Been together for 10 years, married for 7, have two kids under 6.
Marriage is just really meh. That old 'there's no spark' cliche. I get that there doesn't have to be this big swoony passion between you after 10 years together but surely there should be something.
There's no big issue like infidelity or abuse. It's just lots of little things. Like we don't bother making eachother tea or coffee in the morning. We don't cuddle or say nice things to eachother in passing. When I write a birthday or Christmas card I can hardly think of anything special to write as the feelings just don't seem to be there. We argue frequently about inconsequential things. There are lots of small things he does that I resent. I can imagine us growing older and becoming one of those miserable older couples who just live together and tolerate eachother out of habit.
My parents divorced when I was about 6 and I don't want my children to go through it. I just can't see any way forward. Is it even possible to somehow completely transform from this crappy state into a normal happy couple?! I've bought some marriage self-help books on Amazon but I'm not optimistic that anything will help us.
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Is anyone else's marriage just really... "meh" ?
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BeepOpsiePie · 28/12/2019 09:38
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