Because of DH’s job, we can buy in quite a lot of help (cleaner, someone to help with the garden - not enough though, handymen occasionally).
BUT DH takes no responsibility for / interest in anything outside of work and his sports / hobbies:
- sorting out the house is me
- trying to get anything done very hard (unless literally we are leaking water or something): he has no interest in home improvements or decorating (either doing any or getting someone in).
- sofa falling apart? No interest in doing anything.
- garden, that’s me.
- fences - no interest they are falling down.
- holidays? That’s me.
- school stuff? Me
- childcare during holidays or nights out? Me
- days out? Me
- anything out? Me
- washing? Me
- too much rubbish? Need a dump run or skip? Me
- friends coming around? Only if I arrange it?
- Keeping in touch with friends? Only if I do.
- socialising with the neighbours? No interest.
- christmas? Yes, that’s all me.
- birthdays? Yes me
on and on and on and on.
everything comes from me. Complete and utter apathy on everything.
can’t see it getting better at all. Feel very sad. Don’t feel like I have a partner, just a second child.
he was born abroad: his dad is very very similar, but they are very wealthy and DH’s mum has never worked.
don’t know what I am saying, but 😔