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Only been married 4 months and I think it's over!
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MissSparkle47 · 02/12/2021 12:43

Advice needed please-
I will try to keep it short, I am feeling very stupid and embarrassed. I have been with my partner for 9 years, he doesn't really get on with my daughters aged 18 (Uni) and 20.(own house with boyfriend) Some of it is justified as they have been rude to him in the past but they have also been nice to him. They have caused me a lot of upset in the past also. We live apart as I have a flat with my job and he has a house and his 15 year old lives with him week on and week off. We sold my house last year to buy some land to build our own house (hasn't started yet) we go between his and mine. My older daughter has recently announced she is pregnant (not ideal but what can I do) the hate towards my girls seems to be getting worse and worse, he would rather I have nothing to do with them. He has now announced that when we build 'our house' my children nor grandchildren will be welcome. What on earth do I do....there is no way I could ever accept that. It is not up for negotiation apparently.. so really what choice do I have??

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BIWI · 02/12/2021 13:01

Why on earth did you marry him?! You have 5 posts on MN (in this name at least) and all of them have been asking for help with your relationship, and more than 4 months ago.

Listen to what he's telling you, and then LTB. And when you have - get some self-esteem! No-one deserves to be treated like this, and how he's dealing with your DC is awful. What a horrible man.

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nocnoc · 02/12/2021 13:01

You end the relationship and buy your own house near your daughters and have a lovely life! Wow. This is absolutely over. Tell him right now. No. You’re the one who’s out mate.

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girlmom21 · 02/12/2021 12:58

I can't believe you married him in the first place.
Divorce him.

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MushroomQueen · 02/12/2021 12:55

Jesus leave him - not up for negotiation is you seeing your children- refuse to move in with him and stay in your place and enjoy your kids and grandchildren. He can lump it or leave it- he does get to dictate your relationship with your kids wtf does he think he's doing

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SpookyMargot · 02/12/2021 12:54

Leave him. He's revealed the person he truly is.

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Birdsnesting · 02/12/2021 12:53

Why would you even have married someone who is that unpleasant to and about your daughters in the first place?

You don't have any choice. End things now.

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sommer1 · 02/12/2021 12:53

How awful, your daughters and grandkids are far more important than him, how dare he try and ban them from your house. Men come and go your flesh and blood are to stay. Sell the land and wave him off.

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HollowTalk · 02/12/2021 12:53

I hope your money is kept separate, OP? It's not in a joint account, is it?

This obviously isn't the man for you. He's horrible to your children and he is trying to control how often you see them. You need to get rid, but sort the money out first.

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GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 02/12/2021 12:51

Leave him, your girls are still important to you regardless of age, however it's the fact he's said this, made the decision with no negotiation at all. He's being very controlling.

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unname · 02/12/2021 12:50

That’s crazy and I’d be wondering if he wanted you to leave him.

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FrancescaContini · 02/12/2021 12:50

OMG!!
You leave him!! Of course!

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NugsNotDrugs · 02/12/2021 12:48

He really hasn’t given you much choice has he? He sounds like he doesn’t value your happiness at all!

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ToughTittyWhompus · 02/12/2021 12:44

No choice but to leave him.

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